Tinder Dating Secrets for Men

By A.J. Savage

You tried Tinder - it sucks. You heard of people hooking up fast and you wanted to do that. But it wasn't that easy, was it? You didn't get matches. The women didn't message you back. Perhaps you even met some of them, but you didn't have sex like you planned. What happened?

Listen: There is nothing wrong with you.

You may think that you are the problem. You're not. It isn't you, it's what you're doing. There is a method to using Tinder that guarantees your success. If you don't know this method, you will fail. If you do know this method, you will succeed regardless of who you are. When I started on Tinder, I sucked too. Now, I can hook up with new women every week. I learned this method the hard way, but you can learn it in a concise and easy-to-read book. You can meet women and start getting laid this week. Among other things, you'll learn:

How you can write a profile that gets women coming after you, eager to meet you.

How you can avoid the stupid mistake every guy makes with his profile pictures.

How to message women and turn them on.

How to stand out from the fifty billion other guys messaging a woman.

What you MUST do in the first 30 seconds of meeting a woman in person.

What to do if you run out of things to say.

How to know if she wants to go home with you.

What to do when you bring her home.

How to sexually satisfy her like no guy has ever done before.

What you have to do after the first date if you want to see a woman again.

This book is a clear guide with no filler. It will connect you with women on Tinder fast. I have taught this method to countless guys to help them meet women, and it consistently works. Follow the instructions, do the simple exercises, and it can work for you too.

• Language: English
• Publisher: A.J. Savage
• Release date: Nov 5, 2016
• ISBN: 9781370993406

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Tinder Dating Secrets for Men:

by A.J. Savage

Smashwords Edition

Copyright 2016 A.J. Savage

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction

Preparing Your Mind

The Right Profile

How to Turn a Woman On with Messaging

Preparing for the Date

The First Date

The Second Date and Beyond

Conclusion

Disclaimer: This book is designed to provide information and motivation. No warranties or guarantees are expressed or implied by this volume. Neither the publisher nor the author shall be liable for any physical, psychological, emotional, financial, or commercial damages, including, but not limited to, special, incidental, consequential or other damages. You are responsible for your own choices, actions, and results.

INTRODUCTION

Tactics, comrades, tactics!

– Squealer, Animal Farm

George Orwell

I was a latecomer to the Tinder game. At the time of Tinder's rise to dominate the online dating world, I was in a monogamous relationship for several years. I don't regret those years or that relationship at all, although it probably went on for longer than it should have. I was well aware of Tinder during the relationship. I made a mental note and was curious to try it. It was only when my relationship was falling apart and revealed its shaky legs that I even bothered to download the app and see how it worked.

When my relationship finally ended, I wasn't ready to date. I hated dating! It was everything I stayed in a relationship to avoid (and staying in a relationship to avoid things is probably a warning sign!). I didn't want to meet new women. Sure, I wanted to have sex with them, but I didn't want to go through the courtship process to get me there. I certainly didn't enjoy putting on my best face to appear as appealing as possible. Yet being self-employed and perceiving few avenues for meeting new women, Tinder seemed like the easiest way to relaunch my dating life.

When I finally took a look, I was amazed at how many women were on Tinder. Tons of cute women. I couldn't understand why they were single. I couldn't imagine them ever having trouble getting a date. Yet here they were on Tinder. Some of them would turn out to be bots – software programs designed to make people click on links and visit commercial websites. But the majority of profiles seemed to be real women within miles of me.

When I started using the app (February 2015), Tinder was already famous as a hook-up site. I was looking for a girlfriend, not a meaningless hook-up, and as I interacted with women through Tinder I often told them right away what I was looking for. This immediately provided me with feedback, and I found myself (disturbingly) altering my persona and responses to fit the expectations of women I had not even met.

I started getting matches on Tinder. Not an overwhelming amount of matches, but enough to regularly chat with women. I would usually initiate the conversation. Sometimes there would be an immediate response (especially if we had just matched and she still had the app open). Sometimes a response would come a day later. Sometimes a response would never come. I quickly developed a thick skin and didn't take it personally. After all, I was using the same opening lines over and over. It was often very mechanical, so I didn't have anything invested in it unless she replied. If my conversation starter didn't work with a woman, then it was her issue, not mine. After all, it had already worked on other women. Perhaps a non-responding woman had changed her mind about me. Perhaps she was overwhelmed by messages. I quickly learned to stop caring why a woman did or didn't respond. My goal was to have fun, send a message, and then forget about it unless I got a message back from her.

I got enough responses in those early days to take the next step: meeting in person. Actually, a few women thought the next step was talking on the phone, and I would oblige them for a few minutes. Now, I dislike talking on the phone, but I've found that most women just want to hear a voice. A voice reveals a lot about someone. But I always prefer meeting in person and quickly moved the conversation in that direction.

When I did start meeting women, they would usually suggest getting a drink. This seems like the convention with Tinder dates. I'm not saying it's the best solution (we'll look at alternatives later), but that it's the most common solution people come up with. Maybe people don't want a huge time commitment with a stranger. You can end a drink date in half an hour if you're not compatible.

However, I usually resisted this for a first date. I wasn't a big fan of bars. I wanted a quieter, low-key venue. I felt like I would prefer a daytime meeting. Because of this , I usually suggested a coffee shop in the afternoon. I'm not saying this was a good decision. There is no universal good or bad setting for a first date – it really depends on the people involved. But I will say that I did not continue with this time and location for long. Much like my online conversations with women, I found myself designing the dates to increase my chances of success.

As I began to meet these women, I noticed that something was different about them. They had all been using Tinder for a while, and that was apparent in how they approached the date itself. It seemed to have little weight or importance. Perhaps this hurt my ego a little. I liked to feel that I mattered and that I'm a prize worth competing for. This doesn't mean the women I dated didn't care – but I just felt like one more guy in an endless series of guys these women were dating. That has always been the case, but with Tinder there is an interchangeability to the process. We can all go on Tinder and get another date pretty easily (I later learned this isn't the case, but it felt like it at the time). Because of this, Tinder dates start to feel like they are not with real people. Tinder practically encourages this perspective through its terminology – users are encouraged to keep playing, and the app's tone is humorous and lighthearted. This might help people avoid getting hurt, but it can also be an obstacle to more meaningful interactions.

It felt like every woman I met through Tinder was a player. Or at least, every woman thought of herself as a player. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. Less naïve people are less vulnerable. But it now feels like everyone is a dating professional. It is a different playing field, and it comes with its own rules.

Tinder also makes relationships seem like the exception, not the rule (as they had once been). Casual dates and lack of commitment are normalized through the online dating process. I know less and less people in monogamous long-term relationships. Again, I'm not judging this as bad or good – only different. As someone who has always preferred the sedentary quality of being in a relationship, it required a shift in my thinking. I'm not saying you can't find a long-term partner through Tinder. In fact, their public relations have