Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.
 
Today I finish my series about the care and feeding of the penis.  Joining me today is Dr Pat Williams. Dr. Pat has been a psychologist and Life coach for over three decades and focuses on people living on purpose, mentally, emotionally, and physically and spiritually.
 
Patrick Williams, Ed.D., MCC, is founder of The Institute for Life Coach Training, the first-of-its-kind training institute that specializes in training psychotherapists, psychologists, counsellors and helping professionals in building a successful coaching practice. He was licensed as a psychologist in 1980 and began executive coaching in 1990 with Hewlett Packard, IBM and Kodak. He was an International Coach Federation founding member and one of the first Master Certified Coaches. Dr Pat is a past ICF board member and past president of ACTO, (Association of Coach Training Organizations) and honorary VP of the International Society for Coaching Psychology Pat’s graduate education is in Humanistic and Transpersonal Psychology.   He co-authored Therapist as Life Coach: Transforming Your Practice and Total Life Coaching: 50+ Life Lessons, Skills, and Techniques to Enhance your Practice and Your life. 
His best-selling book (with Diane Menendez), is Becoming a Professional Life Coach: Lessons from the Institute for Life Coach Training.    Pat also co-edited Law and Ethics of Coaching used at many academic institutions and training schools. His newest book,  Getting Naked: On Emotional Transparency at the Right Time, the Right Place and with the Right Person is available on Amazon and audiobooks.
 
We spent most of our time talking about how important it is to be authentic with a partner and to show up authentically.  Dr Pat spoke about the importance of being able to be naked emotionally with a partner before, during and after sex and we talked about how hard it is for men to be emotionally naked. 
 
Dr Pat suggested that the millennials find sharing emotions easier and I agreed but said that we have not yet made as much progress as I had hoped.  Dr Pat suggested that there should be a broadway show ‘The Penis Monologues’ to compliment the Vagina Monologues and I agreed that this would be a brilliant idea.    We both agreed that men and women still find it hard to create that safe space where they can explore their emotions, work through difficult issues and bring their full selves – warts and all.
 
Dr Pat spoke about how many couples would have longer lasting relationships if they learned to express their full selves and how to work with the ups and downs in relationships.  We spoke about how men are not often taught how to deal with the different issues that arise at different stages of life.  I briefly mentioned the changes men go through physically and emotionally as they get older.  We then talked about how important touch is for all human beings.  Dr Pat highlighted that people are meant to be in relationship to each other.  I agreed and pointed out that people need to learn themselves first and he highlighted that people also learn themselves in relationships.
 
You can find Dr Pat at:
Website:
http://drpatwilliams.com
Free gift for listeners: www.drpatwilliams.com/winner
Facebook: http://facebook.com/doccoach
Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drpatwilliams/
Twitter: @drpatcoach
He is also an expert on Yourtango.com and has a channel on the BonBonNetwork.
Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.
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