Coping With Bullies: A Gentle Approach
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Bullies always have been and always will be. Maybe they’re damaged beings who relate to the world by brute force -“Get them before they get me.” Or, maybe they’re lost souls who have never had a chance to feel love. Or, maybe they’re just evil beings created to ruin your life.
It doesn’t matter. You’re not Jeanne D’Arc, nor are you Dr. Lister. You’re not necessarily here to save the world of pain and social ills. You've got all you can do to get through Life as well as you can.
So, there are many ways you can lift yourself up from the strangle-hold of bullies. There are many ways to - gently - remove yourself from the agony of physical and mental stress. You can sit back, focus, think on what happened, and maybe why it happened. Learn to prepare ahead for stormy weather.
Let’s begin with you.
What are you doing to bring this on? Did you do something to encourage this sickening treatment? “ME! I didn’t do anything!” Maybe yes, maybe no. Learn possible ways we invite bullying and how to offset it. Bullies often torment certain people because it’s so easy. Above all, be good to yourself and as good as possible to others. As you grow older, life does get easier, you get wiser, but it helps to have a firm under-standing of yourself, and others.
Carolyn Franklin M.A.
M. A. Communication StudiesM. A. EducationB. A. Psychology30 years voice training (San Francisco Opera)Voice/Speech improvement CoachContact Carolyn - voicedynamicscf@yahoo.com
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Coping With Bullies - Carolyn Franklin M.A.
Coping With Bullies
A Gentle Approach
Carolyn Franklin, M.A.
voicedynamicscf@yahoo.com
Copyright Carolyn Franklin M. A. 2019
All rights reserved
Contents
COPING WITH BULLIES - START
NURTURE? NATURE?
SHOULD - OR SHOULDN’T?
BULLYING 101
SOCIAL TRAINING, EXPECTATIONS
CULTURAL MENTAL SUFFERING, CONFUSION, FEAR
CULTURAL PHYSICAL SUFFERING, PAIN, FEAR
BULLYING IS A TYPE OF LOVE
TWO BASIC IDEAS TO UNDERSTAND THE POWER OF BULLIES
WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO ENCOURAGE THE BULLY?
SUPERSTITION
STOCKHOLM SYNDROME
SOCIAL MEDIA
BULLYING TODAY - BY MACHINES
WHERE NOT TO LOOK FOR HELP OR INFORMATION
THEY ARE BULLIES!!
SOME BULLIES SEEM TO BE POPULAR - DON’T BE FOOLED!
GROUPTHINK
THE CHALLENGE – MORE GROUPTHINK
COPING WITH GROUPTHINK
BULLIED FOR BEING GAY
STRATEGIES TO COPE WITH BULLIES
1. GET REVENGE ON THE BULLY– fight fire with fire!
2. STARVE
THE BULLY
3. ILLNESS - NEGATIVE PSYCHIC ENERGY:
4. UNDERSTAND THE BULLY
5. DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
6. COMPLAIN TO AUTHORITIES
7. THREAT OF PHYSICAL HARM
8. THE BIBLE IS A TWO-WAY STREET
COMMON BULLY TACTICS: HOW TO COUNTER THEM
STALKING
STAY AWAY FROM THEM! THEY ARE DANGEROUS - CRAZY!
MAKING FUN OF YOU
HIDING YOUR ITEMS
HIT YOU
QUESTIONING YOU
SET YOU UP
BREAKING, STEALING, YOUR THINGS
STAB YOU IN THE BACK
IGNORED AT LUNCH – MAKE YOU SIT ALONE
NAME CALLING
FOLLOW YOU HOME
LAUGH AT YOU
TEASE YOU
LEAVE YOU OUT OF THE TEAM
LEAVE YOU OUT OF PARTIES
BAIT YOU
SCHADENFREUDE (shah den FROY duh)
QUESTIONING YOU
USING SICKNESS TO BULLY
THE VENTRILOQUIST
ANSWERS FOR YOU - won’t let you talk
PHYSICAL FORCE
WHEN YOU FEEL ALONE LOST, LONELY, NO ONE CARES
WATCH AND SEE WHO IS NOT A BULLY
WHAT YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY SHOULD NOT DO
WHO TO ASK FOR HELP
FINALLY, WHAT TO DO FOR YOU
CAN WE SUE THE BULLIES?
FORGIVENESS
WHEN ALL ELSE FAILS…
CONCLUSION
DESIDERATA - Words for Life
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
OTHER BOOKS BY CAROLYN FRANKLIN
When you’re born into this world you come in with pretty much - nothing. You’re an adorable baby that eats and sleeps - that’s it. You eat and sleep. If you’re cold, you yell and someone gets you warm. If you’re hungry, you yell, and someone gets you a nice, warm meal. If you’re wet, you yell and someone gets you dry. In between cold, hungry and wet, you sleep.
Life is a breeze. No problems.
For the first year, things go pretty much as they should - you yell and get what you want. Hey, this is easy!
Then, things seem to go haywire. You’re crawling on the floor on the soft, oriental rug, when, OW! Something hit you on the head!
You stop, mid-crawl and yell! No, not just YELL! You sit there, furious and open that big mouth with the two teeth and CRY and YELL! Tears gush out of your mouth and your little body is rigid with anger and pain!
You bumped your head on the piano leg. A piano leg is made of something hard, not soft like Mommie - really hard - and it hurts!
Mommie picks you up and makes the hurt get better.
Later, you’re somewhere and lots of other children are there, too. It’s a big room with space, big windows, and toys. You see a big, red ball rolling on the floor. You want it, you get it, you’re playing with it when - suddenly! Some other person wants the ball and takes it away!
What!
You’re indignant! You had that ball! You were playing with that ball! and someone took it away from you - and the big people don’t seem to care!
Where’s Mommie!!
You’ve been abandoned!
That was your first experience at being bullied. Someone took the red ball and no Mommy came to help you.
How do you react?
Do you sit and cry?
Do you sit, stunned, wondering what happened?
Do you go after the ball to get it back?
Do you expect a big person to get the ball back for you?
Do you give up and look for something else to play with?
By the time you’re two years old, you’re pretty much who you’re going to be.
NURTURE? NATURE?
Some children are born with aggressive tendencies, some are born quiet, receptive, slow to anger.
Some children have a great deal of energy, of curiosity. They can’t sit still; they’re constantly pulling at something to see what it is, take it apart; they examine those parts and focus intently on how they work.
One of my friends has two sons, one is 5, a really sweet child. The other is 2 years of energy, determination, focus and the strength of a pit bull.
We tried to visit, impossible. The 2 year old was, literally, tearing my house apart. He tore down my outdoor thermometer from the wall, broke it open to see how it worked. He tried to climb over the deck railing to look at the patio below. He opened the cupboard doors to see what was inside, took everything out, scattered what