If you’re listening, Dr. Todd Kashdan hopes you disagree (at least with something). Dr. Kashdan is a leading expert on the psychology of well-being, curiosity, mental flexibility and social relationships. He is currently a Professor of Psychology and founder of the Well-Being Lab at George Mason University. He is an author of five books, including his most recent “The Art of Insubordination: How to dissent and defy effectively”.   In today’s episode Dr. Kashdan discusses why most “rebels” are not effective. The importance of Divergent Thinking. The need to instill fortitude in young athletes and the case for constructive coaching. Lessons learned in motivation from Phil Jackson to Bob Knight. What is principled insubordination and the right way to create change. Why your small talk is terrible and the reason you should embrace emotionally uncomfortable experiences.    Support the Show with Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/kengunter   Chapters:  0:00 - No shortage of rebels, but are they effective? 8:00 - The importance of Divergent Thinking 11:00 - Fortitude - Ted Lasso or Bob Knight 18:00 - The case for constructive feedback 22:00 - How great coaches motivate their players 24:00 - Principled Insubordination - what today’s activists are getting wrong 30:00- What activists can learn from the gay rights movement 35:00 - Manipulation and the strategic path to progress and consideration of your enemy 44:00 - Phil Jackson and Dennis Rodman 46:00 - Relationship between curiosity and intelligence 55:00 - stop having small talk and key to great questions 1:03 - embrace emotionally uncomfortable experiences 1:08 - awareness of your own biases and limitations   Mentioned in Today’s Show:  Books by Dr. Kashdan:  Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively The Upside of Your Darkside: Why Being YTour Whole Self-Not just Your “Good” Self-Drives Success and Fulfillment    Other books mentioned:  “Win Forever: Live, Work, and Play Like a Champion” - By Pete Carroll Grant - By Ron Chernow   Rayden’s story: https://vimeo.com/702702219   Follow Dr. Kashdan website - https://toddkashdan.com/ Twitter: @toddkashdan   For Our Listeners: Hyperice 10% discount for our listeners - https://bit.ly/3IalDa1 Libsyn use promo code “KEN” for 2 months FREE - https://bit.ly/3tNkpxC    Follow The Professional Athlete Podcast with Ken Gunter: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/kengunter Instagram: @kengunter_tpa Website: https://www.kengunter.com/ YouTube: Ken Gunter https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRhgjkoSiJXAbS_MIasvvzQ/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kengunterpodcast Audio recorded with SquadCast: https://squadcast.fm/?ref=kengunter Audio Produced By: Justin Gunter Show Produced By: Ken Gunter, Justin Gunter Content Designer: Austin Suit Music: “Up and Down” by Patrick Sweany