In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:My long-term girlfriend wants me to talk dirty in bed but I just can’t bring myself to do it. I feel incredibly self-conscious and have no idea what to say. Can you give me some ideas and please don’t make me sound I’m in an awful porn video.I met a guy online and we’re about to meet in person. I found it really easy chatting and flirting with him online or on Zoom but in person I’m not half as confident. I worry when he sees the real me in person he’ll be disappointed. I also gave the impression I’d be open to a lot more things sexually than I really am. What do I do now?How much are we ‘allowed’ to have our own sexual life, indeed sex ‘secrets’ within a relationship? I’m not talking about having an affair, but is it ok to masturbate without telling our partner we’ve done it? I’m assuming that’s a yes, it’s ok, but what about confessing to watching porn when we masturbate? Or having a secret sex toy just for ourselves? And, discussing sex on social media — where should you draw the ‘me only’ line?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.