Looking Beyond Behaviour to Make Connections
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With over 30 years as a teacher and principal, Margot understands the day to day experiences and challenges that are faced by educators. We are seeing kids with academic struggles and gaps. Often these gaps are due largely to unmet social or emotional needs. Margot demonstrates how you how to meet your students where they are, build a trust
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Looking Beyond Behaviour to Make Connections - Margot McKinley
Results Press
Unit 229
#180, 8601 Lincoln Blvd.
Los Angeles, California
90045
www.theresultspress.com
ISBN-13: 978-0-9988905-8-6
First Edition
Copyright © 2020 by Margot McKinley
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without the prior writer permission from the publisher. The opinions and conclusions drawn in this book are solely those of the author. The author and publisher bear no liability in connection with the use of the ideas presented.
DEDICATION
I have had the honour of working and learning beside so many amazing people. I want to thank each of them for their part of my learning journey. From my teaching practicum with a teacher who was so ahead of the curve with her passion for connecting with and making learning real for kids, to the teachers who challenged me to be clear about my values, to the superintendents who saw something bigger in me than I saw in myself, to those who pushed me beyond my comfort levels and demanded more of me, to the amazing staffs I have had the privilege of working and growing with. I say thank you.
I also want to thank my first Grade 7 class who taught me so much about the value and power of connection…I love you all.
Ashley, thank you for helping me get through the final stages of this book and understanding what I needed to say.
I am eternally grateful to each of you who have made an impact on my life.
Prologue
Growing up, I always wondered why my teachers didn’t realize I was in trouble. I wondered why someone didn’t step up and say, This child needs our help.
Why was it that no one ever saw me? No one saw I was hurting, scared or confused.
This is why I’ve become so determined to see our students, to see the students who need to be seen and yet are rarely seen. The students who fall through the cracks of our systems are the ones who need us to see them the most. They’re the ones who need to be heard and valued.
It is important as the trusted adults in their lives that we take time to understand what it is they need, to get to know them and to build a trusting relationship with them. This can make all the difference in the world for those students who are either engaged in socially unacceptable or harmful behaviours or are trying to be invisible and disappear. For some, that difference will keep them out of jail, help them find their full potential or even keep them alive. All it takes is for one person to make a positive connection to a student and make a lasting impact.
As a principal, I’ve been described as being a fierce warrior or fierce advocate for children. I am a defender and protector of children. My focus has always been what kids need. My belief is that kids’ needs come first. They deserve and need to be heard and assured that they are safe and matter. Because when they know they matter, are safe and can trust you, they will begin to grow and learn.
In this book, I want to introduce you to some of the students I have known, that we all know. Some of these stories will sound all too familiar to you. These students are in every school. Every teacher, educator, parent and social worker has dealt with students like this and has wondered what to do and how to help. Some of my stories are about specific situations or circumstances, or they may be a combination of situations. Not all my stories are success stories. They don’t all have happy endings, but they all have areas of growth and learning within them.
We all need to know we matter in life. I grew up with the belief that I did not matter, that no one saw me. It was with a fierce determination and stubbornness that I continued to grow and refused to succumb to that belief. Many others do not have the internal fortitude needed to make that move. The most important thing we can do in life is show people how important they are, that they matter to us and to the world. When we show others they matter, when we truly see them, that is where the magic happens.
As you read this book, I promise you, your perspective will change. It will have an impact on you and will shift the way you look at others. Every story may not resonate with you, but the ones that do will cause you to reflect on your own beliefs, practices and intentions about the kids with whom you come in contact every day. There are stories here that will touch your heart. You will become more intentional in the way you engage with students as a result of spending time reading this book.
It’s not a new idea. We’ve seen the Maya Angelou quote everywhere. Do the best you can until you know better. Then, when you know better, do better.
You will acquire an awareness as you read through these stories that will not only help you work and relate to your students who have experienced trauma, but you will also see how trauma impacts you personally. Your ability to see and understand reactions to trauma, whether it be your own or that of those around will increase,