Not Here For Hookups! A Guide to Finding Quality Men on Dating Apps without Compromising YOU!

By AJ Nelson

DISCOVER: Why Do Some People Seem to Have All the Luck With Dating Apps, While Others Continue to Be Disappointed?
Having trouble finding Mr. Right on Tinder? You aren't alone! The primary reason most women aren't successful in finding worthwhile men on dating apps is because they fail to set themselves apart from the competition. Or more commonly, they set themselves apart for all of the wrong reasons.

If you closely examine some of the most successful women on Tinder, Bumble, or other popular dating apps (as I have done while researching this book) you'd see that they all find ways to take their idiosyncrasies and even their flaws and accentuate them to create more engaging profiles that men go absolutely ga-ga over.

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In "Not Here for Hookups!" you'll learn how to create more compelling profile experiences for your potential matches to gawk over on any dating app. No longer will you have to think twice about whether your photos or bios are sending the right message. Instead, you'll know exactly what pitfalls to avoid and what strategies to employ to attract men that are worth meeting in person, and you'll do so without compromising those special, individual traits that make you YOU!

Success with dating apps can be simple as long as you know the rules. And the rules in this book are tried and tested. Inside, you'll discover the proven strategies to help you get the most out of your dating app matches, and waste less time with duds.

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"Not Here for Hookups" contains a step-by-step blueprint for finding better guys and better dates with apps like Tinder, Happn, Bumble, and more!

Inside this guide you'll learn how to:
* Avoid the most common mistakes women make with their dating profiles

* Craft a spectacular bio guaranteed to pique interest and engage the reader

* Spot creep and pick up artist cues right away when browsing profiles online using the patented Tinder Zodiac

* Match with smarter, more successful men that want to date YOU!

Dating apps are not just for hook ups any longer! You just need to know how the game is played! Finally, there's a guide for women that does just that!

• Language: English
• Publisher: AJ Nelson
• Release date: May 4, 2016
• ISBN: 9781311504173

AJ Nelson

Fast-paced technological advancement has carved out a new frontier in the world of dating. There are more opportunities to meet people and form meaningful relationships than ever before. With his books and blog, A.J. Nelson demonstrates clear, sensible strategies for leveraging today's hottest technology to take advantage of these new opportunities, all the while reminding us to celebrate our individuality above all else!

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Part I

Mythbusting The Bad Rap On Dating Apps

I remember being told many times that writing a how-to guide on dating apps for women seeking long term relationships was going to be an uphill battle. A fool’s errand, even. An utter waste of time. Why don’t you write about DIY garden boxes, or building a bike from scratch? You know, something productive? It’s no secret dating apps have a bad rap, and I understood immediately why so many people, guys and girls, were so critical of the idea. Part of this negativity undoubtedly stems from a hyper-critical media which will try to make a quick buck off of any trend it can with a controversial headline. In 2015 Vanity Fair, for example, published a scathing article denouncing Tinder as the advent of the ‘dating apocalypse.’ But do claims like this bear any meaningful weight? It’s a valid question.

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If you’ve spent any small amount of time on Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, or any other popular dating app for even 15 minutes you probably already know what I’m talking about. The experience for most women is the same. You hear about Tinder from a friend and get a little curious, so you install it. You swipe left on a couple profiles and suddenly encounter one guy that’s actually pretty cute or who has a bio that makes you smile, so you swipe right. Lo and behold, it’s a match. But then a few messages into your chat conversation things start to get vulgar, and the guy turns out to be a complete weirdo, creep, or brainless frat boy. You may shrug off the encounter the first time it happens easily enough, but then it happens again. And then it happens AGAIN! And again, and again, and again. After the sixth or seventh time you’ve made up your mind: these apps are nothing more than digital amusement parks for lonely, horny males looking for a quick lay.  They swarm in with cheap, half-assed pickup lines or sometimes no pick up line at all; just a vulgar, cut to the chase request for sex, and then they feel insulted when their feelings are not reciprocated. Shameless, tactless, hopeless. And that’s when you delete the app. Good riddance. Right?

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Well if you’ve purchased this book some part of you deep down inside believes there’s still hope. And I’m here to tell you that absolutely there is! You just have to know that there’s a system and like any system there are rules you need to play by. Once you know the rules, you can work the system in your favor. But that doesn’t mean your dating app experience will always be 100% creep free.

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A New Era

Let’s not beat around the bush, the dating app bad rap came about for valid reasons, at least initially. What started out as a hook up app used mostly by college students across the country is now finding itself several years later having a little trouble cutting ties with its past, even if the statistics conclude that dating apps are NOT in fact just for hookups any longer (we’ll explore more of that in a bit.)  What perpetuate the hook up app stereotypes nowadays are the bad apples. And unfortunately, these bad apples aren’t going anywhere anytime soon. They like the convenience, the anonymity, and the control that a dating app can provide. But they are not worth sabotaging your own quest for happiness by deleting an app that still has plenty of good guys using it every single day. Bad apples exist in real life too, ladies.  They’re everywhere!  That’s why when you find someone worthwhile it’s called a catch.  And if you’re shrugging off dating apps because you think the majority of men are just looking for a one night fling, you’re not only shrugging off one of the most substantial evolutions in the entire history of courtship, but also access to a huge crop of potentially amazing men that want to date YOU.  Sound like BS? Let me prove it to you.   

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Who am I

My name is A.J. Nelson and I run the Not Here for Hookups! blog. The blog, and this book, were ideas which culminated after hearing story after story from friends and family about their Tinder dating experiences. Some stories chronicled laughably bad, horrible date experiences that you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy. Dates which started as matches on

Reviews for Not Here For Hookups! A Guide to Finding Quality Men on Dating Apps without Compromising YOU!

[Joanna Asia · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

Short guide for women how to make up a good tinder profile and how to learn to wead up the "good" guys from "bad" ones or better, red flags. Nothing revolutionary but still can be helpful.