28 min listen
Stop Blaming the Mothers
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Length:
27 minutes
Released:
May 16, 2024
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Podcast episode
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I’m a little fired up on this one, so get ready! Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve read a few different headlines that have gotten me really mad, because these articles want to blame parents for pretty much every societal problem. I want to let you know that you don't have to pay attention to these kinds of headlines and articles that want to blame parents. There are much larger issues at play here. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why so many of the issues being blamed on parents are really not your faultThe difference between individual and societal issues when it comes to raising our kidsHow to filter which information is helpful or true and when someone is just looking for a scapegoatWhy I believe we’re all going to be just fineAs someone who works with moms (and parents in general), I see how much time and energy you are investing, how hard you are working at parenting your kids. You don’t have to be a scapegoat.-------------------------------------As a mom, you’re making a lot of decisions about your child’s health and education, making appointments, looking at different schools and figuring out enrichment activities. You probably internalize that it is your job to have “good” kids, and it’s easy to view your child and their behavior as a result of the work you are putting in. I want to let you know that you don't have to pay attention to these kinds of headlines and articles that want to blame parents. You can just ignore them and move on. There are much larger issues at play here than individual parents and families. The ArticlesOne of the articles I read on ScaryMommy.com titled A Teacher Says The Problem With Kids Today Is A Parenting Problem shares a statistic that 23% of teachers left their school in 2023. In the article, a teacher of 24 years is interviewed and says, “We have raised children to think that they are absolutely the most important person in any room. They are so special that whatever they want to do, or whatever they think, or whatever they say is the most important thing in that moment.”Throughout the interview, she seems to be holding parents responsible for classroom behavior, but she also goes on to say, “Let’s reevaluate our family cultures, our community cultures, and our larger society cultures.”Another article from the LA Times, Millennials gave birth to ‘Generation Alpha.’ Are these kids already doomed?, says that this next generation (born between roughly 2010-2024) are already widely being called “feral”, “illiterate”, and “doomed”. The article goes on to blame bad parenting by millennials, tech companies or both.These kinds of headlines are so discouraging to parents who are doing the best they can, often under really challenging circumstances.There are so many things outside of our control. For example, tech companies and the decisions that they make or curriculum and use of technology in schools. We also had no control over the pandemic. Of course there is going to be an effect and a delay in social and academic skills when much of society was shut down for 18 months during the early years of these kids’ lives. Sometimes, no one is truly at fault. It’s just a crappy situation that we’re trying to work through and figure out. And it’s not fair to put that blame on the parents. Screens in Our SocietyThe LA Times article also references, “the iPad kid is a child who cannot sit through a...
Released:
May 16, 2024
Format:
Podcast episode
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