The Positive Book of Lives

By Poncho Malahlela

Poncho Malahlela wrote “The Positive Book of Lives” when he was 23 years old after the notice of many people views him as inspiration, inspiration to schools learners and parents in general because of remarkable things that he has done to show people that things are possible when you have faith and believe in yourself. His main concerns are families, friends and relatives that do they contribute positive things to you that will make you to prevail or they just give you negative thoughts to demoralize you.

His grandpas are praising the elephants so that makes him the grandson of the elephants, he got inspired by his own grandpa the way he was doing things by the time when he was still immature child, even though his grandpa has passed away, his grandpa left him with gift that won’t be taken away, he is a born leader with the positive attitude, a very enthusiastic personality (articulates), the way he talks and the way he does things. How could we forgot the words of our elders?

This book is for everybody, it accommodates different characters of people, people who were hopeless they be hopeful and start to “create and believe, ” he believes in appreciating things that we receive /achieve as people because that is motivation and motion to us (momentum). Families Friends and Relatives (FFRs) they have to find a closure to forgive one another by ensures that they don’t repeat the same faults that they’ve once done.

You were not born worried so why worrying this much? Kill worry and live longer!

Don’t ever give up!!! This is a really life that has challenges and believe that the challenges comes and pass.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Poncho Malahlela
• Release date: Jun 1, 2018
• ISBN: 9780463919729

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The Positive Book

of Lives

The Positive Book

of Lives

Poncho Malahlela

Copyright © 2018 Poncho Malahlela

First edition 2018

Published by Poncho Malahlela Publishing at Smashwords

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Table Of Contents

Introduction

1. Retrieve

2. Effort

3. Survivor

4. Uncomfortable

5. Learn

6. Talk

Introduction

Mr. tell us who are you? Mr. Poncho Malahlela was born in Limpopo, Lebowakgomo, I am a son of Mr. Ephraim Magate Malahlela and Mrs. Anah Ramatsimele Malahlela, both my father and mother played a very vital role in my life, they have advantaged me by ensuring that I grow up inside hands of the democratic parents, their love, respect and care has increased my positive attitude that natural is on me, they have taught me to respect other people irrespective of what age or gender.

I’m not just thanking them only, also the ones that have treated me in a good way until today. The positive friends and relatives who has shaped me by the time when heavier winds occurred (challenges).

They are happy both my mother and father because their son is positive minded person, who is a warrior and living concerned life, who believes that change is a good thing and it start from a person. I am a person who loves to help others in many ways where I can, I am a believer who gives respect back to people and I don’t take other people for granted, I like integrity.

I persevere even when the circumstances is not good, able to calculate the tests and challenges in life. The Primary School I attended is Mokgapaneng-Primary School and Secondary attended by the time when I was in Limpopo is Ramalawane high school (located in Ga-Mphahlele) and did not complete my matric at Ramalawane high, because I had a vision of completing my secondary school in Gauteng Province and I did so by ensuring that I get transferred to Chipa-Tabane Comprehensive High School (located in Cullinan) Gauteng by the time when I was about to study grade 11.

What made me to go to Gauteng wasn’t for job opportunities but nothing better than to receive the better education. I loved to studying from while I was still a child, from pre-school while I was immature child, my mother was bothered too much with things that I want to know from pre-school and also not giving her a peace mainly I liked to request her to teach me at home. I am adapting fast and concern to learn and know more, that made my teachers from pre-school to love me, some of the kids started to develop the hatred, they thought that pre-school teachers favors me and am superior than them, I’m a participator who likes to know and listening attentively where I don’t understand and then ask for better explanation am allowed to. There are many things in life that clearly we can’t be sure of but we can anticipate them.

Appreciations of life time achievement:

How to reach your goals?

It comes from the right thinking are radiant living.

So decide what you want to be,

Then hold mental picture of yourself as being that so believe that with God help the picture of yourself will come to pass.

What you really want from life you will have that chance of getting it.

It was wise question for goals are never reached,

Unless they are first specifically formed in mind.

Believe and create is basic fact of successful living,

Then you will have to do some honest research to climb an extension ladder to reach your goals.

That’s your own personality, in life there is beauty and terror all around us.

Sometimes you will have to stand up and make some positive sacrifices.

When things are not easy, why worry because you were not born worried, kill worry and live longer!

The basic secret of overcoming the worry is a substitute of faith for fear as your dominate attitude behavior, be strong, have a faith and believe in yourself.

That’s your mental attitude behavior and your own personality.

Chapter 1

Retrieve

I was born with positive attitude but it nearly gone astray because of developing friendship with friends that were negative, friends that I was sacrificing my important time for, not even noticing that I detain myself by impress them with my own time. I was spending less time on important things but having more times on things that are not logical and that contributed the lames on my previous life.

What I know is that is not easy to climb the tree but it is easy to fall from top to down after made one big mistake. Let us not be overconfidence when we do things, we can just be confidence because overconfidence ultimately make a person to start relaxing and thinking he or she got everything under good control, only to find that is a lie to himself or herself. I am talking from my own experience, by the time when I was leaving Limpopo to Gauteng province for better education I was having peer pressure that I got while I was still at secondary school in Limpopo. I’m not talking about positive peer pressure, it was negative peer pressure from people that I was closer to and mainly we get deceit by people who are close to us.

Did negative peer pressure do something good for me? No, I gained nothing but to be a loser always. It was very unfortunate of me because even at secondary school in Gauteng province, I became closer to some friends that were also negative in thinking almost like the ones that I left in Limpopo province. What I would like to indicate to people is that it is true that everybody was born with a gift but there is a possibility to lose that gift that you have been granted or your gift may remain unrecognized by you because of the way you behave as a person. Recall I said I was born with positive attitude but on my journey it ended up demoted on that time. Let’s choose the right friends (carefully), check whether they are friends that you are going to benefit good things or are they friends that are just came make your life become miserable.

I’ve been tested by the life and I am really thankful to that because those tests made me realize that I am strong, in awkward circumstances where I failed grade 11 for two times because of overconfidence and changing of subjects that I was doing in Limpopo, by being sensitive and stubborn, this one was the overconfidence that I never failed from Grade 1 to 11, started to relax not giving much attention to books like the way I was before.

Impressed with my important time, being available always in many things that involves friends, the worst part is by the time when I remember having a friend who did not even complete his secondary school attendance, I allowed that to happen and have no one to blame but to blame myself, I invited him to my life place and he invited me to his life place too. He came to my life as a destruction, and those with these kind of the disturbance won my time because I’ve wasted two years in same grade because of my wrong attitudes that I had at that time, time that will never be regained, I did accept that and change the bad attitude to better and I told myself inside my heart that I am changing by reducing and after reducing I quit. I believe people make mistakes and people change, the actions and current behaviour are able to reflect to us that a person is striving to change, then people who will to assist you they’ll come and support you, you just need to be fair to yourself.

There is something that I like about me, is that I am not the stereotyped person, I like to do things in my way, particularly the exclusive things even when I am adding the input and comes out with the unique ideas to ensure the thing I do it becomes exception. Even by the time when I was failing grade 11 I never blamed anyone for my failures, I did not blame my teachers, families, friend or relatives why do we have to blame other people when we are experiencing the hectic time? We don’t have to blame each other when the bad things happens because when the good things happen we don’t credit one another, let’s develop love and hope I would like to thank my parents for giving me support by the time when I fall because they continued to give me the positive encouragement and not only my parents but also everyone who give me the future of hope (direct and indirect).

Many of my friends that I attended school with have dropped out of school, some have just failed once and some did not even fail once but they did not complete their secondary school attendance because of their unruly mode. Through support of my parents by not losing hope on me made me to achieve my matric goal, the advice that I can give to people who are also experiencing almost similar situation as mine can be that as parent or guardian because it affect you and affect your child, that make elders to be infected by the situation as well. Let’s be patient on our children when thing are not well on their side because we don’t know what God has prepare for them on their future, What we can do is that we have to ensure that we keep on giving the positive guidance to ensure we keep them closer to us. Not like they are stupids, is just that there are things in life that contradict them when they try to prosper and they learn from there. Let us not give up on them.

My parents were patient on me, meaning while some of my friends their parents gave them the hard time (unbearable) by encouraging them to quit out of the school and be responsible men to secure something for their own families. Some did quit from school, I don’t blame their parents for pulling out of school only I also blame them because they also wanted to make quick cash before completing their secondary school attendance. Very wrong thing to the parents or families that are forcing the children to quit/drop out at school meaning while a child still enjoy to be at school and there is no expulsion from school. Families who practice this thing of pulling their kids out of school must cease to that, this is not their future and they infringe the rights of a child.

We don’t have to start making the negative decisions just because of situation is bitter, let’s be ready all the time for the things that comes as to disappoint us. We must be strong, having faith and believe. Let’s love each other and respect each other by having the sympathy and empty when we hear the sad news that happened to someone, stimulating each other on the awful circumstances, I might have being born with the positive behavior but I did not make it on my own until this far, I was shaped by the talk of people when they were talking positive or negative about things it takes a village to raise a child, why do we ignore the negative people when they talk? Why do we avoid some written things and says it is not sense. We don’t have to because if you may look careful the negative people are our keys in things because they spend more of their