Stop Simpin- Why Men Don't Need Finance To Get Romance Second Edition

By Shawn James

What is a SIMP? A Simp is a man who puts himself in a submissive position under women in the hopes of winning them over.

In this eBook readers will learn why the Simp’s dysfunctional approaches to life leaves men stranded in a vicious cycle where they winds up being used and exploited by predatory women. Over the course of the book readers will learn why they shouldn’t submit to women in relationships and how to break free of this destructive life paradigm and adopt healthier approaches to courting women and having relationships with the opposite sex.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Shawn James
• Release date: May 14, 2015
• ISBN: 9781311780195

Shawn James

Shawn James is the author of over seventy Books. A graduate of Monroe College he's been writing fiction and nonfiction for twenty years.

Book preview

Chapter 1

Definition of a Simp

What is a SIMP? A Simp is a man who puts himself in a submissive position under women in the hopes of winning them over.

A Simp is the kind of guy who never asks a woman she has to offer him in a relationship, but insists on giving her everything he has in the hopes she’ll be happy with him.

Simps are the kind of guys who spends lots and lots of money in the hopes of getting a woman’s affection. Believing they have to agree and co-sign with everything a woman says and does in the hopes of getting into her pants, a Simp is the guy with only one opinion: That of the woman he’s pursuing.

Who is a Simp?

That guy flashing the expensive Smartphone for everyone to see.

The dude driving around in the expensive luxury SUV with the twenty-inch rims and subwoofer speakers pumping loud for half the neighborhood to hear.

The guy dressed in the most expensive designer clothes anxiously looking around to see what women are noticing him.

The guy who pines eagerly for the attractive woman at work but is just a friend,

The guy who hangs out at the strip bar who is getting closer to one of the dancers,

Or the two dudes fighting over the girl at the club on a Saturday night.

At one time in every boy’s life a he’s been a Simp for a girl. Some call it puppy love, others a crush. Usually it’s a phase boys grow out of during adolescence. Most boys take the lessons learned from those early failed romantic experiences and apply it to their future relationships with women as they grow up to become men.

After they learn those hard life lessons, most boys stop Simpin (kissing up to women and spending lots of money on them) at an early age. Usually most stop around in their mid to late teens and some later starters around 21.

However, some boys never learn.

And as those boys grow in manhood they take this dysfunctional pattern of behavior with them to the grave. Stranded in a state of mental and emotional arrested development they wind up stuck in a vicious cycle where they make the same mistakes with women over and over again.

Why should a man stop being a Simp? As stated before, this is a dysfunctional pattern of behavior. It prevents men from having healthy relationships with women. It makes men and women adopt a life paradigm where they wind up stranded in a perpetual state of misery.

And life is just too short to be miserable.

Can a man stop being a Simp? Of course anyone can change. All it takes is for a man to acknowledge his pattern of self-destructive behavior and make efforts to correct it. It won’t be easy, but once a man overcomes his self-destructive pattern of behavior he can go on to have a healthy balanced relationship with a woman who will see him as an equal partner instead of as a human ATM machine and a joke.

Chapter 2

How a Man Becomes A Simp

How does a man become a Simp? While every boy has been a Simp once in their lives for a girl, the men who grow up to become Simps in adulthood usually doesn’t have a strong male figure in their lives to model manhood for him. So they never learn the natural healthy way to have a relationship with a woman.

The first way a boy grows up to become a Simp is growing up in a single mother household. Usually in single mother households boys grow up seeing women as the head of the family. And as he grows up seeing her as the leader of the household he naturally learns how to submit to women and defer to their leadership. As he grows older he believes that all relationships are on a woman’s terms and he has to make every effort to give her what she wants in order to get what he wants.

The Second way a boy grows up to become a Simp is also by growing up in a single mother household. And after hearing all the horror stories about his father mistreating his mother or witnessing his father mistreat his mother, he vows to not be the same kind of man he was told his father was. Some even vow to be a better man than their father was. Unable to separate the past from the present, these men make every effort to treat their girlfriends better than their mothers treated their fathers.

The Third way a boy grows up to become a Simp is in a household with a father who himself is a Simp. In these homes this weak man models submissive behavior in his social interactions with the boy’s mother and with other women in the community. So the boy himself grows up learning that being a submissive man is supposed to be the socially acceptable way for a man to behave.

The Fourth way a boy grows up to become a Simp is by interacting socially with large groups of boys and men from single mother and dysfunctional two-parent households where the boys and men themselves are Simps. Usually in these cases a perfectly healthy boy or young man is pressured by peers into believing that he is not acting socially right if he does not submit to women and give them everything they want. Oftentimes the males from single mother and Simp father households will bully and use shaming tactics to embarrass and shame the boy or young man into acting in the same Simpish way they do. His natural instincts will tell him something is wrong with this order, but to avoid being attacked by peers and other men he will go along to get along.

In all of these cases the boys growing up in these environments learn dysfunctional ways to have relationships with women. Because they did not see a healthy model for social relationships between their mothers and their fathers or their single mothers and the men they interacted with, they learned from an early age to submit to women and to put women first above themselves.

There are some lessons about life only a man can teach a boy about becoming a man. And sadly, an entire generation of boys didn’t get these valuable life lessons from the first man in their life: Their fathers. Because they didn’t see their father having a healthy relationship with their mother about they never learned the natural way men were supposed to interact with women in social situations.

What many Simps do not understand is that it’s unnatural for a man to put himself in a submissive position. God did not make men to be submissive to women. God made men FIRST. And he made Women for Men to support men as their helpmeets. The main reason why a Simp fails at relationships with women is because he puts women first. A woman’s natural instinct is to pursue a man’s whose lead she can follow, not be chased by one who will follow her.

Chapter 3

How Feminism created The Modern Day Simp

Throughout history there have always been men who have been submissive to women. And in before they were called Simps They were called Dandies. Marshmallows. Milksops. Milquetoasts. Nebbishes. Nice Guys. And usually these males were the exception, not the rule when it came to men.

However in the mid-20th Century two going on three generations of men were socially engineered to become Simps. As the Women’s rights movement evolved into the Feminist movement in the late 1960’s and 1970s, so-called liberated women began challenging the leadership and authority of the men in their communities. And many of the weaker males fearing that they wouldn’t be able to get the attention of a woman began submitting to women in the hopes of getting their favor and possibly sex out of them.

As these men began submitting to these so-called liberated women in marriage, they started families. And with the father working long days, or in some cases abandoning the family due to friction with the mother, there was no man at home to teach boys the lessons of manhood and model what being a man meant to them. As these women began teaching their sons a feminist reinforced culture they started learning that being a man like their fathers was wrong. And that in order to be good boy he needed to seek the approval of the only leaders and authority figures they saw in the home: their mothers. This ideology was further reinforced in classrooms at schools where boys sought the approval of a female teacher in order to get rewards and good grades.

In addition to being taught from their Madison Avenue advertisers and Hollywood movie studios began promoting the image of a Sensitive Guy™. A kinder, gentler man who wasn’t as hard or harsh as their fathers. A man who was supposed to be more patient and understanding. A man who would cater to the needs of a woman. A man who was supposed to be more loving and caring than a regular man. A man who wasn’t afraid to share his feelings. A man who wasn’t afraid to cry in front of a woman.

A man men of generations past would consider a soft, weak and possibly effeminate. The kind of man who would wind up ostracized in most male social circles, and the kind of man most women wouldn’t even consider for courtship or marriage.

With men being logical, most of the boys who grew up to become the first generation of Simps believed what their mothers and the media said about women wanting a kinder, gentler more sensitive man. However, they were misled. What most of the boys who grew up to become the first generation of socially engineered Simps didn’t understand was the fact that most of the Feminists who came up with the idea of the Sensitive Guy™ were lesbians. And they wanted men to be submissive so they could establish a dysfunctional matriarchal order where they took the leadership role God established for men.

Yes, the Sensitive Guy™ is a nice guy. A decent man. Someone most men or women would consider a good friend. But most heterosexual women don’t find him sexually attractive.

Oftentimes women who have imbibed the dysfunctional media from feminist controlled Madison Avenue advertisers and Hollywood movie studios will say they want this so-called sensitive or good man. But when they have a chance to pursue him in a relationship they run in the opposite direction.

Why? Because a heterosexual woman is naturally not attracted to a man who submits to her. Because women are submissive by nature they instinctively look for men who will stand up to them. When they see a so-called Sensitive man deferring to her, they just can’t relate to him.

Most of the men who followed the Simp paradigm often wound up being used, dumped, and exploited by predatory women like feminists. And if they got married they usually wound up getting divorced. Again and again. With most men wondering what they were doing wrong in their relationships.

And as the mothers of these boys began teaching the culture they learned to their sons they began to learn to become Simps as well. As the Simp Paradigm became socially engineered into a culture in men over the last five decades, many men began journeying down the road to failed relationships, unsatisfying marriages, numerous divorces, and being used as a tool by predatory women again and again like their fathers were.

Because women today define manhood most