Unshakeable: Mastering Life's Challenges With Confidence and Resilience

By Theresa de Jesus

In today's fast-paced and demanding world, we often seek guidance and strategies to navigate life's challenges. This book offers 468 powerful self-help tips divided into 52 distinct topics. These tips are tailored to inspire, motivate, and empower you on your journey toward personal growth and self-improvement.

 

Each topic is accompanied by three fast action steps.

 

These steps are designed to push you beyond passive learning, compelling you to take decisive action and integrate the lessons into your daily life.

 

Remember, true transformation happens when knowledge is applied, and we aim to empower you to unleash your full potential.

 

Organizing the tips into manageable sections allows you to easily navigate the book based on your specific needs and interests.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Theresa de Jesus
• Release date: Apr 9, 2024
• ISBN: 9798224048250

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Actions That Destroy Trust

Trust is vital to all our relationships. Your spouse needs to trust you. Friends and family should know they can depend on you. Even your coworkers and colleagues need to trust you. Trust can be fragile, though. Certain actions can irreparably harm trust. Here are nine of them: 

Failing to Show Up on Time

It might seem small, but showing up when you say you will be critical. Always being late or not texting or calling when you say you will plant seeds of doubt as to your trustworthiness.

Not Walking the Walk

Authenticity begins by doing what you say you will do. When you don’t, your partner or other loved ones will question everything you say. When your actions don’t line up with your talk, you are telling the world more than you think.

Refusing to Admit Mistakes

You are going to be wrong once in a while. If you want others to trust you, admit when you are wrong. It’s better to admit you made a mistake than to play it off or push it onto someone else.

You Don’t Listen to Others

Spacing out when someone is sharing their emotions with you hurts the relationship. If they cannot trust you to listen, they will be less likely to share, and the relationship will be damaged.

Gossiping About Others

Spreading gossip may make you feel better about yourself, but it doesn’t do much for trust. If you are willing to talk about others behind their backs, what do you have to say about those closest to you? Can they trust you to keep a secret?

You Have a Bad Temper 

Do you lose your cool quickly? Do others feel like they must walk on eggshells around you? That’s not a good sign. It reinforces to your family and friends that you cannot be trusted to hear bad news. 

Too Many White Lies

White lies may be common for you, but that doesn’t mean your relationships won’t suffer. How can someone trust you if they know you will lie to get out of sticky situations? Dishonesty breeds mistrust.

Refusing To Compromise

Give-and-take is needed in all relationships, especially romantic ones. If you are never willing to compromise, you tell others that your needs are more important than theirs.

You Don’t Share Personal Matters

You don’t have to share everything with everyone. There are times and places to do so, but a lack of sharing can also put a wall between you and others. Walls can cause distrust.

FAST-ACTION STEPS

Stop and consider how you may be subtly sabotaging your relationships. If you are always late, set an alarm to remind you to leave on time. Even 15 minutes early can mean much to others.

Ask others to weigh in on your trustworthiness. It can be hard to hear what they have to say, but it will be worth it. You will know how others see you and make needed changes. Soon, your relationships will benefit as you become someone to be trusted.

Take feedback and process it. If you are told that you have a hair-trigger temper, investigate strategies to control it. The goal is to take one piece of information and use that to change habits to become a trustworthy person.

Easy Ways to Recharge Your Mind

Your mind is constantly on - from when your feet hit the floor until your head hits the pillow. All the scurrying around with daily duties can drain you physically and mentally. Reaching for your device to watch some brain-draining videos is not always the answer. Here are nine different ways to recharge your mind that are simple and effective.

Get the Right Amount of Sleep

A rested brain is a recharged brain. The goal should be to get the right amount of good sleep. Experts suggest seven to nine hours is optimal for most. If you get less than six, you will find your mind fuzzy and decision-making skills taxed.

Exercise

Physical exercise strengthens more than it does. The endorphins released during walking, running, or other activities leave you feeling great. Your mind is sharper and more positive, too.

Eat Healthily

Food feeds your body and your mind. Think about the sugar crash you have after eating ice cream. Not only does your body pay, but your mind can, too. Give your body the right food, and you will find your mind thanking you.

Make a Moment for Meditation

Meditating will calm your mind since it causes you to slow down and focus. You find your purpose and enjoy a release of stress with each deep breath. When done, enjoy a rejuvenated mind.

Get Out Your Journal

Writing down your thoughts helps you put a busy day into perspective. It allows you to slow down, get that jumbled mess out of your brain, and decompress. 

Learn a New Skill

Another way to recharge your mind is to learn something new. Brains get bored with the same daily routines. Give yourself something challenging like memorizing a poem or tackling a crossword puzzle. Building your memory muscles will make both your mind and you happy.

Go on a Technology Fast 

Technology encourages us always to be connected. The effects are overstimulated brains in desperate need of rest. Social media can also affect your emotional health as you see ‘perfect’ lives broadcast before you. Give your mind the gift of technology fast.

Take It Back to Childhood

Sometimes it is the simple pleasures that help you unwind. Remember lying on the floor coloring a giant bird or racing car? With each crayon stroke, you release your creativity (and stress) even as a child. Maybe it is time to reengage with your inner child.

Call a Loved One or Friend

Sometimes recharging comes in the form of a chat with your best friend. Talking about what is happening in your life helps you decompress and get a new perspective on things. You might even get some inspiration for a problem or challenge you are trying to solve.

FAST-ACTION STEPS

Start with your physical health. If you are not getting enough sleep, challenge yourself to build the habit of getting at least seven hours of sleep. You may need to set alarms to remind you to go to bed on time.

Grab a blank notebook and start writing. You don’t have to worry about following grammar rules. Instead, concentrate on emptying your mind of all those tasks and thoughts cluttering it.

Call a loved one. They’d love to hear from you. Chat about your favorite memories. Laugh and enjoy the bond you are forging.

Times To Say No

Everyone should learn to say no. You may find that statement hard to swallow if you are a People Pleaser. If you struggle with saying 'yes' too much in your daily life, you will be less happy and more frustrated. Learn to regain your happiness by saying No more often.

Expectations of Perfection

Whether it is your own or someone else's expectation – perfection is a myth. Seeking to perform flawlessly does two things, it gives you an excuse to procrastinate and makes you miserable. Why constantly strive to attain perfection when it is impossible? Learn that great is good enough.

Requests That Aren't Your Responsibility

While it is nice to help people out once in a while, don't be afraid to say no to requests that aren't your responsibility. This is especially important when you are crushed for time, or your own work is starting to suffer.

Requests That Go Against Your Core Values

Everyone has their own personal code, and you must honor it. If someone is asking you to do something that goes against your core values, they either don't know you or respect you enough to request something.

Something You Can't Follow Through On

If someone asks you to do something you know you can't accomplish, then why say yes? You are only setting both of you up for failure. Be honest if you know you won't be able to finish a task, and let the person know you can't take it on.

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Things That Hold You Back From Your Goals

All of us have (or should have) goals in life. You need time, resources, and energy to reach these goals. If you give up too much of that for other people, your goals may suffer.

When You Are Feeling Overloaded

If you are super busy with your own life, adding anyone else's tasks to your list is borderline cruel. Burnout is a real thing, and if you are barely keeping your head above water with your own life, you simply can't take on the burdens of

others.

You Feel Guilty

Saying yes should never happen just because you feel too guilty to say no. If it is a reasonable request that won't impact you, it is fine to say yes. However, if the only reason you are saying yes is because you feel too uncomfortable saying no, then that is an