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To Divorce or Not to Divorce
To Divorce or Not to Divorce
To Divorce or Not to Divorce
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To Divorce or Not to Divorce

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Husbands and wives in an unhappy marriage inevitably find themselves on the horns of a dilemma. While part of them is unable to continue to hold on, another part of them is unable to let go. In the terms that To Divorce or Not to Divorce puts it, they are unable to decide whether to go forward and end their marriage by getting a divorce or to go back and attempt to work on the problems in their marriage in an attempt to save it. That is their dilemma, and they will commonly remain frozen in indecision not only for months on end but often, for many years. It is the purpose of To Divorce or Not to Divorce to help those locked in such indecision to resolve their conflict by answering this question. Moreover, it is anticipated that they will be able to do that by the time they finish reading the book.

Why do husbands and wives have such difficulty making this decision? More importantly, why do they so often feel that the mental health professionals to whom they turned for help were not able to help them? It is the thesis of this book that the answer to both of these questions is the same. They and the mental health professionals to whom they turned to were asking the wrong question. In the terms that To Divorce or Not to Divorce puts it, they were lost because they were using the wrong road map. It was a road map that caused them to focus their attention on the symptoms of their problems rather than on their cause. The books purpose is to give them a better road map, one which will encourage them to ask the right question and, in doing so, resolve their conflict.

That is the burden of part I of the book. Part II is intended to help them once they have made that decision. Whether they decide to go forward and end their marriage or go back and address the problems in their marriage, they are going to need help. All too often, however, the help that husbands and wives get, whether from lawyers or from mental health professionals, doesnt help. On the contrary, it only makes things worse. The burden of part II is to enable them to avoid this.
LanguageEnglish
PublisherXlibris US
Release dateDec 28, 2016
ISBN9781524570811
To Divorce or Not to Divorce
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Lenard Marlow

A graduate of Colgate University and Columbia Law School, Lenard Marlow has spent most of his professional life working with divorcing husbands and wives, first as a divorce lawyer (he is a Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers) and then, for more than thirty-five years, as a divorce mediator (he is a Past President of the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation). In addition to lecturing and putting on trainings throughout the United States, Europe and South America on the subject, he has written many books about divorce mediation, including The Two Roads To Divorce; Metaphors For Mediators, and Divorce Mediation: The Conflict Between Getting It Right and Getting It Done.

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