Modern Dating Guide for Men: Essentials of a Healthy Dating Life and Thriving Relationships in the 21st Century

By Matthew Manson

The Art of Modern Dating – Discover how you can date the woman of your dreams and make her obsessed with you!

Being able to pick up women and have short-term relationships is one thing. Knowing how to master the dating game and have a healthy long-term relationship is something entirely different. That's the truth I had to learn the hard way. After having the time of my life during my younger years, I thought I met the woman of my dreams. She was beautiful, funny and we just clicked. The problem was that I had no idea how to be in a serious relationship and after a couple of months…she dumped me. Looking back now, I don't blame her. There were a lot of things I did wrong. Things that I never would have thought of in a million years. However, back then I decided to get on top of things and learn how to master the dating game. That's how this book came to be. Every essential, every tip, and every secret you need to know in order to make the woman you date brag about you to all her friends. 

Inside this book you will discover:

• Where you need to start in order to become a dating master (hint…it's you).
• The things you NEED to avoid in order to keep any relationship happy and exciting.
• A specially designed book structure containing clear lists, step by step guidelines and scenarios which you can easily remember and apply in your own life.
• How dating has changed in the 21st century and what you need to do to stay relevant.
• What you need to learn from the traditional dating style and what you need to forget right now!
• Online dating – the good and the bad.
• How to actually be in a relationship and how to react in certain tricky situations.
• How to avoid boredom and keep a relationship exciting and alive.
• How to properly communicate in a relationship and avoid catastrophes which could separate you from the woman of your dreams.

Dating has changed a lot over the years. Social media has added a lot of variables into the game and made everything a lot more confusing. Not knowing the essentials can be detrimental to any relationship. That's why you need to be prepared. 

It doesn't matter if you had a lot of failed relationships or you never been in one before. This book has you covered. Why? Because I failed a bunch of times and learned from my mistakes so you won't have to.

If you want to be the type of man women dream of being in a relationship with, then scroll up and Order Now!

• Language: English
• Publisher: C-S Publication
• Release date: Aug 23, 2019
• ISBN: 9781393109815

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Modern Dating Guide for Men

Essentials of a Healthy Dating Life and Thriving Relationships in the 21st Century

Matthew Manson

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Disclaimer:

The information in this book, while thoroughly researched, is not to take the place of the advice of a professional adviser such as a doctor, psychiatrist, or psychologist. The information in this book is to help you gain some relief and help you get the satisfaction of helping yourself alongside the guidance of a professional. The content and information contained in this book have been compiled from sources deemed reliable and are accurate to the best of the author's knowledge and belief. The author, publisher, and any other affiliated parties cannot, however, guarantee its accuracy and validity and cannot be held liable for any errors and/or omissions. When needed, further changes will be periodically made to this book. Where appropriate and/or necessary, you are obligated to consult a professional (including but not limited to your doctor, personal trainer, nutritionist or such other professional advisor) before using any of the suggested remedies, techniques, or information in this book. Upon using the contents and information contained in this book, you agree to hold the author, publisher, and any other affiliate parties harmless from and against any damages, costs, and expenses, including any legal fees potentially resulting from the application of any of the information provided by this book. This disclaimer applies to any loss, damages or injury caused by the use and application, whether directly or indirectly, of any advice or information presented, whether for breach of contract, tort, negligence, personal injury, criminal intent, or under any other cause of action.

Table of Contents

Introduction

Part One: Fix Yourself

Chapter One:  Confidence

Chapter Two:  Love Thyself—Myth or Reality?

Chapter Three:  Take Care of Yourself

Chapter Four:  Avoid Neediness

Chapter Five:  Be an Authentic Man

Section Two:  Modern Dating

Chapter Six:  Traditional Dating in the Modern World

Chapter Seven:  Modern Dating Essentials

Chapter Eight:  The Ugly Side of Online Dating

Section Three:  The Relationship

Chapter Nine:  Communication

Chapter Ten:  Relationship No-Nos

Chapter Eleven:  Keep the Relationship Alive

Chapter Twelve: Conclusion

Introduction

Every woman has told some variation of this horrific first date:

He comes to pick the woman up for the date by pulling up and honking the horn. She comes out, opens the door, and turns green at the smell that wafts out of the car. She has to move the trash in the floorboard around so she can find some place to put her feet. She gives him the once over, taking in his ratty t-shirt and stained, holey jeans. The overwhelming smell of the cologne he put on does nothing to cover the body odor emanating from him. The man is feeling generous so he takes her to McDonalds and tells her that she can order anything that she wants—from the dollar menu. While she is eating, he regales her about stories from his nasty ex-girlfriend. After dinner, he takes her to the cheap theater, pulls two soda bottles from the back of his trunk and tells her to hide it in her purse. After the movie, he takes her home. He leans over for a kiss goodnight, puckering up, and kissing -—air.

This scenario is an extreme version of a bad date. However, most women have experienced aspects of this, which results in the man not ever hearing from the woman again.

Dating can be daunting, because you want to show your best side to a woman, but still be yourself. This book can help you understand how to plan dates that will capture a woman’s attention without compromising who you are. 

After a few dates, a relationship forms, whether it is formal or not. Relationships can be hard to maintain, even for two people who love each other. You will learn tips on keeping your relationship alive in this modern and fast paced world.

Dating and relationships can be hard enough, but in an era where social media keeps everyone connected superficially, it is harder to form deeper, long lasting, true relationships. People are actually lonelier than they ever were before. That is why it is more important than ever to know and understand the rules for forming and maintaining positive relationships.

Happiness that comes from dating and positive relationships is unique. It is one thing to go out drinking with buddies. It is quite another to come home from a long day at work, and look forward to hanging out with that special person, whether it is a night in watching television and eating pizza, or going out to the movies, for long walks in the park, or to a ball game.

The evidence that positive dating experiences and relationships makes people happy is all around you. There are also health benefits to being in a positive relationship, such as increasing the good chemicals in your brain, like endorphins, and relieving stress. Research shows that people who are in a happy relationship tend to live longer. Some research indicates that people who are in healthy relationships are able to fight off some diseases, such as cancer. In addition, people in positive relationships have a decreased risk for depression, suicide, and substance abuse.

Some men who feel as though they are not good at the dating scene simply avoid it. However, by applying the advice found in this book, you can improve your dating skills, and even form positive, healthy relationships with that special woman.

Life is too short to sit at home with just your goldfish to keep you company, or to go from one bad relationship to another. Implement the advice and rules outlined in this book, and enjoy the dating scene and great relationships that can make life richer.

Part One: Fix Yourself

No, you are not broken. However, everyone in the world has flaws and issues they would love to fix about themselves. Some of these flaws and weaknesses can affect your willingness to jump into the dating scene, your dating skills, and how to form, and maintain, a relationship.

The misconception about being in a relationship is that you can no longer focus on yourself. The opposite is true. Partners in healthy relationships need time alone, away from their significant others to be a strong individual. In a strong relationship, you will learn how to continue growing and learning and being a better you—even though the now you is awesome.

Many people believe that a relationship precludes individuals from being themselves and working for their own individual needs and desires. In fact, partners in a healthy relationship encourage their partners to retain their individual identities and pursue their individual goals.

The dating aspect of relationships helps you understand what areas you can improve on and what your positive attributes are. A relationship is like a mirror, where you can see your behaviors and habits reflected through the eyes and behaviors of another. Keep what you like, fix what you can, throw out the rest.

In this section, you will learn several important ways to fix yourself to help you become more successful in the dating and relationship scene.

Confidence—Believe in yourself, and show the world that you are comfortable in your own skin.

Accept yourself

Take care of yourself—emotionally, mentally and physically

Neediness

Be authentic

Chapter One:  Confidence

Confidence is an important factor in who you are. Confidence means that you believe in yourself. Confidence means that you know you are a good man, a strong man, and a man who can tackle all the challenges in front of him and accomplish his goals in this world. Confidence means that you know you are worthy of love, friendship, and companionship.

However, there are many men out there who say that they do not feel confident, even if they do not put it in so many words. They are not confident enough in their performance to ask for a raise. They are not confident enough in their appearance and charm to talk to the girl in the club.

There are many ways to build confidence in yourself and to make yourself understand that you are strong enough, brave enough, etc., to face whatever challenges are in front of you, even in the dating and relationship realm.

Have a goal, or a vision, for yourself. Create a list of objectives you need to accomplish in order to achieve your goal. As you accomplish each step, you will gain motivation and determination to successfully complete the next step. When you fail, take the opportunity to learn from it, fix whatever got in your way, then move on. This technique works for small goals and larger goals. Think about the first time you tried riding a bike. You wrecked and fell off. Did you give up, or did you figure out what you did wrong, and then