Sex Spoken Here:  Sex and Being Trans – E’s Story
 
 
Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.   This week I’m talking with E about being a pre-operative transsexual person and how this impacts sexual relationships.
 
E is at 20 year old trans male who lives in Texas who says he is a ‘huge nerd and adore Harry Potter.  I love to laugh and people tell me I am very deep.’
 
Welcome to the show. 
Erik spoke about being at the stage of saving for hormone treatment and feeling that it was a bit late at 20 years old.  He spoke about how awkward it can be having a female body and identifying as a male when trying to make sexual connections.  He spoke about the importance of people using the pronouns that the person identifies as the ones they prefer and how important talking about sex and gender is when meeting a prospective partner.  He said that he always looks to make sure that things are clear when he first meets someone and that though it is often awkward at the beginning it is less awkward than when this is left until just before something sexual happens.
 
Erik emphasised respect as one of the most important things when dealing with someone from a different gender identification.
 
Today we spoke about being a pre-operative transsexual, negotiating sexual relationships, If you were triggered or if this resonates with you, do email me at drbisbey@the-intimacy-coach.com .
 
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