Fulfil Your Spouse’S Needs - Enjoy Marriage

By Winnie Oriakhi-Omibiyi

Men and women have specific needs in a marital or any other loving relationship. These needs are very different. What a man needs is very different from what his wife might think he needs, and what a woman needs is different from what her husband might think she needs.

I have written this book with the aim of helping couples who are married. This book is for couples who feel that marriage is boring and that the excitement is gone; for couples who feel that one partner is taking the other for granted and who want more out of their marriage; and for couples who want to improve on their relationship and have a wonderful marriage. It is also for single people who desire to get married one day. It will prepare you for what marriage should be like. It will give you an idea of what to expect and what to sacrifi ce so that your marriage will last as God intended.

I feel it is time for men and women to look beyond their own specific needs and see how we can fulfil the needs of our spouses, thereby fulfilling our own. We should give our spouses what they really need and not what we think they need.




This is a timely book on the issues facing married couples. Winnie has a wealth of practical insight that will bring healing and reconciliation in marriages. She has an uncanny ability to be frank on tough issues. It has given me tools to build up my wife and create nourishing dialogues. It will also bless those who are engaged and planning to tie the knot

Pastor Parveen Singh

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Apr 8, 2013
• ISBN: 9781481789011

Winnie Oriakhi-Omibiyi

I am a Christian counselor. I have a diploma and Masters in Christian counseling psychology. I have 15 years daughter and my home is in Dagenham Essex UK.

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© 2013 by Winnie Oriakhi-Omibiyi. All rights reserved.

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Published by AuthorHouse 04/04/2013

ISBN: 978-1-4817-8899-1 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-4817-8901-1 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2013906221

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Contents

Introduction

Part I: Men

Chapter One

Chapter Two

Chapter Three

Chapter Four

Part II: Women

Chapter Five

Chapter Six

Chapter Seven

Conclusion Famous Last Words

Quiz For Men

Quiz For Women

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This book is dedicated to my late sister Mrs Regina Awani and her late husband Mr Daniel Awani.

They taught me that marriage should be enjoyed and not tolerated. May their kind and gentle souls rest in perfect peace. Amen.

Introduction

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I woke up with a start very early one morning as I felt someone groping me. It was my spouse, and that could only mean one thing. My eyes popped open, and my brain switched to no mode. My mind begged the question, When are they (men) ever going to get it? And that voice that I have come to know, love, respect, and listen to now and again said, ‘Never! They are wired that way.’

You may be wondering what it is that I want men to get. Well, it is the fact that women in general—I can hear some women saying, ‘Speak for yourself!’—do not think of sex like men do. At least, not that early in the morning. Having sexual intercourse or making love is not uppermost on a woman’s agenda or to-do list. For men to think or assume that women are willing partners in making love or having sexual intercourse at any time is a gross miscalculation.

Men and women have specific ‘needs’ in a marital or any other loving relationship. These needs are very different. What a man needs is very different from what his wife might think he needs, and what a woman needs is different from what her husband might think she needs.

I have written this book with the aim of helping couples who are married. This book is for couples who feel that marriage is boring and that the excitement is gone; for couples who feel that one partner is taking the other for granted and who want more out of their marriage; and for couples who want to improve on their relationship and have a wonderful marriage. It is also for single people who desire to get married one day. It will prepare you for what marriage should be like. It will give you an idea of what to expect and what to sacrifice so that your marriage will last as God intended.

I feel it is time for men and women to look beyond their own specific needs and see how we can fulfil the needs of our spouses, thereby fulfilling our own. We should give our spouses what they really need and not what we think they need.

I will try to clarify some issues regarding our needs as males and females. Hopefully, this will help both men and women improve on their relationships. It is important that both men (husbands) and women (wives) understand what their basic needs are respectively in a marriage. When they have this understanding, then they can satisfy the needs of their spouses. The goal here is for husbands and wives to have more understanding of their basic needs in this wonderful life journey called marriage. A better understanding will make it easier for them to enjoy their marriage and give each other what they both deserve, creating a very successful marriage.

I have divided this book into two major sections namely Men and Women. The section for men talks to them about the