An Ocean Without: Learning to Embrace Boundaries: A Story in Poems
By Sarah Steele
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An attempt to live wholeheartedly within her Christian community led Sarah Steele into the trap of people-pleasing. What started as selfless giving escalated into a life-sucking addiction...until she was confronted with her own humanity as she faced a need that she could not fill and was forced
Sarah Steele
Sarah Steele is a poet and lifelong teacher. These days, that looks like leading her four lively redheads in their Michigan homeschool and engaging with students of all ages in poetry workshops, watercolor classes, nature studies, Bible discussions, and neighborhood book clubs. You can find Sarah's poems in many publications, including The Way Back to Ourselves, where she is an editor. She has published two alphabet books with her graphic designer husband (yes, also a redhead). This is her first book for grownups.
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An Ocean Without - Sarah Steele
Prologue
Redeemed I
I used to love and serve
and give sacrificially.
It made me feel
good and worthy.
But one day,
my love was not enough;
my service was unwanted;
and the sacrifice was me.
It made me feel
broken and useless
and very afraid.
Today I love and serve
and give sacrificially.
And I don’t feel anything
but gratitude to God.
This book is the story
of what happened
in between.
chapter one
Swimming
fear of insignificance
i became friends with
people who needed me,
to whom i would not be
expendable.
empathy
i see your pain and
hear your pain and
feel your pain
in the depths of my soul.
i’m not sure how i
can sustain your
life with mine,
but i’ll try to control
the pain you feel and
the pain you hold and
the pain that’s
coursing through your life.
i’ll be there for you;
i’ll see you through,
and you won’t bear alone
one more moment of strife.
come to me,
all you who are weary
and heavy-laden,
and i will give you rest.
—only Jesus should say that
lies i tell my friends
i am big enough
for all your problems.
out of my way
i am an endless source
of energy and
helpfulness;
i identify problems
and enact solutions.
no consultation
necessary.
—you’re welcome
the helper’s high
inhale the air of needs
exhale nervous energy
inhale others’ pain
exhale mounting anticipation
inhale a plan to help
exhale the assistance
inhale their gratitude
exhale—and look for more
Needy Servant
You don’t have to say a thank-you.
(I might crumble if you don’t.)
You don’t have to see my service.
(I won’t be hurt—I won’t.)
Maybe I should serve you longer
or louder for a time;
I’d just hate for you to miss me
while I’m in my service prime.
Yes
Yes, I’ll hear your fears
and offer help;
you don’t need to implore me.
Yes, I’ll text you back
with hours of thought;
it’s okay if you ignore me.
Yes, I’ll wash your clothes
and clean your house
and scrub your dishes too.
Yes, I’ll gather
other helpers up;
it’s the least that I can do.
Yes, I’ll give you milk
I pumped myself,
while I eat your special diet.
Yes, I’m sorry that
I once complained;
I’m thrilled you made me try it.
Yes, I’m here to serve,
I aim to please,
and all those other isms.
(I just can’t say no
and open myself up
to criticism.)
good girls don’t swear
boundaries is the
christian b-word,
and i want nothing
to do with them.
but a friend says
boundaries
are important,
so i roll my eyes
and give it a whirl.
i tried || boundaries: take one
um hi!
how are ya?
oh not great?
tough day?
ugh, i’m sorry to hear that;
that’s really terrible.
so this probably isn’t a good time,
but i was thinking about
stepping back and
helping juuuust a little bit less
and was wondering—
what’s that?
oh, things are actually getting worse for you,
and really, if anything, you need more?
of course!
how thoughtless of me!
how selfish!
no, no, it’s really no trouble.
i’d love to keep it up.
i mean, truly, it’s a gift to ME
to serve in this way.
how ‘bout this:
whenever you’re ready for less,
you let me know,
and i’ll stay over here
plugging away until then.
of course!
don’t give it another thought.
love you;
hope tomorrow’s better!
close call
stomach tightens
then releases
with the conflict
just avoided.
giving people
what they ask for
isn’t like being exploited.
it’s just helping me
to be less selfish
when my needs are voided.
disappointing others
is worse than
disappointing myself.
for if you’re disappointed,
surely God is too.
shutting down
i know about anger,
know how to be bitter,
am constantly frustrated,
but
these heart palpitations
are brand-new sensations—
seems safer to keep my heart
shut.
numb
i live in a constant
state of denial—
nothing hurts;
nothing’s wrong;
i am fine.
relationships are painful;
tasks are rewarding.
—stay busy
last one caring
must be