After She's Gone: Living Alone, #1
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When a man finds himself alone at the end of a long term relationship, or during a prolonged separation, often it's the first time in his life he's had to look after himself.
This little book will be a big help when you are learning to do those things she used to do for you.
Are you one of those guys who can make all kinds of things but can't make himself a meal? Or one of those guys who manages multiple projects at work but doesn't have a clue when it comes to managing his personal space?
This book is for you. It covers the basics of:
* buying food and preparing meals
* keeping the place clean
* doing the washing, and
* looking after yourself, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
It's a survival guide written by a fellow traveller, who has survived alone, to let you know you can too.
The other title in this series is Cooking 4 One.
Peter Mulraney
Peter grew up in country South Australia, before going to Adelaide to complete high school and attend university. While he was studying in the city, he met an Italian girl and forgot to go home. Now he's married and has two grown children. He worked as a teacher, an insurance agent, a banker and a public servant. Now, he gets to write every day instead. He is the author of the Inspector West and Stella Bruno Investigates crime series; the Living Alone series, for men who find themselves alone at the end of a long term relationship; and the Everyday Business Skills series for people looking to take advantage of his knowledge and skills. As a mystic, he has written several books which explores some of life's deeper questions, including Sharing the Journey: Reflections of a Reluctant Mystic, and My Life is My Responsibility: Insights for Conscious Living.
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After She's Gone - Peter Mulraney
After She's Gone
A survival guide for men who find themselves living alone.
Peter Mulraney
All rights reserved.This book may not be reproduced in whole or in part, except by a reviewer who may quote brief passages in a review, without the written permission of the publisher.
Copyright © 2014 Peter Mulraney
ISBN: 978-0-9924269-4-1
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Contents
Introduction
Staying alive
Keeping the place clean
The mysteries of the laundry
Outsourcing
It's your place
Staying in touch
Looking after the inner man
Keeping the body working
Money management
Tidying up loose ends
Summary
A note from Peter
Also by Peter Mulraney
Introduction
Doing those things she used to do for you
Sometimes it feels like life happens to you, especially when your journey intersects with death, divorce or desertion; or you find yourself temporarily separated from the woman who had been taking care of business at your place.
It happened to me. Around five years ago, my wife, who had been looking after me in Adelaide, Australia, for thirty something years at that point, decided she wanted to broaden her horizons by becoming an educational consultant in New York. Yeah, you got it, the one in the United States of America. That's a tad more than a cut lunch and a water bottle trip from my place - by 747.
For reasons associated with financial commitments (the bank still wanted its money) and maximizing my retirement savings plan, I chose to stay at my job in Australia.
No need to feel sorry, it's working out fine. We're still married and we get to spend time together in two different cities, in two different parts of the world, in two different time zones, and I found out about Skype.
But, I found myself living on my own again, for up to four or five months at a time.
There's only so much stuff a woman can leave behind in the freezer, and if she's left for good, she may not have left you anything in the freezer, and she's certainly not going to be on Skype, telling you how to cook whatever it is you want to try this week.
In a way, I was lucky. Being a country boy, I'd had some experience looking after myself when I was at university. We country kids had to leave home and come down to the city to study, and I ended up living in an apartment with a couple of my brothers. So, I had some basic cooking skills I could fall back on. And, having been one of those collaborative husbands, who shared the housework while we were raising our kids, I knew how things about the house worked.
My wife would say that I was well trained. I might not have mastered much in the kitchen, but at least I'd done some sort of an apprenticeship over the years. I might not make the bed the way she wants it made, but at least I know how to make a bed, and I've done enough supervised cleaning to know which end of the vacuum cleaner is the business end.
Having looked after myself successfully for a while, I thought it might be useful to share what I know, so that anyone finding himself in a similar situation, would have access to a basic survival guide written by a fellow traveller, one who had survived by acquiring the basic skills required to look after himself.
Disclaimer: I'm no expert, I'm simply a practitioner who has relied on the ideas discussed in this book, and lived to tell you about them.
Staying alive
Feeding yourself
If you can't feed yourself you'll either starve or spend a lot of money on takeaways, or even more on eating out. You could of