Secrets of Successful Friendship: Building Your Success Network Through Friendship

By Dapo Omojola

One encounter with this book will help in using your existing contacts well on the path to your destiny as well as creating other ones. Your espousal of the outlines therein will go a long way in changing your battered friendships and fostering a better relationship out of the already good ones. Some gifts, talents and desires are placed in each of us, which needs to be exposed and judiciously utilised through the instrumentality of friendship.

Since one of the topical issues of discourse ever is SUCCESS, this book tried to encourage friendship as a link to SUCCESS through the life-long attitude of building good friendship.

With a very straight forward and simple purpose, this book arrogates no false literary excellence to itself; neither does it hand down any hard and fast rules. It is however, written with the sole aim of helping people make good quality friendships with good quality inter-personal relationship.

Reading this book will definitely improve your relationships with others; your friends, spouses, neighbours, parents, employers, employees and colleagues. If you carefully apply the principles, you will not only witness an improved relationship, but also an improved self.

Written in plain and easily understandable language, the book is intended to help the reader achieve a satisfying, happy, worthwhile and successful friendship.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: May 4, 2012
• ISBN: 9781456776985

Dapo Omojola

‘Dapo Omojola has a degree in Accounting, was the Editor of Campus Image magazine, an author, a speaker and a teacher whose teaching experience over the last six years spans the baptismal class, the house fellowship and Sunday school. Worked briefly as a Journalist and has written quite a number of articles in both local and national journals. Also to his credit is a compendium of poems. He is the President of Pedaal Inc., an entrepreneur and an entrepreneur developer married to beautiful ‘Modupe and blessed with a wonderful daughter in Semiloore. He lives in Lagos, Nigeria.

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Contents

Dedication

Introduction

Friendship, What About It?

Who Is A Friend?

Chapter 1

Jolly Good Fellows

Chapter 2

Character Counts

Chapter 3

Be A People Magnet

Chapter 4

Don’t Seek A Good Friend..........

Chapter 5

Friendship Beyond Frontiers

Chapter 6

Building Your Friendship Network

Chapter 7

Success Through Friendship

Chapter 8

Recipe For Sustaining Friendship

Afterword

Friendship Quotes

Bibliography

About The Author

Dedication

For all dedicated friends.

Recipe for having friends: be one

----------Elbert Hubbard

Introduction

Friendship, What About It?

One who understands much, displays a greater simplicity of character than one who understands little---- Alexander Chase

Friendship, What About It? It’s about the oldest Institution known to man, from the medieval age, the stone age of cave-men to the jet-age which we’re now in, friendship had never been wanting. It existed between God and man, also with man and man as exemplified in the first marriage. Name it, from deceptions to betrayals, loyalties, bickering and cheatings. All the different kinds of friendship experiences had been from time immemorial; they’re still and without any element of pessimism but truism, will continue to be. But who says you can’t dare to make yours a difference!

This book is written to open your eyes of understanding, so that you can see friends and friendship correctly as being what they are.

Seeking true friendship in a world often phony and temporary as we live in today? Friendship involves recognition or familiarity with another’s personality. Friends often share similarities and dissimilarities, interests, pursuits, and passion.

Your espousal of the outlines in this book will go a long way in changing your battered friendships and fostering a better relationship out of the already good ones. Some gifts, talents and desires are placed in each of us, which needs to be exposed and judiciously utilised through the instrumentality of friendship.

So important is friendship that a day is set aside for it world over. The tradition of dedicating a day in honour of friends began in US far back as 1935; Friendship Day celebrations take place on the first Sunday of August every year. This one encounter with this book will lead a way to your using your existing contacts well on the path to your destination, as well as creating other ones.

Since one of the topical issues of discourse these days is SUCCESS, this book tried to encourage friendship as a link to SUCCESS through the life-long attitude of building good friendship.

With a very straight forward and simple purpose, this book arrogates no false literary excellence to itself; neither does it hand down any hard and fast rules. It is however, written with the sole aim of helping people to make good quality friends which by implication translates to good quality friendship.

It explicitly outlines the dos and don’ts of friendship based on personal experience and those of others much older. Written in plain and easily understandable language, the book is intended to help the reader achieve a satisfying, happy and worthwhile success through friendship.

If you’ve never pondered on the existence of friendship, this book will give you a cause for that. We are made one for another, no man claps with a hand, for whatever you desire to do, you need people. A one man band is a fallacy, for some people made the musical instruments that he plays with, a self-made millionaire is an illusionist concept, for men were involved at a stage or the other in the making of his wealth, he either made available a good or service which some people exchanged their money for!

A warning though, this book might not be your kind of book if you don’t have a simple mind. So, if your mind is entangled like an ant in a web, you had better clear the webs before you read any further.

The reading of this book will definitely improve your relationships with others; your friends, spouse, neighbours, parents, employers, employees and colleagues.

If you carefully read through this book and apply the principles, you will not only witness an improved relationship, but also an improved self.

As you read on, I hope that it speaks to your heart and ignite an unimaginable zeal in you. I pray that it provides what we all desire which is SUCCESS, this time around through friendship.

‘Dapo Omojola

(c) 2011

A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked.

- Bernard Meltzer

WHO IS A FRIEND?

A FRIEND.............

Accepts you as you are

Believes in you

Calls you just to say ‘Hi’

Doesn’t give up on you

Envisions the whole of you even the unfinished parts

Forgives your mistakes

Gives unconditionally

Helps you

Invites you over

Just to be with you

Keeps you close at heart

Loves you for who you are

Makes a difference in your life

Never judges

Offers support

Picks you up when you’re down

Quiets your fears

Raises your spirit

Says nice things about you

Tells you the truth when you need to hear it

Understands you

Values you

Walks beside you

X-plains things you don’t understand

Yells when you won’t listen, and

Zaps you back to reality

(Adapted)

Chapter 1

Jolly Good Fellows

The best way to keep your friends is not to give them away

Jolly Good Fellows they will continue to be, if they’re considerate, if at points in time they’ll stop a while to assess and re-asses their relationship. If on some occasions they’ll pause to put themselves in the other’s shoes and feel how it feels, jolly friends they’ll never seize being.

Have you ever pondered over the existence of friendship? If you hadn’t, pause for a moment, lay this book aside and do a quick think about the many whys of friendship, the good, the bad, the ugly and the beastly. Keep in mind though, that everything happens for a reason.

Then having done that, take a thought of the impact you make on people’s lives. You of course desire good friends but have you