Being a Good Husband and Father: How One Can Be a Good Husband and Father

By Lexington Nyama

This is an educational book for those who are in a relationship, whether they are married or not. As long as they are in a relationship, they need to know about these things; also it is not only for men but also for females because some women have no idea what to expect from their man. This will help them find a basic foundation of what to expect from their man, as this also helps man to know what to do for their woman. If relationships are not solved and if people are not educated about relationships, this world will never be at peace because it is all because of relationships. We have all these problems we are facing nowadays, as the worlds problem started with two people who were in a relationship, which was written in the Bible. If they both knew what their responsibilities were in their relationship, the woman would have not gone and searched for food while the man was home sitting. I believe that if couples could know what they are supposed to do and what they are not supposed to do in relationship, we will make the world a better place to live.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Dec 8, 2017
• ISBN: 9781546284314

Lexington Nyama

Lexington John Nyama a male born in Zimbabwe and raised in South Africa, raised by a single parent, my beautiful mother Precious Manyere, stayed with my father for 2 years but left because my step mother did not treat me well. I stayed with my grand mother most years of my life Peggy Mugumba, she taught me a lot and she always believed in me as she told me that I was born great after beating me for misbehaving. I also stayed with some of my relatives because my mother had no house, when she cross border to fend for me I would stay with my relatives almost all of them, I am the first born to my mother, my younger half brother passed and I am also the first born to my father, life was taugh growing up until I finished school In South Africa. I now have my own family, my beautiful wife and kids, I am an anointed Prophet of God, I studied bachelor of law but did not finish because of life complications. I studied arts, theater, speech and drama and now I am an author, and a business man as I have my own security company, I am also a good husband and father to my wife and children. Above all this I am a believer, I love God the father of my Lord and savior Jesus Christ because he let me pass through all the difficulties so that I may learn and he always have my back and I am safe in him. I do not regret going through difficulties in life as they taught me to be strong, now I am able to teach other people about life as I speak from experience. I thank all those who motivated me to be who I am now, no man is an island we need each in life.

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Foreword

I know that most men wants to be happy with their women and the only way possible is for you to know your duties and do them as men. In this book I will be sharing my knowledge, views and opinion on how to be a good husband and father. I believe this book will change your life for better by maximising you into becoming the man your wife will want spend the rest of her life with. This book is not only for men but for women also because it will help them know what to expect from their men. Read this book and apply all the teachings in your life and family for a better happy life and romantic experience in your relationship.

Synopsis

This book is a life changing book as it is teaching book. I have noticed that the world is in bad shape because men did not play the role which they are supposed to play. This world became the way it is because one man was reluctant. In Christian religion it is believed that the world was cursed because the woman listened to the snake, which is true but not entirely true because when God created a woman he said that she will be a man’s assistant. This means that a woman had to act according to the directions of the man. Adam made a mistake of letting his woman act according to her will; he also made a mistake of letting his woman be alone and search for food. This made me realise that if Adam had provided for food for his woman, the snake would have not succeeded in deceiving the woman. I have noticed that there is high level of divorce and broken homes and the problem is not with women. Men should take care of their families; they should protect them and teach them the right ways of life. Some men have lost their ways, of living which they were taught, now they think that being superior means abusing woman or using money to manipulate woman.

This book is there to remind men of their expected duties towards woman and their children. We all know that it is not possible to be a good father if you are not a good husband because a man’s first child is his wife. A man has to provide all the necessities which are needed by his woman. If a man will not be able to provide for his woman he will automatically fail to provide for his children. A man is the heard of his relationship, this means that he has to lay down the ground rules which his woman should not break. If you are a good husband you will also be a good father to your children. Most of the children who have become problem to the community came from families whereby they did not have a good father figure in their lives.

This book teaches men on how to be there for their women emotionally, mentally and physically. There are teachings which are considered to be of the foundation of every relationship. There are teachings of belonging to certain religious which is a good thing because every religion teaches about love and raising children. I believe that if men could play their part as good husbands, women will also play their part of being good wives. I do not believe that men can change this world alone without women because God knew that we men will not be able to do everything alone so he gave us beautiful creatures called women to help us. The only thing men have to do is to teach their wives the things which are expect from them as the assistant.

I believe that children are the leaders of tomorrow, without them the world will come to an end. I also believe that children are a gift from God so we have to take good care of our gifts. There is a say which says iron is bent while it is hot I believe that children should be groomed under certain rules which they have to follow and they need to be taught about them while they are still young. A father has to provide all the needs for his children and parents should not over indulge their children with things so that they may be able to appreciate things which their fathers do for them. Children have to learn to hear you saying no to some of their wants, so that they may learn to work for their wants and children can live without their wants. Above all fathers should teach their children about their background and culture because a person with no background has no future.

Being a Good Husband and Father

By Lexington Nyama

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I would like to thank God all mighty, my family and friends for inspiring me to write this book on how to be a good husband and father based on my opinion. I strongly remind you that this is my opinion on how to become a good husband and father. I have done a research and have experienced some of the things that I am writing in this book. My family has been a great motivation for me writing this book. I have seen the effects of my opinion and research on how to become a good husband and father, I believe that if other people can use them, they will change their lives for better.

I know some of you would ask me, what were the main reasons that caused me to do a research on this topic? I did a research because I had noticed that I was not a good husband to my wife and I was also not a good father to my children. After a long time of seeing my family broken, I took a journey of self-discovery and researched on what was expected of me as husband and father. Many homes are broken because men do not know what is expected from them by their families and how they should deliver on what is expected from them. There are so many reasons why men of today find it difficult to play their role. One of the reasons is that they have forsaken their culture, forgetting who they are and where they come from.

In this generation there is a high level of divorce and broken homes. Some might say it is because of the bad choices which this generation makes, some will say it is the evil spirits which are there nowadays to break homes, as it is the time of end days as believed by Christians. I can say it is their own opinion and everyone has right opinion and we cannot argue with them because that is what they think and believe. We are living in a democratic continent so everyone has right to religion and no one should discriminate other people’s belief.

My understanding is that, being a husband and a father is the result of committing into a relationship and for all relationships to work there should be love, respect and submission. Love is described in many ways in which some of them are questionable and some are so perfect in a way that they give you a glimpse of love just by the definition, in my own opinion I believe that love is spiritual bond which keeps two people no matter what they might go through. During the period of my research I noticed that all marriages from nineties (90s) going back, the level of broken homes and divorce was very low unlike the marriages from (2000) two thousand going up to this current year.

Long time ago before (90s) nineties, a man was helped to choose a wife or the parents of the man would choose a wife for him as they were also going to pay for all the dowries (lobola) and wedding expenses especially here in Africa. In Africa it is a tradition for a father to choose a wife for his son, in the bible this tradition applies. I remember the son of Abraham whose name was called Isaac; the young man’s servant was the one who found a wife for him by his father’s instruction. Isaac and his wife grew older together and gave birth to children who are also well known in the bible. The funny thing about this was that, even though the bride was chosen by the family of the groom, their marriage would last for a very long time unlike the ones of today, where by a man choose a wife by himself only to find out that their marriage will not last long.

Now if marriages of old last long even till death do them apart, where by a man finds a woman in his room and the parents would tell him that from that day onwards she was going to be his wife and that marriage would last long. This gave me an idea that love can be build where you cannot imagine building it, relationships do not last only because of love between the individuals but commitment is also an essential key in relationships, this means that if there is love with no commitment that relationship will not last because love alone is not enough. I personally have lost a woman I really loved. I never thought that I would live without them, but I did because they were not committed to our relationship so it never lasted long. I also saw couples who loved each other very much but their relationships did not last because they were not committed to what they were doing.

Well, speaking about commitment, this is my first opinion on being a good husband and a father. Let me start with being a good husband because normally you cannot become a good father before you become a good husband. It starts with you wanting to have a relationship with someone you love then you become committed to that person and to that relationship, without commitment your relationship will not last into becoming a marriage. No matter what you can do as a father you will never be a good father to your children, if you do not have a good relationship with your wife, because