So You Want to Get Married?: A Quick Guide to Help You Choose the Right Spouse

By Nick Sanchez

If a wonderful and lasting marriage is what you want this guides for you! So You Want to Get Married? is a must read for anyone currently in a serious relationship or thinking about entering into one. Initially written for his children, the author writes in a fatherly and personal way about how to avoid major issues that often lead to painful divorces. He also examines serious topics that better help you understand your potential spouse and identify your level of commitment to him/her. Through an insightful and simple process using the fingers of the hand, the author helps you think through and evaluate five critical areas everyone must consider before making a lifetime commitment to an individual. His innovative approach makes it easy for anyone to learn and remember the issues you truly need to address. With your acquired knowledge you will be better prepared to make a decision as to whether he/she is the right one for you and whether you will have a wonderful and lasting marriage. This easy to remember set of principles brings clarity to the foggy world of love and marriage. The advice in this book is the most useful I have ever heard. I tell all my single friends about it. I definitely used it when I was dating, and now that Im happily married, I see things in my husband and I can say, I knew this was the man I was marrying! For me it is a great comfort. Tirsa S. Stewart So You Want to Get Married? is a concise and memorable checklist of five of the most important aspects to consider in a mate before making the big decision of marriage. It helped me sift through many different candidates as I searched for the man of my dreams. Now that I am living my fairy tale with him, I continue to share the five finger analysis with all my single friends in hopes that they will also be able to find a wonderful, loving companion to spend life and eternity with. Arisa S. Field The Five Fingers theory is what taught me what is essential to a good marriage. It does not teach that everyone needs to be perfect---to the contrary, it teaches that all people have flaws and that is normal. The question is whether you are willing to accept and live happily with the flaws of the one you are considering spending the rest of your life with. These are five things that no man/woman should look past when considering marriage. Azalea S. Klein It was hard growing up without ever having a boyfriend until I was 23. But the five finger rule is what kept me from settling! I now see that I avoided a lot of heart ache and bad choices by never getting serious with someone who didnt meet my basic five finger criteria. I am also grateful that while my husband is not perfect, I did get all five fingers... even the pinkie!. Stacey S. Carruth

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Mar 7, 2013
• ISBN: 9781449783747

Nick Sanchez

Nick Sanchez spent the majority of his career in the software sales industry, working with people in over twenty countries in Latin America, Europe, and North America. Born and raised in the town of El Paso, Texas, he had a unique opportunity to see the cause and effect of decisions made by families from all socioeconomic classes and cultures. He has always had a passion for people, and his interest in human nature was heightened by his undergraduate studies in English at Brigham Young University, where he met his wife, Marcela. They have enjoyed a happy marriage for over thirty years and have raised their six children—five of whom are now married. Nick and his wife are grandparents of nine grandchildren and currently reside in Colorado.

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ISBN: 978-1-4497-8373-0 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-4497-8374-7 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2013902078

Printed in the United States of America

WestBow Press rev. date: 3/5/2013

Contents

Acknowledgments

Introduction

Is He the Right One?

Look at the Hand!

The Thumb—Core Ethics and Values

The Index (Pointer) Finger—Direction, Goals, and Ambition

The Middle Finger – Baggage and Problems

The Ring Finger – Family Values

The Pinky Finger – Physical Body Characteristics

Conclusion

Review Sheet

About the Author

Endnotes

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Acknowledgments

I want to thank my wife and six children for having confidence in my ideas for this booklet and for encouraging me to write it. I could not have done it without their love, inspiration, and help throughout the entire process. I also wish to thank the many friends and family members who so willingly read and made suggestions to improve it.

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Introduction

Do you feel scared or nervous when you think about whom you will marry, fearing that you could make a mistake? Marrying the wrong person could consume years of your life in pain and suffering, and ultimately break up your marriage. Divorce is running rampant, and its destructive tentacles have touched all of our lives in some way or another. Rest assured, however, that you can greatly increase your chances for a great and happy marriage by earnestly getting to know and understand those you date and befriend. Through prayer, self-reliance, and thoughtful assessment of your potential spouse, you can better prepare yourself for marriage.

Married life is sometimes hard. Everyone knows that it is full of challenges and unexpected twists and turns, and that everyone gets their share of them. To the surprise of many, a lot of the suffering associated with failed marriages can be prevented. Many people could tell you that they saw the telling signs of the cause of their failed marriage before they got married, but did not heed them at the time. Wouldn’t it be great if people could