Land a Man: How to Find and Keep the Love You Deserve

By Meredith Lane

Finding And Keeping The Man Of Your Dreams Is Not As Hard As You Think!

It’s not that men don’t show interest in you. But it’s never the men YOU’RE interested in who approach. Don’t worry, and don’t think that you have to settle or change who you are. You deserve to find a man who is perfect for you, and that’s what this book is here to help you with.

This Book Will Show You Proven Techniques to Land and Keep the Man of Your Dreams!

Finding real love starts with YOU. This book will begin by helping you uncover and become better acquainted with your real, authentic self. Once you have learned to truly love yourself and understand what you want in your life, you will have a better understanding of what you’re actually looking for in a mate.

In this book you will learn…

• How to prepare yourself for a lifelong commitment to another person
• How to locate the man of your dreams.
• Proven science-based tips and techniques to win him over.
• How to set boundaries to get your relationship off to a healthy start.
• How to show him your real and authentic self.
• How to communicate with your man effectively and listen actively.
• How to keep your relationship healthy, sexy, loving, and excited for the rest of your life.
• And much more!
   

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Don’t waste any more time--the man of your dreams is out there and he is waiting for you to find him! Grab your copy of Meredith Lane’s Land a Man: How to Find and Keep the Love You Deserve to uncover your authentic self, find “the one” and keep him in your life forever!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Meredith Lane
• Release date: Jul 14, 2017
• ISBN: 9781386955399

Book preview

[introduction]

why this book?

There are millions of women out there, many of whom are between lovers or are divorced or have lost their spouse or are dissatisfied with their partners or are brand new to the dating world. We all long for love and companionship, but we sometimes find connection to be elusive. We have baggage—infidelity, abuse, regret, mistrust. We see happy couples everywhere, content (and sometimes, smug, it seems) in the security of their relationship and wonder if we will EVER experience that same happiness.

If you’re reading this, chances are you’re one of those women. I was one of those women too. I eventually met and married an amazing man, but trust me when I say that, along the way, I made every mistake there is to make when it comes to dating. Those mistakes that I somehow avoided I witnessed firsthand through my girlfriends. The purpose of this book is to present to you the best methods to maneuver around those common dating mistakes and pitfalls so that you can learn to find and develop a healthy and happy relationship.

Of course, dating, like any other worthwhile pursuit, is hard, even for the savviest and most sophisticated woman. It requires courage, drive, and commitment. It forces us to step outside of our comfort zones, to get to know someone who may eventually hurt us, to allow someone into our lives who may ultimately leave us. But it’s also so fun. It’s fun to get to know new people, to laugh with your date, to expand your horizons, to learn how to be open to new things. In the end, I think most people, looking back, agree that dating, even when it doesn’t result in marriage, is worth the risk and worth the effort.

Before we begin, I want to be clear that the suggestions contained in this book are just that. Suggestions. Remember that every man and every woman is an individual with his or her own preferences, needs, and history. So apply my advice, but first, think it over and adapt it to suit yourself and your relationship. Be very honest with yourself about which strategies work well for you and your partner (or prospective partner) and which don’t. As you learn, you will become better and better at knowing intuitively what to do to best enable you to find and hang onto a happy and fulfilling relationship.

[chapter one]

what a girl wants

When I was in high school, my youth leader once instructed everyone at a youth group gathering I had attended to write down two lists. One list was to contain ten Must Have characteristics that our future spouse, and indeed all of our future relationships, must have. The other list would include ten Can’t Stands. We were to avoid at all costs partners who espoused the traits listed as Can’t Stands. I can’t remember the list of attributes I dutifully scrawled on the sheet of copy paper the youth leader passed out, but I’m sure they were rather ambitious. Must Haves: six foot tall, strong jaw line, animal lover, star athlete, kind, smart, guitar player and love song writer.

No doubt, a list of all of the must-have characteristics of your future husband, created by your high school self, probably has limited usefulness today. But I think that making a thoughtful and thorough list of the traits we find to be important in a partner can be very helpful. The exercise can help narrow our focus, delineate those traits that are important to us in a healthy relationship, and help us to weed through potential candidates more efficiently (this is starting to sound like you’re hiring an accountant, not looking for a mate, isn’t it?).

On the other hand, these lists, especially if we stick to them rigidly, can make us TOO narrowly focused, can cause us to focus too much on superficial desires and miss out on a great man who happens not to have the requisite six-pack or 150 IQ. Regardless, before we venture out into the dating world, it is very important to spend some time thinking about not only WHAT we are looking for in a partner but also WHY that particular characteristic is important to us.

step one: think about you

The first step in identifying your own Mr. Right: figuring out YOURSELF! Even the most self-aware of us can always benefit from getting to know ourselves better. And there is no better time for self-discovery than when you’re single. This is a time when you have the luxury to be selfish, to be self-focused, to reflect endlessly.

As you consider who you are and what you’re looking for in a relationship and in life, here are some things to think about:

What goals do you have?

What are you passionate about?

What women do you admire and why?

What are your hobbies and why do you enjoy them?