Get To Sex Fast

By Blackdragon

In this book, you will learn a simple, step-by-step system for moving any woman from the first date to sex within 3-4 hours, without having to lie, without having to stay up late into the evening, and without spending a lot of money... usually $27 or less!

Taken from over a decade of experience, hundreds of dates, and detailed scientific t

• Language: English
• Publisher: DCS International LLC
• Release date: Jun 29, 2017
• ISBN: 9780986222078

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Chapter 1

DATING: NOW VS. THEN

Dating skills are not taught in school. They aren’t taught in college or in the workplace. They aren’t taught by fathers to sons. Men are simply thrust into the dating world at a reasonably young age and are forced to figure things out, completely on their own, using painful trial and error.

This book is one of the solutions to this problem. It’s not the only solution, and I don’t have all the answers. Dating and sex is a big topic with many sub-topics that can’t all be stuffed into one book (which is why I have several different books on the subject). However, this book will teach you one extremely useful, and in my opinion, necessary dating skill: how to get to sex quickly and easily with a new woman without having to spend too much time or money.

Better yet, this book teaches this skill without you having to lie to or deceive women in any way. It’s about consensual sex between two honest adults.

This skill applies to your dating life regardless of your dating goals. Whether if you’re just out dating to have some fun, or looking for the long-term woman of your dreams, the techniques in this book will directly apply to you and your dating objectives.

If men knew how to get to mutually consensual sex more quickly with women they were attracted to, it would be a much happier world for everyone. For most of my teens and twenties, I suffered the angst most men suffer inherently with being attracted to women, yet not knowing how to actually have sex with any of them. As I discuss in my primary Alpha Male lifestyle book, The Unchained Man, sex is absolutely critical to your happiness as a man, whether you or society wants to admit this or not. Learning how to predictably, reliably and quickly get to sex with a new woman whenever you feel the need or desire is one of the core skills you must learn if your goal is to be a happy man throughout your life.

Dating In The Modern Era

As with so many other things in modern day society, people are addicted to systems that used to work decades past, yet stopped working a very long time ago. Dating is no exception.

During the 1950’s, if a man wanted to have a relationship with a woman, or even if he just wanted to have sex with a woman, he had to take her out on things called dates. This means he had to dress very nicely, drive to her house, pick her up, then drive her to the most expensive restaurant he could afford, buy her food and drinks, pay for it all, listen to her talk for several hours about subjects he really didn’t care about, then drive her to a movie or some other event, pay for that, then drive her back home, walk her to her door, and if he was really lucky, he’d get a kiss on the cheek. Then she’d thank him for a wonderful evening and would vanish into her house, leaving him on the doorstep, staring out into the night, alone.

It gets worse. If he wanted more from this woman than just a kiss on the cheek, he would have to do this exact same date thing multiple times, over and over again. Many of these dates would occur well before he could make out with her, or touch one of her boobs, or have sex with her, assuming she allowed sex before marriage, which most women back in the 1950’s did not.

That system is what we call massive work for little results.

Strangely, back then, that system was just fine. Why? Because back in the 1950’s, once this man actually married this woman, she would serve him, almost like a slave, 24 hours a day, seven days a week, literally for the rest of his life. She would constantly clean his house, have dinner ready for him every night, massage his feet after work every day, raise his children without asking him to help much, have sex with him whenever he demanded, and in many cases would put up with him having sex with other women as long as he was discreet about it and was home in time for dinner. (Ever heard of JFK?) Most importantly, since people didn’t really divorce back then, she would never leave him.

Therefore, the 1950’s dating model of ass-kissing the woman for weeks on end, prior to any sex, actually made sense in a strange sort of way.

Just one problem. Did what I just describe sound like women today? Do women today stay with men in marriage forever? Do they serve their husbands 1950’s style? Do they put up with men cheating on them?

Of course they don’t. Hell, you probably just laughed out loud, even if you’re a woman. The independent woman of the 21st century is no where near the slave like woman of the 1950’s.

This is a good thing. The liberated woman of the modern era may not serve you like a slave when you marry her, but she will have sex with you very quickly with a minimum of time, money, and effort, and without having to promise her marriage or anything like it. Today, men who understand women and who know how to date them can get what they want from them (be it sex, a relationship, or whatever) by spending only a tiny fraction of the time, money, and effort spent that the poor 1950’s bastard had to put up with.

It’s a pretty good deal, but only if you know how to do it. The challenge is, when it comes to dating and relationships, while modern women have evolved from their 1950’s predecessors, most modern men have not. Most men today, particularly those over age 25, still follow the outdated 1950’s dating model of dinner and a movie and cross your fingers. This is a huge mistake. Women aren’t like they were in the 1950’s. It’s time to adjust.

I follow a very different system.

Like most men, I like to have sex. I consider it a very important thing that, as a very masculine man, I cannot go without. Over the last decade, I have dated a large number of women. These women have been of all ages, from age 18 to 50+, of all personality styles, and of almost every race. Almost all of these women were at least an 8 on my personal attractiveness 1 to 10 scale. These women have been actresses, models, students, corporate executives, dancers, wealthy heiresses, waitresses, nannies, attorneys, singers, accountants, teachers, you name it. The majority of them have been attractive, intelligent, engaging, and fun to be with.

The total average amount of actual face time from the moment I meet a woman in person to when we have sex is three hours, on average. The total amount of money I spend from the moment I meet her to when we have sex is, on average, when I do actually spend money, is around 27 dollars. About 30% of the time, it’s zero dollars.

I am not some Hollywood-gorgeous hunk. As a matter of fact, during most of the years I was doing this, I was clearly overweight and had very pale skin and thinning hair. In many cases, I was 15 or even 20 years older than some of these women (yes, they were legal). I didn’t pay these women to have sex with me and never lied to them in any way. I am not the kind of asshole who sleeps with a bunch of women and tells them all they are the only woman in his life. I never have to promise monogamy or exclusivity to a woman to have sex with her.

I was between my mid thirties and early/mid forties during this time frame, which means I was too old (at least in my opinion) to hang out at bars or clubs to pick up babes. I’ve never had to hang out at bars and loud clubs, making out with complete strangers in the back of the room, staying up to 3am on a weeknight, so I can have sex with some wild, average-looking, drunken party girl. Nope, I’m a self-employed, normal-looking single dad with two children, have a business to run, and a life. You’ll almost never see me awake past eleven on a weeknight.

In this book, I’m going to lay out for you exactly how I do all of this, so you can do the same thing.

The Objective

My objective for when I date, and the skill you will learn in this book, is based around five parameters:

1. To have sex as quickly as possible,

2. With attractive women,

3. With the minimum amount of time, effort and money spent,

4. Without having to lie to anyone,

5. Without having to stay up late into the evening.

By the end of this book, you will know how to do exactly the same thing.

But I don’t want just sex! I want to find that special woman to have a relationship with! you (might) say.

No problem. We all want that special woman eventually, particularly as we get older. But think about this; do you want to date a woman for weeks and weeks like Mr. 1950’s had to do, with zero sex, then commit to some kind of relationship, and then start to have sex?

I seriously doubt that sounds like a good system to you. As I said above, the system you will learn in this book will work even if your goal is to find a serious girlfriend or wife. I myself have used this system to do just that. Moreover, as you’ll soon see, today’s women want sex sooner rather than later also! They don’t advertise this, but they do. We’ll discuss this in more detail later.

Let’s be adults about this. In the modern era, sex comes first, the serious relationship stuff comes second. The only possible exception to this is the tiny category of people who are devoutly religious, and if you’re reading this book I doubt you’re in that category.

Therefore, fast sex is the objective here, regardless of your goals beyond sex. If your goal is just to have sex, great. If it’s to find a girlfriend, great. If it’s to get married, great. All of these are compatible goals with this book. Personally, I never do one night stands (ONS). Once I have sex with a woman, I want to have sex with her again and again, for as long as possible, even if I’m not attracted to her on a serious, romantic level (and this is a perfectly valid way to date a woman, as long as you aren’t lying to her or implying conditions that don’t exist). Regardless, that’s my goal; yours can be anything you want.

To be fair, I have written this book with the slight bias that I’m (somewhat) assuming once you have sex with a woman, you’re going to want to continue to see her sexually, either seriously or casually. However, if your goal is just one night stands, this system will work for you too.

Let’s get started!

Chapter 2

THE OPTIMAL TIME FOR SEX

Men can wait too long before attempting sex with a new woman, suffering a massive amount of lost money and time, or can push for sex from a new woman too soon, resulting in large amounts of first dates that go no where.

The goal then, is to find the sweet spot of escalating to sex at the time which is most statistically probable for sex to actually occur with most women. With most women is italicized because there are ages and types of women who will have sex with you more quickly than others. We’ll be discussing that in more detail in later chapters, but for now, the overall structure I’m about to describe is what works for most women in the Western world, as a whole, not accounting for age, race, or personality type.

Most younger guys, players, and pickup artists make the mistake of pushing for sex too soon. When I first got started, I made the opposite mistake of waiting too long.

Way back in 2007, when I first re-entered the dating world after a divorce, I spent a lot of time going out on first, second, third, and even fourth dates from women I had met either during the daytime or on online dating sites.

The typical scenario looked like this. Following the woefully outdated 1950’s dating model I had been incorrectly taught by society, I would take women out to dinner and drinks on the first date. Then I would do that again for the second date, although sometimes I’d ask them if they wanted to go home with me. They almost always said no. Then, I’d take them out on a third dinner date, and again ask them if they wanted to go home with me. Again, they would almost always say no, giving me some kind of excuse ranging from I’m on my period to I’m really tired today to It’s too soon for that to I just want to talk, and many variations thereof.

Then, I’d take them on a fourth dinner date, and again ask them if they wanted to go home with me. This time I was much more adamant. They would almost always say no. After this fourth date, when I texted them the next day, they would either not respond to me, or tell me they had met someone else and wanted to see where it went.

I did this numerous times with many women. I had sex with about one woman per ten women I attempted this with. Over the course of several months, I spent literally thousands of dollars on dinner dates, which when you add drinks and tip, easily ran me $60-$100 per date. Think about that math for a minute. $60-$100 x 3 or 4 dates was anywhere between $180 - $400 spent per woman, with an only 10% chance for sex!

This is to say nothing of all the wasted time and emotion I placed into these women for zero results. Often, these dates would last 4-6 hours. Multiply that by 3 or 4, and you get 12 to 24 hours per woman that I completely wasted, again, with an only 10% success rate.

It was brutal. After beating my head against the wall, I realized that I was doing something horribly wrong and that there had to be a better way. I did all kinds of research into the dating and pickup artist world. Most of that advice didn’t apply to me, since it mostly revolved around dressing up sexy and going to night clubs late into the evening to hit on chicks.

As a busy, self-employed father of two in his mid-30’s, this kind of thing wasn’t an option for me. Plus, it violated one of my five core objectives, which is not having to stay up late into the evening in order to have sex with someone new. I was too old to regularly stay out until 3am on a Tuesday night.

I experimented with various approaches to this dating problem, tried many different things, tracked my results on spreadsheets, and constantly modified my approach based on my results or lack thereof.

Within about two years of hard work, my success rates in terms of getting to sex with a new woman on a first date with me went from 10% to 80%, sometimes 90%. My average total face time spent with a new woman to get to sex went from 12-24 hours to four hours. A few years later it went to three hours, which is about what it is today (though times when under 60-90 minutes is not unusual). My average cost went from hundreds of dollars to $27 when I spent any money. One third of the time, I spent zero dollars.

Here’s exactly how I do it.

The Sweet Spot Process

I can’t discuss night game, i.e. meeting women at bars and clubs, since I’ve never done that. However, in terms of daygame (meeting women during the day), social circle game, or online dating, I can tell you for a fact that the best process to get from meet to sex quickly with a new woman looks like this:

Step One: Meet a new woman briefly in real life either during the daytime, online via an online dating site or app, or through some kind of social interaction. (I generally do not recommend having sex with women you work with; too much potential for drama and problems.)

Step Two: A very fast, inexpensive first date that lasts 60 minutes, done correctly.

Step Three: Text follow up the very next day, schedule the second date at your place.

Step Four: A second date at your place, done correctly, where you talk for a bit, and then have sex.

If you do this correctly, you will have sex on the second date within 3-6 hours, grand total face time. This is what I do and what I will be describing in detail for the rest of this book.

I almost always have sex with a new woman on the second date. There are odd exceptions where I have sex on the first date or the third date, but these are exceptions to the rule and I never plan on this.

If a woman is on a third date with me and still resists having sex, which is a rare experience, I will politely drop her and move on to the next woman on the list. I will describe exceptions to this and why I do this in a minute.

Why I Don’t Have Sex on the First Date

If getting to sex fast is the goal here, why not just go for sex on the first date? There’s nothing wrong with this approach, and some men do well with that system, but it contains several significant problems.

Having sex with a woman on the first date is difficult. Women’s brains are chock-full of false Societal Programming that says having sex with a guy on the first date is somehow bad or wrong. Yet, for some reason they can’t explain (because there is no rational reason for it), most of these same women have no problem waiting a day or two and then having sex on the second date. Having sex on the first date on Monday is bad and makes them a slut, but having sex on Wednesday on the second date is perfectly acceptable. Welcome to the wonderful world of false Societal Programming and irrational woman logic.

Are there women who will have sex on the first date? Of course! However, there are only two ways to get to these women:

1. Play a grueling numbers game. Meet or open vast numbers of women, spending hours upon hours screening for women who are DTF (down to fuck) right now, and bypassing all the rest.

2. Have very long first dates, full of food, activities, alcohol, and money spent, and have solid game. These dates usually go for 6-7 hours and last late into the evening. They require you to push hard for sex repeatedly and spend a lot of time overcoming her I don’t have sex on the first date programming.

Just about every time you hear or read about a guy who got laid on the first date or first meet, it almost always involves one of the above two scenarios (unless he got lucky one time). He either spent a lot of time screening out a huge amount of women who weren’t DTF, or he had a reasonably long first date.

The problem with these systems is that, as you can see, they’re time consuming. One of our core parameters, that I listed in the last chapter, is to have sex with someone new with a minimum of time and effort. This is why I prefer my system over the screening system or the long first date system. I don’t need to waste mountains of time screening for women who are super honry right this second, and all my first dates are just one hour or less.

Another challenge with the screening system and the long first date system is that it doesn’t account for one significant factor: age.

How Age Affects Speed To Sex

Let’s say you want to follow the advice of some dating experts on the internet, and use some type of night game or daygame screening model to have sex with a new woman during the same day or meet as when you actually meet her for the first time. This is sometimes called an SNL (single night lay) or SDL (single day lay).

Assuming you don’t mind the time involved in that model, then it’s a perfectly viable model to use if you’re a 25 year-old guy going after women who are 22. However, if you’re a 42 year old guy going after women who are 22, you have a very serious problem. You are not going to get anywhere following any kind of sex-on-the-first-date/meet model if you are more than ten years older than the women you are attempting to date. When the age difference is this extreme, more time and comfort building is needed, and one date/meet is rarely enough time (though of course there are always rare exceptions to every rule). This is true even if you’re very good looking for your age and even if she’s the kind of woman who is very attracted to older men. You’re not going to get reliable, repeatable results pushing for sex on the first date/meet with much younger women, unless you give them money or do something shifty like introduce a lot of alcohol into the mix.

Again, a younger guy going after younger women isn’t going to have very much of problem, but that’s the issue with the screening model; it doesn’t address the issue of age differences.

A second and more common age related issue is the transformation women go through when they cross over the age of 33. I’ll be talking about this in more detail in Chapter 9, but the vast majority of women over the age of 33 utterly hate even being asked to have sex on a first date, or even a second date (and often on a third date too). (There are some exceptions to this, which we will discuss later.) Neither the screening model nor the long first date model will work on these women, barring the rare exceptions to the rule.

I’m not here to recommend against something that is working for you already. If you prefer the screening model or the long first date model, and those models are actually working for you (which means you’re actually getting laid a lot without a lot of work), then by all means don’t let me stop you. Keep using those models and use this book to optimize your approach.

Why I Have Sex on the Second Date

Why do I focus on the second date? It starts with the interesting thing with women and the Societal Programming around the third date.

While women today are societally programmed to not have sex on the first date, the vast majority of women out there are societally programmed to have sex on the third date. To them, the third date seems right. It’s not too slutty and it’s not to inappropriate (to them at least). Part of this is biological. In prehistoric times, women could not mate with a man unless she was sure he would stick around and protect her children. This exact same Obsolete Biological Wiring still exists in women’s brains today.

The other reason is societal. Most women don’t feel like a slut if they have sex with you on the third date. She can have sex with you and feel good about it. It’s normal to her. After all, all of her friends have sex with guys on