How to Text A Girl: The Step-by-Step Guide for Men to Attract, Approach and Seduces Girls with Text

By Nate Strauss

Having trouble texting girls? Are "hey" and "what's up" not cutting it anymore? Would you like to get more dates with more girls and not have them flake on you?

 

If this sounds good, then keep reading!

 

One of the biggest modern changes to the "game" of dating has been texting. Every year it becomes more important. You need it to set things up with a girl. You need it to build attraction. And increasingly, you need it to meet girls. That is, if you're going where all the cool kids are - online.

 

It's a trend that's not going to die anytime soon. Tinder has exploded in popularity. Most single guys and girls are on it. But what is Tinder when you think about it?

 

Pictures and Texting!

And while pictures are hugely important to getting the girl to "swipe" you… what happens after that? Unless you're a male model, you're going to get lost in the crowd without a text game.

And that's just online.

 

Imagine thе dating life you could have if you knew exactly how to control the text conversation with a woman that will lead her to the next in-person interaction with you.

 

It mау ѕееm daunting аt fіrѕt, but mastering text game is absolutely achievable. In this book, уоu'll learn to use the following principles in your texting:

 

Principle #12: Match Her Responsiveness;

Principle #16: Spike Her Interest;

Principle #20: Don't Panic If She Disappears

Principle #23: If She Talks Too Much, Use It To Your Advantage

Principle #27:  How To Sext 

 

AND SO MUCH MORE!

 

Good texting can compensate for mediocre introductions. Good texting can overcome "meh" profiles. Texting can get you the girl even when the deck is stacked against you.

 

By the time you're finished with this book, you'll be able to handle practically any texting situation out there, and with practice, you'll be well on your way to becoming a pro!

 

What are you waiting for? Scroll up and hit BUY NOW to start today!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Publishing Forte
• Release date: Oct 16, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201078522

Book preview

Introduction

So you got her number. Congrats! You’re one step closer to get the girl. You can now relax and know that it’s happening for sure. It’s a guarantee that you two are going to meet up. Right?

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Wrong!

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You still need to play your cards right. If you mess up this step, you could still ruin your chances.

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If you’ve ever had a girl flake on you or not respond to your texts, you may have been left completely confused. Why would she do that if she gave you her number in the first place? Wasn’t she interested?

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Well, she probably was at the time. But something changed at one point. And this brings us to a major difference between men and women. When you are attracted to a girl and get her number, you will see her again. Nothing is going to change for you the next day. You will always be attracted to her, especially if she’s beautiful. That’s because your attraction for her is physical.

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Women, on the other hand, are wired differently. Their attraction for a man depends more on how they respond to him emotionally, primarily based on how he behaves. It’s also more temporary for them, and if a guy leaves it hanging for too long without taking action, her attraction will fade.

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An attraction for women is ephemeral. It can be created quickly but also disappears quickly. It expires with time and can even be turned off instantly if you behave in an unattractive way or make a bad move.

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That’s why a girl can initially be attracted to you based on how you behaved when she first met you, but if you mess it up at any point in the game, she can lose attraction for you in a second. And once it’s lost, it’s pretty much impossible to regain.

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Your text skills are important here. You don’t want to mess it up at this stage. Every move counts, and you need to act on it while the iron is still hot. Wait too long, and she’ll lose attraction. Send her one wrong text that turns her off, and it could be over.

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A good phone game will facilitate the process from first meeting her to getting her on a date and from the 1 st to the 2 nd date. Phone game becomes less important once you date her more regularly, but it is susceptible in the early stages of the dating process, and you want to play it right.

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This book focuses on how to display attractiveness through your texts, and more importantly, what types of texts you want to avoid sending because they kill the attraction.

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The book gives you plenty of examples but mainly focuses on teaching you what the right mindset is, how to project a cool vibe through text, how to increase the chances that she’ll come out, and how to take the initiative and set up the date. Its main focus is on the principles that you need to understand when it comes to attractive texting.

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Happy reading!

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Part I- Mindset

Principle #1: Texting Is An Extension Of Your Personality

Principle #1 is the first principle for a good reason: It was the biggest game-changer for me regarding texting. When I first started texting, I (naively) thought texting was just about passing on information. It didn’t matter how you said something; texting was just a fast, convenient way to get your point across. I was mistaken—big time.

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Like in speaking, most of what you communicate to another person in texts has nothing to do with the literal content. Tone and style make a significant impact on how well a text lands. Personality needs to come through. So when I realized this, I immediately sought out the advice of the gurus on what to do differently.

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The most significant way to succeed in texting is not to craft a new persona but to portray your highlights. While there are indeed specific things you can learn regarding texting — and trust me, we’re going to get into them — ultimately, texting is just an extension of your personality. At its core, nothing is different about it than dating in person. You still want to keep a mysterious air, you want to flirt, you want to move the interaction forward. And most of all, you want to show off the best of who you are

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It’s the same game, just a different medium. Don’t craft what someone else would say; take what YOU would say and let who you are shine through. Read your texts in your head as if you were verbalizing them to make sure they come from an authentic part of you. Everybody texts differently, and your texts should reflect your personality. Don’t ever forget it!

Principle #2: Don’t Take It Personally

Principle #2 hit the sensitive, emotional, gratification-seeking side of me when I learned it. But it was the cold, hard truth, which made me much better not only at texting but also at handling all forms of rejection in life: Whatever happens — most of the time — it’s not about you.

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Understand: girls’ phones are ringing for them all day long. Between friends, family, and other suitors (don’t expect there aren’t any), chances are you’re just one of many other people blowing up her phone.

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So please, please, please. DO NOT EXPECT SPECIAL TREATMENT

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Especially in the beginning. I know you might like this girl. I know you might be very attracted to her. But just because you feel that way, it doesn’t mean she does too (yet). It doesn’t mean she’s going to prioritize her time for you. It doesn’t even mean she’s going to respond.

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And you know what? That’s perfectly ok. (To be honest, if you’re feeling overly excited about a girl you hardly know anything about, it’s time to check yourself because that’s just crazy.)

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Girls are not going to respond exactly the way you want. Ever. You can’t take it personally. Lashing out won’t get you the girl, but it will get you screen shotted and placed on Buzzfeed for public shaming. And — trust me — you don’t want that.

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Neediness — especially aggressive neediness — is hugely unattractive. Guys who make the interaction all about themselves — who flip from being sweet and placating to angry and insulting when they don’t get the response they want — show a girl that they are weak, unstable, and pathetic.

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Don’t — under any circumstance — fall into that category. It’s just dumb, childish behavior. And not only does it ensure the girl won’t be interested in you, it confirms (without question) that she made the right decision to drop you. Why give her the satisfaction? Plus, every girl you go off on for not accepting your advances is more likely to turn into a man-hater, and that just makes life tougher for the rest of us.

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So don’t get self-centered. Remember: You do not have a right to any of a woman’s time. She doesn’t owe you anything because she gave you her number.

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Now, this doesn’t mean you demean yourself in front of her — something we’ll address in later principles. But understand that a number isn’t a promise. She’ll get to you when she’s ready, or if she’s ready, roll with it. And if she’s legitimately treating you disrespectfully, don’t play games or get frustrated — just leave. She probably wasn’t that interested anyway.

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Nine out of ten times, if a girl continually delays in responding to you, it’s because you haven’t made yourself important enough in her life. And that’s a reality you need to accept. (more often than not, it doesn’t even have anything to do with you)

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Girls are people. They have lives. Things change. Maybe an ex came back into the picture, maybe there was a death in the family, maybe she’s overwhelmed with work, or maybe she just got distracted and forgot to respond to her text. It’s not a big deal. It’s a text.

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Don’t hover over your phone; go out and meet other girls. And if while you were out doing that, she never reinitiated, try again (playfully) in the next couple of days (we’ll discuss how to do this later).

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The reality is girls will blow you off. Girls will prioritize other things than you. Girls will take their time responding. Girls will even forget to respond. It’s part of the game. Accept it or suffer.

Principle #3: Get Pavlovian By Always Adding Value

Most of you, I’m sure, have heard of the famous psychologist Pavlov’s experiment. When doing a test with dogs, he noticed they would salivate when trainers brought out food and salivate when the trainers came in without food. This was shocking because it showed that stimuli could indirectly trigger dogs. Despite not being food, the trainer had become associated with food and thus provoked the