HOW TO STOP PUTTING SO MUCH PRESSURE ON YOURSELF
PODCAST #367
Putting pressure on yourself doesn't get you better results in life. Pressure just increases stress and makes you overwhelmed. This episode will teach you how to be nicer to yourself and how to use positive motivation instead of negative pressure.

In this podcast episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:

The ways in which we put pressure on ourselves, and what it does to us
Why we put pressure on ourselves
How to stop the pressure-cycle for good and have more happiness



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WHY WE PUT PRESSURE ON OURSELVES
Peel back the onion and don’t just use the cop-out of personality.

Some of it is our wiring, but most of it is a belief system.

As a little girl I believed I could fix my family’s problems if I was just good enough, just successful enough.

What about you?

Resource Mentioned:

Dr. Leaf www.drleaf.com

Dr. Leaf’s TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjhANyrKpv8
3 MAIN TYPES OF PRESSURE WE PUT ON OURSELVES: 
PRESSURE TO BE PERFECT
There is a difference between high achievement and perfection.

Desire to be a certain weight, or parent or achiever.
PRESSURE TO BE SUCCESSFUL
There is a line between a full life and an overwhelmed life

Desire to be impressive, to be admired, to be applauded, to be the best.
PRESSURE TO BE LIKED.
We are wired for connection, but trying to get people to like you is like chasing the wind.

Desire to be popular and praised, to have a guarantee that will never be lonely.

The main three lies we believe (part of the basics of Psychiatry 101):

I’m helpless.

I’m worthless.

I’m unloveable.
PUTTING PRESSURE ON YOURSELF JUST DOESN'T WORK
It fills your life with:
Anxiety

Comparison

Competition

Overwhelm

Overcommitment
And feelings of:
Being less than

Being constantly behind

Being unqualified

Scarcity

Stress

The more pressure you put on yourself, the more prone you will be to the toxic cycle of self-sabotage.

We weren’t created to live in a pressure cooker – we are wired for wild adventure and encouragement.

[Podcast references]

 How to Stop Being So Self-Critical, #366

www.trishblackwell.com/366

How to be Free from People Pleasing, #324

www.trishblackwell.com/324

How to Increase Confidence Through Self-Compassion, #321

www.trishblackwell.com/321

Those anxieties on your heart this morning? I hear them too. I know you felt them when you woke, and when you tossed and turned last night. I get it. Because I have them too.

Anxiety is part of the human condition, but it does not have to be the condition that reigns the directives of your life. It’s okay that you hear them shouting at you, but you need to know that their shouts are empty threats.

The fight for our faith is the most important fight in our lives. For me, as someone who battled anxiety for decades, the battle happens in my thoughts. I am victorious, not because I am strong, but because I am strong in the truth and promises that God has given me.

He has those promises for you too.

I have to revisit those truths every day, and you will need to too. Here are some of the ones that run in my brain,