***This episode originally aired on February 16th, 2021***Connection.  Empathizing.  Offering choices.  These parenting ideas sound good in theory but if you are living with a child who seems chronically angry or won’t get out of bed or is otherwise pretty much always unhappy or dysregulated- none of those parenting suggestions seem to do much good.  So…what should you do instead???This episode takes you through the three places I always recommend parents start first when they are trying to support their child who feels chronically dysregulated.1. Food, water, and movement2. Structure, routing, and predictability3. Stick closeThese may or may not help your child to decrease their level of arousal and dysregulation but they are always where I recommend parents start first!Read a full summary or the full transcript at: www.RobynGobbel.com/alwaysdysegulatedFor an introduction to tracking arousal instead of behavior, read this blog: www.RobynGobbel.com/watchdogbrain or listen to episode 4Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain online course:  www.RobynGobbel.com/parentcourseYou can watch the free masterclass on Regulation, Connection, and Felt-Safety right on my website!  www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclassOver on my website you can find:Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With***The Neurobiology of Being With is a two-day IN PERSON experiential workshop for anyone who works with other humans in any professional setting- therapists, educators, coaches- anyone!Brain science + {safety & connection} = TRANSFORMATION.For all helpers and healers.Bloomington, IN- June 1 & 2, 2023.RobynGobbel.com/NeurobiologyofBeingWith ****Ready to dive deeper ?The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and a little education for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. We open periodically for new members! Sign up on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/TheClubBeing With is a year-long training program for professionals. RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith