Developing Healthy Support Networks
Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes
Executive Director, AllCEUs
Podcast Host: Counselor Toolbox
Objectives
~ Define interpersonal effectiveness
~ Identify barriers to interpersonal effectiveness
~ Examine the goals of interpersonal effectiveness
~ Review techniques for improving interpersonal effectiveness
Developing Relationships
~ Relationships are our greatest buffer against stress
~ The first relationship to develop is that with yourself characterized by self-esteem, self-respect and self-compassion.
~ Relationships require attention and a clear awareness of what you want/need/expect from other people and yourself.
~ Make full use of opportunities to interact with others
~ Interact with people who share similar interests and generally respond positively to you.
Interpersonal Effectiveness
~ Interpersonal effectiveness is the ability to
~ Get others to do things you want them to do
~ Get others to take you seriously
~ Effectively say no to unwanted requests
~ Strengthen current relationships
~ Find and build new relationships
~ End hopeless relationships
~ Create and maintain balance
~ Balance acceptance and change
Interpersonal Effectiveness with 7 Habits
~ Be proactive
~ Communicate often and effectively
~ Know what you need and want in life and from others
~ Know what your partner needs**
~ Believe that you deserve what you want
~ Begin with the end in mind
~ What does a good relationship look like?
~ What does it NOT look like?
Interpersonal Effectiveness with 7 Habits
~ Put first things first
~ Prioritize your partner and yourself
~ Don’t sacrifice long term goals for short term relief/urges
~ Think win-win
~ Give up always being right
Interpersonal Effectiveness with 7 Habits
~ Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
~ Be aware of your impact on others
~ Pay attention to transference issues
~ Pay attention with interest and curiosity
~ Avoid assuming what other people think
~ Stop multitasking
~ Stay in the present instead of planning your response
~ Develop good communication skills
~ Be open to new information
~ Let go of judgmental thoughts about others
Interpersonal Effectiveness with 7 Habits
~ Synergize
~ Combine your strengths**
~ Ensure there is give and take
~ Balance your needs and the other person’s needs
~ Sharpen the Saw
~ Dedicate quality time
~ Take time away
Temperament
~ In order to understand what you and others need and effectively communicate and synergize, it is helpful to understand temperament
~ Environment/Socialization
~ Conceptualization
~ Making Meaning/Values
~ Time Management
Temperament
Extrovert
~ Are expansive; less passionate
~ Easy to get to know
~ Like meeting new people
~ Would rather figure things out while they are talking
~ Know what is going on around them rather than inside them
Introvert
~ Are intense and passionate
~ Difficult to get to know
~ Exert effort to meet new people
~ Figure things out before they talk
~ Are more likely to know what is going on inside them
Temperament
Sensing
~ Are practical and realistic
~ Prefer facts and live in the real world
~ Would rather do than think
~ Focus on practical, concrete problems
~ See the details and may ignore the big picture
~ Believe “if it isn’t broken, don’t fix it”
iNtuitive
~ Are imaginative dreamers
~ Prefer abstraction, inspiration, insights
~ Would rather think than do
~ Focus on complicated abstract problems
~ See the big picture but