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Dear Therapist: Is It Possible to Apologize for a Sexual Assault?

Multiple men have asked that question to our advice columnist. Here is her response.
Source: Bianca Bagnarelli

Editor’s Note: This special installment of Dear Therapist diverges from the normal format, in that the question addressed does not come from an individual reader. Rather, it’s one that various men have asked our columnist Lori Gottlieb, in her inbox and in her own therapy practice: Is it possible to apologize for a sexual assault? And if so, how?

Dear Men Who Have Asked,

There are so many reasons that men might be reluctant to come forward and ask this question, much less to reflect on what they’ve done, so I admire the courage it takes to do so. I worry, too, that some people will take issue with this question and attack those who ask it,

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