Love Has a Voice

By Robin L. L. Welch

GOD IS THE VOICE OF LOVE "God is Love" - I John 4:18 This book was inspired by God to heal relationships of all kind, not just marriages. God's plan is to ultimately bring healing to dysfunctional relationships by turning people hearts back to him where Love began. God wants people to seek him for guidance and instruction on how to really Love someone. If you believe that you have found that special person to share your life with and everything is going good but, you know deep within your soul it could be better and you would like it to be what God has planned it to be, I pray that as you read this book you can began to hear the voice of God talking to you. For those who are hoping to one day find that special someone to fulfill your life, PLEASE...wait on God. Understand that God knows what He has placed in you, and He knows that you are unique in Him. He has invested so much in you as a person. His desire is to please you and give you the desires of your heart. You must know that He has the perfect person that he's preparing for you, one that will love you in a very special way. Understand who you are, and how unique you are. (Unique means that you are the only one designed for that particular person.) That particular person is hard to find when we don't want to wait on God, so that He can lead us to them. You must decide to wait on God by telling yourself you are special, you have value, and you have worth, because you can't think more highly of someone else than you think of yourself. So, put a price on what God has placed in you, and see how much a person is willing to pay for it...don't sell yourself cheap!!! Learn to hold on to that special gift God has given you and preserve yourself for that special person God has prepared for you, to Love you with the Love that God has given them to love only you! Remember, you deserve God's best; don't settle for less! You have to listen to the Voice of Love that is in you, and that voice is God allow him to talk to you. Trust me, it's real! "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God" - Philippians 4:6-7 Real Love is out there you just have to wait on it, and with God's help it will come!!!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Page Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: Oct 9, 2018
• ISBN: 9781642988840

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Love Has a Voice

Robin L. Welch

Copyright © 2018 Robin L. Welch

All rights reserved

First Edition

Page Publishing, Inc

New York, NY

First originally published by Page Publishing, Inc 2018

ISBN 978-1-64298-885-7 (Paperback)

ISBN 978-1-64424-356-5 (Hardcover)

ISBN 978-1-64298-884-0 (Digital)

Printed in the United States of America

Table of Contents

Chapter 1

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Chapter 5

Chapter 6

Chapter 7

Chapter 8

Chapter 9

Chapter 10

Dedication

I dedicate this book to all those who feel like they are stuck in a relationship or marriage that started out with love, but now feel as though the love is gone. I want you to know that even though the love in the relationship or the marriage may seem dead, Real love never dies, Real love transcends. Just like the Bible says about having a form of godliness but denying the power thereof:

2 Timothy 3:1–9, (the Message Bible)

Difficult Times Ahead

3 ¹–⁵ Don’t be naive. There are difficult times ahead. As the end approaches, people are going to be self-absorbed, money-hungry, self-promoting, stuck-up, profane, contemptuous of parents, crude, coarse, dog-eat-dog, unbending, slanderers, impulsively wild, savage, cynical, treacherous, ruthless, bloated windbags, addicted to lust, and allergic to God. They’ll make a show of religion, but behind the scenes they’re animals. Stay clear of these people.

⁶–⁹ These are the kind of people who smooth-talk themselves into the homes of unstable and needy women and take advantage of them; women who, depressed by their sinfulness, take up with every new religious fad that calls itself truth. They get exploited every time and never really learn. These men are like those old Egyptian frauds Jannes and Jambres, who challenged Moses. They were rejects from the faith, twisted in their thinking, defying truth itself. But nothing will come of these latest impostors. Everyone will see through them, just as people saw through that Egyptian hoax.

I believe the same goes for love. I believe that most relationships have a form of love but deny the power that real love has. I believe that this love can die if it’s not built on God. I believe that there is hope and a real solution to any problem. The solution is through God, who is love—the Real Voice of Love.

My prayer is that you don’t find yourself in these scriptures, and if you do, take a risk. Try God and experience the change!

My Prayer

Father! First, I want to say thank you! Everything in me says thank you! Thank you for your love, which is the greatest love of all. God, I realize that if we want to love the right way, we have to submerge ourselves in you, and if we submerge our whole being in you, we can love the right way. God, I thank you for placing your love in me and for teaching me how to really love. Thank you for placing in me the desire to want to love past my own feelings. Thank you for showing me how to give up my dreams and desires in order for someone else to know what real love—God’s love—feels like before they leave this earth. God, because of my relationship with you, the love that you placed in me gave me strength that I never thought I had, and it gave me patience to endure what I never thought I would have to endure or be willing to endure. Thank you for every tool you directed me to—to encourage me while going through the purpose you designed just for me. I am grateful and I am humbled that you saw fit to use me to handle such an assignment. The sacrifice was great! My hopes and dreams I may never have, but just knowing that I was able to cause someone else to experience something that they thought they would never feel in life from another person was enough for me to hang in there and show them real love through God’s standards according to 1 Corinthians 13:1–8.

God, I thank you for inspiring me to tell my story. Even when I felt that I didn’t have a story to tell, more and more you kept assuring me that you had planted a story inside of me and I had to birth it. I believe that you are trying to turn our hearts back to you through our relationships with one another. I don’t want this book to be just a good read. My prayer is that the words will lift off each page and penetrate the heart of the reader to bring about a change in their personal relationship with you. I pray that every person that reads this book will be inspired to find their way back to you and decide to allow their relationships and marriages to listen to your voice and experience real love through you, the Real Voice of Love!

Foreword

Love Has a Voice is one of the most moving nonfictional stories I have ever had the privilege to read! I am so honored to be asked to endorse this book and to write this foreword!

I have known and loved this young lady since birth and have taken care of her since she was in the cradle! When Robin’s mother (my sister) died, I became the only mother she knew, and I gladly welcomed that assignment! However, our purpose in life is not always known to us, or to anyone else for that matter! Yet there is purpose for every one of us, and it is the plan of God to get us to that purpose no matter what it takes! Proverbs 19:21 says, "There are many plans in a man’s mind, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will prevail! Therefore, it is impossible to protect someone from all the pain and hurt of life in this world! Yet through it all, I am in awe of the metamorphosis that has taken place in the life of this woman of God! I have watched her grow from a frightened little girl to a petite and settled teenager and then to a mature young lady! But I could not have been prepared for what God was going to do in her life in the years to come! I was placed close to her and in her life to assist her and guide her through the pain and suffering that was to come! Having all her dreams and desires of love shattered, dreams that she always dreamed as a child! Not having the husband and child that she always desired was one of the most heartbreaking experiences I have had to witness! She has always been a serious romantic" since a little girl with her dolls as her children! She was always different from the other children that I had to babysit. She was never the crying kind of child; she played very well alone! But she was very displeased when you rearranged her surroundings; she was and is very neatly organized and clean! She had the perfect life planned when she got older, and she was not going to be deterred by anything or anyone!

I was so happy for her on the day of her wedding, but she was so sad and crying as though someone was leading her to the altar of sacrifice! I tried to comfort her but I knew her destiny, and I felt like Abraham going to sacrifice Isaac on the altar! It was such a joy to watch her as a child play house and pretend to be the greatest wife and mother in the world, and then to watch it all be neutralized and disappear slowly as the years went by in her marriage! I wanted so badly for her tears to be wrong and her questions to be answered on her wedding night! But it didn’t happen! She was ready to give her love completely, but she did not receive the love she gave!

I want to say to every reader, please do not judge the assignment that was given to Robin, but read the book and find the true love that is within you and the assigned purpose God has for you!

And I want to say to you, Robin, my dear daughter, your love, time, and sacrifice were not and are not in vain! You are just beginning to receive the rewards that God called Brownie Points for not aborting your assignment of marriage, love, and being a wife!

You will see in not many days hence that Love Has a Voice and God is that Voice of Love. His voice is going to speak into your life like the rushing of a mighty wind! Yes, there was pain behind your smile, but God said there will be a smile because of your pain! I await the testimony of true love at last!

Dr. Vanessia M. Livingston (Mom)

Acknowledgments

To my mom, Apostle Vanessia M. Livingston, who has always been there for me through it all. Mom, you have been there for me ever since I was a baby, and you have guided me through this life with God’s help. You have strength in you that I have never seen in anyone else. You are my rock! Truly, you are a woman of God and a mother of love and understanding. Thank you for making me see that my story was worth telling. You always told me that I had a story to tell, but I didn’t see it until I looked back over my life and realized that I had to put away my shame and my thoughts of failure to be able to share my story. Now that I’ve done that, I can see where my story can help someone else who may be in my situation right now, who needs to know that with God’s help, they can make it through. I believe they will have more strength and awareness than when they first entered that relationship, no matter how long or short the time they spend in it. You wanted me to let others know that they would be okay with knowing that they did all that they could do to make it work, and that they could walk away without feeling any guilt or shame, thinking they had failed. Mom, it is because of you that I remained saved and faithful to God through it all. It is because of God and the strength that is in your life that you have imparted into my life. I love you more than you will ever know for that!

To my brother Bryan, thank you for your encouragement and love. May you one day find that special lady to fulfill your life. Just follow your heart, and listen to the love in you. I’m so glad to have a brother like you to share my life with. I love you!

To my sister Vanessa, you have been my laughter in my pain. No matter how I was feeling when I was down in my spirit, you always found a way to bring me up. Thank you for looking up to me as your big sister. I hope and pray that I haven’t let you down or disappointed you in any way. I love you so much!

To my grandpa, Apostle Thomas E. Simpson Sr., whom God placed in my life at the right time, thank you for being a support to me in my darkest times. You have always been strength to me and have always had encouraging words for me. You always told me what the Word of God said about sacrifice, sufferings, faith, and wholeness. Grandpa, I love and appreciate you!

And last but not least, to my girl! My best friend, Mary E. Gunter, whom God led me to ask to assist me in the editing of my book. I thank you for sacrificing your time and patience with all the late nights with coffee and tea, even through sick times, to accomplish getting this book completed. I love you and appreciate all that you have done. I could not have finished this without you!

Introduction

God Is Love

(Sacrifice and Covenant Relationship)

1 John 4:7-10 (the Message Bible)

⁷–¹⁰ My beloved friends, let us continue to love each other since love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and experiences a relationship with God. The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love—so you can’t know him if you don’t love. This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God.

1 Corinthians 13:3–10 (the Message Bible)

³–⁷ If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.

Love cares more for others than for self.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Love doesn’t strut,

Doesn’t have a swelled head,

Doesn’t force itself on others,

Isn’t always me first,

Doesn’t fly off the handle,

Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,

Doesn’t revel when others grovel,

Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,

Puts up with anything,

Trusts God always,

Always looks for the best,

Never looks back,

But keeps going to the end.

⁸-¹⁰ Love never dies.

To Love, To Be Loved

1 John 4:17–18, 19 (the Message Bible)

¹⁷–¹⁸ God is love. When we take up permanent residence in a life of love, we live in God and God lives in us. This way, love has the run of the house, becomes at home and matures in us, so that we are free of worry on Judgment Day—our standing in the world is identical with Christ’s. There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life—fear of death, fear of judgment—is one not yet fully formed in love.

¹⁹ We, though, are going to love—love and be loved. First we were loved, now we love. He loved us first.

Ever since I was a little girl, I always had my idea of what love was. I had a fairy tale of meeting the man of my dreams (my soul mate), falling in love, getting married, having children, and living happily ever after. I’ve always been a romantic person ever since I can remember. Love is in me, and I like being in love! I always knew that I wasn’t meant to be alone; I was meant to be in love. I’ve always had love, care, and concern inside of me, and I had so much love inside of me that I knew it was possible for me to fall in love and make any man happy. At that time, I didn’t know that that love I had in me was God.

This book was inspired by God, my Father, who has encouraged me to tell my story to help those who may be in a relationship feeling that they have to adapt to less than what they deserve, and also to help those who haven’t gone through my experience but can learn from it.

To those men and women who don’t realize that God is love and that He is the voice of love in your life, you have to realize that you don’t have to settle for anything less than that love God has placed in you. You have to first trust and believe that God is love, according to 1 John 4:8, which says, He that loveth not knoweth not God, for God is love (KJV), and the Message Bible says, The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love—so you can’t know Him if you don’t love. Then you have to know that greater is He [God’s love] that is in you. Now once you believe that, you can use that love to conquer any relationship.

I pray that every reader of this book (male or female), and every relationship, be healed, delivered, and set free from any situation you may be experiencing right now, especially if you find yourself and your situation in my story. I believe that it is possible to be healed, but you must want to be healed in order to heal your relationship. I believe that it is possible to be delivered, but you must want to be delivered in order to save your relationship. I believe that it is possible to be set free.

Remember change must start from within. First, you must pray and ask God to show you yourself, because it may be you that’s the problem in the relationship. Your mate may be reacting to you and treating you the way they are because of what they may be receiving from you. Because in relationships, we feed off each other, meaning I’m going to treat you the way you treat me. If you treat me bad, I’m going to react the same way. So we’re feeding off our emotions. We must correct that! We should be saying Regardless of the way you treat me, I’m not going to feed off you, but, I’m going to feed off God, and let God deal with you. If you find something in you that you know shouldn’t be, and you know deep down it might help save your relationship, don’t be too proud to work on changing you. Because pride is your enemy. Secondly, you must pray and ask God to allow your mate to see their faults. Ask God to allow them to see themselves and have a mind to change, and if they are too proud to see that they have a problem, just keep doing what you know to do in order to keep peace long enough for God to do what He needs to do in them. God will either heal the relationship or give you a way out of it. You have to let God handle it so that there will be no drama. However, the problem is, people don’t like to wait on God. He seems to take too long in handling situations, and we end up handling them ourselves with a whole lot of unnecessary drama. I’m not saying you should leave when you really want to stay and make it work. All I’m saying is, don’t end up like me, and don’t do like I did and waste years of your life in a one-sided, unproductive, empty relationship that’s killing you emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually!

I believed that it was possible for me to be set free, but I felt that Joe needed me and that need went deeper than me just becoming his wife. I became the way he was able to see God through my love for him so that’s how I was able to stay and accept the challenges of what I had to deal with. Accepting that challenge caused me to have to build a relationship with God that I never had because I had to pray and fast to seek guidance from God on how to skillfully maneuver through the storms of my marriage without destroying the foundation of my love, the manhood, and soul of Joe. I thought that my freedom would eventually come through divorce, but that was not God’s plan for me because He knew my heart. My vows were until death do us part, not divorce do us part, and God knew that I was willing to go through what I had to in order to keep my vows. That’s why I stayed so long in an unsatisfying marriage! It took me twenty-one years to learn that if your relationship is struggling to survive, you’re emotionally beat up and mentally drained, your heart is hurting, you’re physically depleted, you’re spiritually dying, your will to love is dying, your desire to make it work is failing, you feel that you refuse to change who you are, especially if you are the same person you were when they met you, you see that there is no sign of change in your mate, you see that there is no hope in the two of you coming together to work things out, and you see that things are not getting any better but getting worse, understand that it’s okay to love them enough to set them free, set yourself free, and save the love God placed in you. Don’t allow the love God placed in you to die, and don’t give up on love because of one person. Understand that every person is different and every situation is different. Please know that God has a better person out there that He will allow to create a better situation for you and with you!

I want to impart this important wisdom in you: If you decide to set yourself free, please allow yourself space and time to completely heal from that current relationship, before getting involved in another relationship too soon. God needs time to rebuild the person you were and, in the process, build a better you and mend your broken heart. God has to restore the love that you had in you and make you whole again, and you can only begin that process through Him. And believe me, there is a process to begin healing. Once that process is complete, God will help you find real love again by positioning you in the right place, at the right time, in front of the right person that he tells you to notice or that He tells to notice you if you desire to love again. I believe that all relationships should be orchestrated by God, but the fact is, some people don’t believe that God should dictate whom they should be with and whom they shouldn’t be with. Mankind likes to make their own choices and decisions in life as a whole. God gave man the opportunity to make his own choices in life, but He did say in His Word in Proverbs 3:6, In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy path (KJV), and the Message Bible says, Don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; He’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all. (Love Has a Voice. God is Love. God is the Voice of Love!)

For those who are hoping to one day find that special someone to fulfill your life, please wait on God. Understand that God knows what He has placed in you, and He knows that you are unique in Him. He has invested so much in you as a person. His desire is to please you and give you the desires of your heart. You must know that He has the perfect person that he’s preparing for you, one that will love you in a special way. Understand who you are and how unique you are. (Unique means that you are the only one designed for that particular person.) That particular person is hard to find when we don’t want to wait on God so that He can lead us to them. You must decide to wait on God by telling yourself you are special, you have value, and you have worth, because you can’t think more highly of someone else than you think of yourself. So put a price on what God has placed in you, and see how much a person is willing to pay for it. Don’t sell yourself cheap! Learn to hold on to that special gift God has given you, and preserve yourself for that special person God has prepared for you, to love you with the love that God has given them to love only you! Remember, you deserve God’s best; don’t settle for less! You have to listen to the Voice of Love that is in you, and that voice is God. Trust me, it’s real! Real love is out there; you just have to wait on it, and it will come!

My Foundation

Chapter

I

My Family (Love, Strength, Values)

I was born and raised in Trenton, New Jersey, to Donald William and Shirley Maxine Randolph, who are both deceased now. My dad worked for the city of Trenton, and my mom was a professional beautician. As I understand it, my dad and my mom met, fell in love, got married, had two children, and divorced.

I’m quite sure much more than that happened, but I don’t have all the details of how they met, their dating, their marriage, and what ultimately caused them to call it quits and divorce. I only have bits and pieces of what happened. I believe that somewhere during their marriage they were in love, but I also believe that there was broken trust and a lot of hurt. As I see it, it seems like the love they had for each other wasn’t strong enough to handle all the unforeseen tough situations and circumstances that arose in the marriage. My mom was a beautiful woman and my dad loved her very much, but the foundation that their marriage was built on wasn’t the right foundation. They allowed their problems to dictate whether they stayed together or divorced—they chose to call it quits.

I was told that my dad was a good man and he loved my mom so much that he would get paid and bring his whole paycheck home to her. He did that until one time he let his friends persuade him not to bring his check home to her. I can’t imagine what they said to him or how they said it to him, but whatever it was, it convinced him not to bring his check home. He cashed it and went with his buddies drinking and hanging out.

Well, my mom must have confronted my dad about it. I don’t know if the discussion was that night when he got home or the next day. I don’t know if he was drunk at the time of the discussion, but he hit my mom. I believe that he had to be drunk, because hitting women in my family was off-limits. Hitting and putting your hands on a woman