The Truth About Forgiveness
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What is forgiveness and what is it not? Does forgiving someone mean that you have to have a relationship with them? Can you forgive someone who isn't even sorry? What if they don't deserve forgiveness?
All of these questions and more are answered inside this power-packed book. Come and learn the truth about forgiveness and begin your healing journey.
Meggan Larson
Meggan Larson is a wife, mother, adoptee, writer, blogger, and fierce friend. When she isn’t spending time writing, you can find her snapping pictures of the sky, advocating for adoptees and orphans, and laughing entirely too hard at memes. She lives in Canada, spends too much time on social media, and gets to spend the majority of her existence with the love of her life and three incredible children. Her goal is to create a tribe of 100,000 women who have healed through their trauma and are reaching back into the fire to pull others out of theirs.
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The Truth About Forgiveness - Meggan Larson
Forgiveness ~ What it actually is
Webster’s dictionary defines to forgive
as to cease to feel resentment against an offender, to give up claim to retaliation, and to grant relief from payment of (i.e. forgive a debt).
Forgiving someone is letting yourself off the hook. Forgiving someone releases the emotions that tie you to that individual and allows you to move on in freedom and peace. When you forgive someone, you permit yourself to stop being triggered by things that remind you of that person. It’s like letting out the breath you didn’t know you were holding. It was slowly killing you, and you didn’t even realize it. I love the saying, Choosing not to forgive someone is like drinking poison and expecting it to hurt the other person.
The truth is, it’s not hurting them; it’s hurting you. Let that sink in for a minute while I make my first point.
Unforgiveness is a joy-sucking vacuum. Have your negative feelings enriched your life or detracted from it? Have they given you extra time in your day or have they stolen precious minutes from your life? Have they made you a safe space for those around you or have they made you seem volatile? The best advice I can give is to be honest with yourself and take personal responsibility for where you’re at. No one has the power to determine how you feel about something other than yourself.
The second point I want to develop about forgiveness is that it’s a choice. Many believe that forgiveness is a feeling, but that’s simply not true. If you wait to feel like you’re ready to forgive, you may wait for an eternity. The beauty of our feelings is that they follow our will and not the other way around. I know this can feel opposite to where your experiential truth has led you, but hear me out. We have the power to create our own realities within the framework of our thoughts and words. If you don’t believe me, study quantum physics. Every single time someone hurts me I say these words out loud:
I choose to forgive (insert name here) with my will. I pray that my feelings follow quickly.
This has worked for me nearly every single time because I now know the truth of the power of my will. It is truly a freeing reality to realize that we don’t have to be tossed around by our feelings like a tree swaying in the breeze. Let me illustrate this with the following experience a client of mine had.
Callie thought she was in love with Jason. Even though she was in a committed relationship, she had bumped into someone from her past a couple of months earlier, and since then they’d been inseparable. They talked, they texted, they emailed, they did video chats. You name it, they did it. They woke up talking to each other first thing and went to bed saying goodnight to each other last. It was intense and passionate, and Callie was strongly considering leaving her partner for Jason.
It didn’t start that way of course. In the beginning, Callie was upfront about her relationship and told Jason they could only ever be friends. He quickly agreed, telling her he just wanted them to be in each other’s lives no matter how. The more they talked,