Body Language: Build Self-Control, Stop Worrying & Self Doubt, Develop Good Habits & Become a Great Leader

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

Body Language: Build Self-Control, Stop Worrying & Self Doubt, Develop Good Habits & Become a Great Leader

If you want to Increase Self-Confidence, Eliminate Fear & Stress, Be Charismatic & Influence People, then this is your book!

This book consists of amazing tips and strategies on how to learn ways to control and learn how to discipline yourself.

It will help you build a strong, optimistic view of yourself for life. This is for all of you who have problems getting along in life. You may be a victim of bullying, abuse, lack of confidence, or something even more serious. This is your book.

What You'll Learn in Body Language: Build Self-Control, Stop Worrying & Self Doubt, Develop Good Habits & Become a Great Leader...

How to Become a Minimalist and Declutter Your Life
How to Increase Your Communication Skills
How to Accomplish Your Goals
How to Eliminate Anxiety
How to Increase Your Body Language
How to Master Your Time and Get Things Done
How to Develop Perfect Habits
How to Boost Your Self-Confidence
How to Create Inner Peace Through Mindfulness
How to Eliminate Stress, Focus Your Mind and Achieve Peace
How to Unleash The Willpower In You
How to Develop Your Self-Esteem
How to Improve Your Self-Control
And Much More...

This book will help you to identify effective methods designed to bring out your charismatic personality.  

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

The next step is to to continue striving for personal development in order to achieve holistic growth as a person. Equally necessary is the need to sustain the positive changes you have made in yourself, particularly in the way you regard your own worth and in the way you deal with the people around you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 16, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386886532

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Chapter 1 –  How to Get Rid of Anxiety and Depression

Everyone faces anxiety at one point or another, and that is normal. What is not normal is when you always feel anxiety even in situations where other people don’t usually feel it. Some cases of anxiety become too severe that it may stop you from having a good life.

The following are pointers on how to deal with the uncomfortable feeling that is anxiety:

Fight or flight. If you give in to your negative thoughts, note that it is not only you who will suffer, but your loved ones as well. Most of the time your loved ones are the ones who carry the burden of your stress. To save them from carrying such burden, eliminate it by fighting it off. You need to take responsibility for every action and emotion you have. Always realize that you have a choice, and anxiety is an option you shouldn’t choose.

Keep yourself busy. Yes, being busy is stressful, but if you can control yourself, you can reduce the stress especially if you adore what you are doing. If you focus your attention on doing things, you will think less of your worries and hence will be less anxious. Keeping still and doing nothing are two different things. Meditation is being busy at something. You can relax and relieve stress by doing so while you also relieve yourself from anxiety. Remember that even if you think of your worries all day, they won’t go away unless you do something. Worrying will just boost your tension.

Concentrate on where the anxiousness in your body is. Tension could be on your hands, abdomen, or feet. Just focus on that specific body part and get back to it whenever your attention is captured by something else. If you do this for a few minutes, it can reduce or make anxiety go away.

Keep track of positive acts. There is someone out there who needs someone like you, find him. Doing positive things for other people takes you off from problems and anxiety. Helping others in one way or another also heals you from negativity.

If you can’t find someone to lend a hand, find someone to talk to instead. This is one of the best ways to free you from anxiety. Invite friends or relatives, or family members. Go to the best place to hang out. You can talk about a lot of things or you can talk about your problems. If you cannot find someone to talk to, open your computer and enter a chat room.

Exercise is a good way to forget your problems. You can do light exercises such as mild yoga or walking. Do an activity that works best for you and do not worry about messing up your schedule. Physical activities can also reduce anxiety and stress.

Make a diary of good things that happen to you every day. This allows you to become aware of the positive things around you. You can also make a diary of your problems that cause anxiety and the possible actions you can do to beat them.

A lot of people are faithful to a supreme being or an outcome. A great way to get out of anxiety and fear is to embrace your faith. If you truly believe that everything will get better, then it will. Sometimes this is just what you need to get rid of anxiety. This also helps you realize that prayer and firm belief are powerful enough to change an outcome.

Television has various programs that can generate anxiety. If you cannot find a program that can make you feel positive, then turn the TV off. Not only will it conserve electricity, it will also protect you from being anxious.

Courage is not about having no fear; it’s about facing your fear. Fear is universal, it is present in everyone. The only difference is that, other individuals give in to fear while others face it and use it to become stronger. When you feel afraid, decide whether you’ll face it or give in to it. If you face your fear and become successful against it, your anxiety will dwindle and you will be more confident to face the same challenge in the future.

Chapter 2 - How to Improve Your Body Language

What makes charismatic people seem more fascinating and appealing isn't just how they talk, but also the way they move. Charisma as a behavioral trait is something that runs beyond words; it also extends to non-verbal kinds of communication. You should develop an eye and an ear for these types of things in order so that you can remain on top of every situation.

Essentially, it all boils down to reciprocity: treat others how you want to be treated. If you want to be treated with respect, for example, you should treat others with value, too. You do so, however, with a mindful regard to keep the dynamics of your charismatic personal. So while it is true that respect should be mutually afforded, you want to keep the upper hand of things by making certain you still project a subtext of power and retain a strong presence.

Following are some things that you can do to improve your body language:

Smile. Nothing at all eases anxiety and awkwardness between two strangers more than the sight of a smiling face. You instantly look more reliable and trustworthy when you present a smiling countenance instead of when you are visibly annoyed.

Give a solid handshake. This is indicative of self-reliance, strong-mindedness, and seriousness.

Learn to focus. When talking to another person, refrain from pulling out your phone if not settling your gaze on a far-away object. Maintain your attention to the individual you are speaking with as a form of courtesy and basic decency.

Do not be fidgety. Remain continuous. Otherwise, you end up looking more tense and nervous than you truly are.

Maintain eye contact. This is an indication that you will be listening and that you are centered on what the other individual is saying. Be cautious, however, from overdoing it. Some people are not comfortable participating in a staring competition of sorts, so much in order that they would voluntarily look somewhere else if they can't bear the awkwardness any longer.

Show that you are listening by nodding every now and then. Nothing says that you are actually listening and absorbing what's being said more than those little nods you make once in a while.

Present a polite demeanor. Refrain from raising your eyebrows, pouting your lips, wrinkling your nose, or shaking your head vigorously when you absolutely do not need to. You intend to come across as charismatic, not combative or hostile.

Do not cross your legs or arms. These are signals that you are embarrassing with the situation and that you are refusing to open yourself up to anyone present.

All the things mentioned above require constant practice. Your mastery of these things relies in large part to the consistency with which you try them out and the width of your experience. Obviously, the more used you get to these exact things, the better you become at displaying your charisma.

To improve your skills further, consider training in the mirror. Stand in front of your mirror and pretend to be talking to yourself. While doing this, monitor your own gestures, your own facial expressions, as well as your own words. If you were to rate yourself based on your ability to project assurance and positivity, then what rating will you give yourself? What areas of opportunity have to be addressed?  Aside from looking at yourself in the mirror, you can also take acting classes.

While initially you may want to fake some gestures or control your mannerisms, know these things should acquire flair of regularity. In other words, they should eventually turn into a norm so that you won't have to pretend and instead be real with yourself.

While it is true that unleashing your internal charismatic self can be done - which is not an inborn characteristic as others could have us believe - doing so nonetheless takes time, discipline, and commitment. Charisma is a learned art, one that can't be obtained over the span of a day or even a week. As such, it's important that you muster enough discipline to keep going. Indeed, with the right attitude and the right know-how to back it up, everyone can be charismatic.

Chapter 3 - How to Meditate and Live a Greater Life

The goal of meditation is to let your body relax while you focus on a thought or an empty mind for a set period of time. At first, this is quite difficult to do especially if you are a person who finds it hard to concentrate. Usually, stress comes from being confused of so many thoughts that come into your head. Such thoughts are tough to manage and they just seem to consume your energy. Meditation can help you focus on one thought at a time and resolve it before concentrating on another one. Doing so will relax your stress hormones and give your body some time to recover. You can perform that relaxation technique using just a few steps:

Sit comfortably on a chair or on the floor in your most comfortable and relaxing position. Do not slouch because it will make you drowsy.

Close your eyes. This can be difficult at first. If you cannot concentrate by closing your eyes, then you can light a candle and concentrate your eyes on it.

Do not tense any muscle group. Relax and keep them as such while you concentrate. Breathe naturally to avoid tension.

To help you concentrate more, you can keep your attention on your breathing while you close your