Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.
Today I am continuing my series on sex toys. So far in this series, I looked at vibrators and a couple of slightly different toys that still vibrate.  If you haven’t had the opportunity to listen, I encourage you to do so.
Today, I’m starting with dildos and butt plugs.  Despite being bisexual, I actually explored butt plugs before exploring dildos.  My early hook ups with women were with women who used vibrators and didn’t like to use dildos or strap-ons.  My early relationships with women were the same.  I found the technicolour dildos a bit frightening.   My first dildo was actually a stainless steel nJoy that could be made ice cold or warm to hot.  It also warmed so beautifully when used.  The texture of the stainless steel is so arousing to me and the nJoy hits the G spot so well.    
The next dildo I experienced was a glass dildo and again this is very temperature sensitive so using it for temperature play is fantastic.  Some of these are works of art and they are often made with ribs, ridges and bumps that touch you in places you never thought you wanted to be touched. 
 
Finally, I was introduced to a proper silicone dildo by a lover who liked to use strap-ons.  She had a bunch of different sizes and would let me choose what I felt like experiencing.  One of them was so large, he was akin to a horse penis and I avoided that one.  I couldn’t figure out how I would ever get it inside me.    These dildos felt as though they were truly attached to my lover, as though she had a dick of her own.  She loved having a dick though she did not identify as male in anyway.  She first exposed me to chicks with dicks.    Jay is also bisexual and she enjoyed fucking men with her dick as much as she enjoyed fucking women with it.    I loved to watch her fuck other people almost as much as I loved to be fucked by her.  Her rapt expressions highlighted her gratification as she rocked her hips with a fury.    
For the next many years, I enjoyed being on the receiving end of a dildo.  I even tried experimenting with double headed dildos.  These can be extreme fun but they take a bit to get the hang of.   I found some of the co-ordination difficult but Jill says that they are her favourite toy and rocking with her girlfriend is a sure way to increase multiple orgasms.
About 5 years ago, a girlfriend asked me to fuck her.  I had tried a strap-on once before but found it awkward.    I wanted to be able to please her so I decided to give it one more try.  To do this, I went to find a better strap on belt and dildo, one that would be easier to manage.  I wanted a dildo that was close to my skin colour.  Though I have never wanted to have a penis, I wanted to try to experience this as being more a part of me as friends had told me that the more I owned the penis, the better I would be at fucking.   I was visiting my then fiancé in Los Angeles so this meant a shopping trip to the Pleasure Chest. 
This trip was filled with laughter as I looked through all of the different possibilities.  There were dildos that were technicolour, some that were huge and others that didn’t really look like penises at all.  First I found a strap-on belt that was a sport style.  I found this far more comfortable than the ones that split my butt cheeks like thongs do.  I found an average size dildo that was close to my skin colour.  My stomach is not flat so when looked down it was the strangest experience because it looked like my own penis.  I identify as a woman for gender and I have always done so.  As a result, this was a surreal moment as I saw my own dick. 
 
Next I felt I needed to learn how to use the strap-on before fucking my date.  Since I had never owned a penis before, I decided to ask an expert – my fiancé.  He had been...