The incredible handbook to Texting and Tinder

By Jake Rane

This book is not The Idiot's Handbook to women. It won't teach you where the clitoris is, or how to talk to a woman without mentioning your anime collection, or transform you into a Calvin Klein model overnight. Instead, this book challenges the way you think a

• Language: English
• Publisher: DigitalDatingbyjake
• Release date: Sep 6, 2021
• ISBN: 9789083195919

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This work is not to be considered professional, medical, psychological, or legal advice. It is for entertainment purposes only. Digital Dating or our associates will not be liable for any direct or indirect consequences that may occur from the use of ideas contained in this book.

A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR

Thank you for purchasing The Incredible Handbook to Texting and Tinder.

You may have bought this book to overcome a difficult obstacle in your life, to take the next step when it comes to dating, or to grow on a personal level—and you will.

By taking this first step, you’re more than halfway there.

There are many ways to interact with women using texting, but it all comes down to understanding the hidden meaning behind the words. In this book, I cut through the bull. You’ll find techniques, theory, and some of my own conversations. 

Use the information on these pages to gain a better understanding of what’s really happening in the world of digital dating. Remember, the real objective is not to become someone else but to highlight the attractive qualities you already have. When it comes to dating, the most successful men are those who know how to portray themselves in an attractive manner.

The Incredible Handbook to Texting and Tinder shows you what your messages say about you, when you have lost control of the conversation, and how to get it back.

Writing this book has been a dream of mine. I hope my knowledge helps you find the love you deserve. The information is the result of over ten years of reading, studying, and testing my theories. I have spent months passionately writing, sifting through my messages, and crafting carefully considered techniques. I hope this book provides you with a new understanding of online dating and how to use texting to find more dates.

It has been a pleasure to give something back to my fellow men. I hope this book helps you achieve the success you are looking for with the women you desire.

If you have any questions, or if you need advice, my inbox is always open. [e-mail].

Warm regards,

Jake

August 2021

TABLE OF CONTENTS

DISCLAIMER

A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR

CHAPTER 1: HOW TO BE A MODERN-DAY CASANOVA (OR AT LEAST HAVE A CRACK AT IT)

What it means to get her phone number

The goals of texting and Tinder

The mindset of a modern-day Casanova

CHAPTER 2: TINDER AND SIMILAR DATING APPS

Why Tinder is saving you time

Being successful on Tinder is highly personality-based

How to create a profile you’re proud of

How to make people want to start a conversation with you

CHAPTER 3: CONGRATULATIONS, YOU GOT A MATCH (NOW WHAT?)

The first text message & examples

Why texting is a playground for adults

Converting your matches in to phone numbers

CHAPTER 4: HOW TO SOUND LIKE YOU’VE GOT A SUPER PERSONALITY (NO MATTER WHAT YOU’RE SAYING)

It takes one to know one

Early texting

Boomerang humor

Playing Truth or Dare

What are your text messages saying about you! (Or how to radiate confidence via text)

The ideal time to respond (or how to keep control of the conversation)

Role playing & examples

Getting her to take positive action

Calling

Emojis and grammar

Additional text message strategies

CHAPTER 5: HOW TO READ HER MIND (WITHOUT BEING AN ACTUAL PSYCHIC)

Why women are dating online

What women are looking for

Indicators she likes the conversation

Indicators she doesn’t like the conversation

How to salvage a sinking ship (correcting bad behavior)

CHAPTER 6: HOW TO TURN THE CONVERSATION INTO SOMETHING SEXUAL (MODERN-DAY CASANOVAS AREN’T AFRAID OF DIRTY TALK)

Why sexting is risky but fun (the pitfalls)

Things to remember when sexting

The road to euphoria

CHAPTER 7: WHEN ITS DATING TIME

The principle of emotional flow

Going for the date & examples

What does a good date look like?

AFTERWORD

TERMS AND CONDITIONS

CHAPTER 1

How to be a modern-day Casanova (or at least have a crack at it)

What it means to get her phone number

Have you ever matched with a woman on Tinder, Bumble, or any other dating app and thought things were going well? She typed ‘’hahahah’’ at all your jokes. The conversation was flowing, and at some point, you decided to ask for her phone number, and she gave it to you.

Bingo! Mission accomplished. But what does that actually mean? At this point, most men assume if they got a woman’s phone number

she must be into him

a date is inevitable

sex is likely to occur

Unfortunately, in most cases this couldn’t be further from the truth. Any guy who is successful with women knows that getting her phone number doesn’t mean anything beyond that. Think of it like a sales process. Merely having a good conversation with a client doesn’t mean he is going to do business with you. If he gives you his phone number to continue the conversation at a later date, it doesn’t mean more than that. Getting a phone number from a woman is similar. She’s merely saying that she likes where this is going and is willing to continue the conversation. It’s only a chance for a date.

If you’ve ever been friends with a beautiful woman, you probably have a good idea how many matches she receives on Tinder or on any dating app. These women typically have a nearly 100% match rate. Even if she says she doesn’t give her number out often (this may be true compared to the number of times she is asked for it), it might still be fairly frequently.

While women do give out their number to guys they genuinely find interesting, this is not always the case. It might also be a fleeting moment of attraction on the spur of the moment. The conversation might have been flowing yesterday evening, but it could be dead in the water by tomorrow. This can be confusing. You had such fun on Tinder yesterday. Why would things change when you switch over to texting?

This is often because the setting has changed. Yesterday you were an interesting guy on Tinder when she was having a night in. Today you’re texting and pushing for a date while she is at work or with her friends. Giving her phone number is comparable to looking through a new car catalog while going on a date is comparable to going for a test drive. It’s a bigger step.

This is very confusing for men. Getting a phone number gives a guy a sense of accomplishment and a false belief that he is further along in the dating process than he actually is.

Don’t worry. Once you spend some time conversing with women through text, you will begin to develop a sixth sense about what they actually think of you. This will put an end to hours of guessing, hair pulling, and confusion. There is nothing more frustrating than realizing you are slowly losing her interest and not knowing how to turn it around. Or the emotional sting you feel when she stops texting back and you have no clue why (see Chapter 5 if you’re in need of immediate guidance).

However, no matter how good you get at texting, there will always be one thing you can’t control. Life. You could have a great conversation with someone. It could feel like smooth sailing and a date might seem inevitable, and then a text comes out of the blue, Hey, I’m sorry but now is not the time for me to date.’’ Or worse, they stop texting all together and you ask yourself, what happened?" Life happened.

She is a human being like you and she might’ve been feeling great yesterday but today she got fired from her job, or her grandma died, or she had a fight with her landlord and might get evicted. There are countless reasons why she suddenly had a change of heart and they do not have anything to do with you. Let me repeat that. IT DOESN’T HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU. Stop blaming yourself.

The key is to be okay with that. To get good at texting and Tinder, you must play the numbers. There are billions of women on the planet, and many won’t be compatible with you. Each phone number or match is just a chance to practice so that when it matters, you’re able to swing for the fences,

The goals of texting and Tinder

Do you remember the first girl you ever met? Do you remember the first time you matched with someone online? Do you remember the first phone number you ever received? Your answer to at least one of these questions is probably no, and that’s because it doesn’t matter. What you will remember is your first really good date or the first time you met someone through Tinder and took her home.

While getting a phone number is a step in the right direction, it shouldn’t be a goal in itself. You’re not writing a phone book, nor are you a volunteer entertainer via text. Never forget that a phone number is only a means to an end.

These are the things you want to accomplish through texting and Tinder:

Match with the women you want. Seriously, the number of men I know that swipe right on every female with a pulse is incredible. If that’s you, stop. One of our goals is to set up a Tinder profile so you can generate matches with women you are actually interested in.

Turn matches into dates. As mentioned before, you don’t want to be a volunteer entertainer via text. The real purpose of texting is to set up a date as soon as possible.

Use texting to generate attraction. Have you ever met someone radiating confidence? Someone who has all eyes on them when they walk into a room instead waving their hands to announce "Here I am.’’ Can you imagine conveying this through text? Because you can and I will show you how.

TIP: The Tinder algorithm is based on the match percentage. For example, if you swipe right on 100 women and you match with 10 of them, your match percentage is 10 percent. Tinder will view this as low and put you lower in the queue. However,