A Better You Experience
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“For we live by faith, not by sight.”
??2 Corinthians? ?5?:?7? ?NIV??
A Better You Experience will provide you with the necessary steps to thrive in those initial years of adulthood, leading to a life of fulfillment.
This life changing approach to taking on adulthood will provide you with the tools to:
• Realize with God you can become the best version of yourself
• Understand success is in your hands, no matter your life’s circumstances
• Lean on God, trust God and know that things will work out according to God’s plan
If you are already experiencing consequences from the fumbles of your past, you don’t need to spend another moment dwelling and looking in the rear view. This book will put you on the path of recovery to walk in your purpose and be a better you. The choice is yours!
Candace Williams
After undergoing a few unexpected roadblocks due to poor choices, Candace took an introspective look within, started to listen to God, and explore the plans he had for her. In doing so, she learned that although initiation into adulthood can be daunting many of the things she was facing were due to her own decisions. Candace attentively listened to God for instructions on how to recover from her past and become the best version of herself. In efforts to prohibit other young women from enduring similar challenges, She wrote A Better You Experience with the intent of giving women practical tools to confidently walk into adulthood. Ultimately, this book promotes the cultivation of better decision-making. Candace’s care and compassion for young women allowed her to compose each chapter of this book with vulnerability and selflessness in efforts for you to become A Better You!
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A Better You Experience - Candace Williams
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Contents
Foreword
Preface
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter 1How to Sustain during Celibacy
Chapter 2Generational Curses
Chapter 3Healing from Hurt Caused by Self-Sabotage
Chapter 4Enhancing Your Relationship with Christ
Chapter 5Finding Purpose and Tapping into It
Chapter 6Tired of Making the Same Mistakes
Chapter 7Self-Confidence While Walking with God
Chapter 8Explore and Maximize Possibilities in your life
Chapter 9Outlining Goals That Align with Your Purpose(s)
Chapter 10Improve Your Effectiveness by Staying Focused
Chapter 11Improve Relationships on All Aspects of the Spectrum
Chapter 12Choosing Not to Turn Back: Staying Connected with Who God Called You to Be
Chapter 13Financial Stewardship and Giving
Chapter 14The Conclusion
Foreword
As a school psychologist for nearly fifteen years, I’ve seen first-hand the impact of how decisions made in one’s young adult years can influence outcomes and realities later in life.
Since we met in kindergarten, Candace and I didn’t know that our lives would parallel and that we would actually walk an integral part of our journeys together. After losing contact in junior high school, we discovered that we were sitting in a worship service one Sunday morning, and we’ve been inseparable ever since.
Before that unexpected meeting, we were unaware that we had both been in emotionally bankrupt romantic relationships with men we loved and adored, but the relationships were leading nowhere! We wore our external smiles and would meet up for our BFF bonding moments over fine dining and weekend brunches. However, we were both aching inside. This was partly because we longed for a lover who would treat us right and be the men we ultimately needed them to be! Besides, we were both great catches! Candace had a booming career, she drove a luxury car, she had a beautiful city apartment, and she was simply waiting for love to find her.
I had obtained my third degree in psychology, also drove a luxury vehicle, had excellent credit, and was wondering why the man I loved hadn’t chosen me as his wife. What Candace and I needed most was a lover of our souls, and we would never thirst again (John 4:13–14 NIV).
After receiving a promotion in my field, I changed employers and moved to suburbia. It was in this move that I felt incredibly alone but closer to God than ever before. Ironic, right?
I noticed a change in myself: I simply wanted more of God! Finding a man became less important, and wanting to please God became paramount. Similarly, I noticed a change in Candace. She started talking less and less about men and more about wanting to invest in quality friendships and meaningful bonds. At that point, unbeknown to us, we became accountability partners. We spent countless moments conversing about God’s desires for our lives.
Sweet friendships refresh the soul and awaken our hearts with joy, for good friends are like the anointing oil that yields the fragrant incense of God’s presence. (Proverbs 27:9 TPT)
Having walked parallel paths filled with triumphs and failures, poor decisions and excellent ones, there is a validity that comes from the authenticity of one’s lived experience. Candace gives a bird’s-eye view of how her failed attempts at living a life without God led to her truly living her best life with God at the center of it all! She details topics that range from struggles in romantic relationships to internal battles with self to familial dynamics that leave readers in awe of her resiliency. The authenticity of this book will take you on a journey that will have you captivated and intrigued about how to start your journey to becoming a better you!
As a woman who has walked a journey of self-discovery and learned by experience alone, having this book in my repertoire would have alleviated tearful nights, moments of regret, and questions of whether I made the right decision. This book will provide you with the tools necessary to evolve into a better version of yourself with the confidence that you are on the right road! This book is synonymous with having a life coach at your fingertips in book form!
The practical applications and tools offered here can be applied to your life now and in the future.
Tamika Sanders, EdS, NCSP
Preface
Better /bedar/: of a more excellent or effective type or quality.[Oxford Dictionary]
I made the decision to work on self-improvement because I realized that attracting better things in life starts with me. As I strive to become a better version of myself, I know that I will naturally attract better opportunities and experiences. The key lies in personal growth and self-development, and I am determined to embrace this journey wholeheartedly. The more I invest in my own growth, the more positivity and abundance I will attract into my life!
Hello, everyone! I’m Candace. I’m excited to share the story behind A Better You Experience, which was inspired by a transformative moment in my life. It happened on a particularly gloomy afternoon when I parked my car at work, feeling overwhelmed and burdened by the careless decisions I had made throughout my young adult years. The downward spiral of my life and the emotional roller coaster had taken their toll.
In that moment, I had a profound realization that I needed a change. I was determined not to continue living without God’s guidance. With sincerity in my heart, I offered a short yet sincere prayer, and that marked the turning point in my life. From that moment onward, everything began to shift for the better:
Heavenly Father, I come before you with a humble heart. I desire your presence and guidance in my life. I acknowledge that my way has not always been aligned with your will, and I now surrender my desires to yours. I earnestly seek to walk closely with you, and I yearn for your divine plan to unfold in my life.
Please, dear God, enter my heart and cleanse me from my sins and the mistakes I’ve made. Grant me the strength to learn from my past and move forward with wisdom and grace. I long to live a purposeful and fulfilled life, one that is devoted to serving you and others.
Thank you for your unending love and forgiveness. I commit to following your lead and seeking your guidance in every aspect of my life. May I be a vessel of your light and love, shining brightly in the world around me. With faith and trust in your providence, I pray this with all my heart.
Amen.
I wrote A Better You Experience to inspire young women to reach for their highest potential and discover their true selves through a connection with God. This book serves as a guiding light, leading readers towards aligning with God’s will and purpose for their lives. Within its pages, you’ll gain valuable insights into my personal journey—how God molded my mindset and enabled me to evolve into a stronger, more fulfilled woman. I firmly believe that, with unwavering faith and determination, we can overcome any obstacles and embrace lives of fulfilment and purpose. Remember, this journey is not a sprint; it’s a marathon. Every day presents an opportunity to become better than we were before. Let’s embark on this transformative journey together and strive to become the best versions of ourselves. I made a conscious decision to strive for improvement, recognizing that it all begins with personal growth. As I progress and evolve, with God, I am confident that the positive changes within myself will naturally attract better opportunities and experiences.
My hope in sharing my experiences is twofold: firstly, to offer women the opportunity to learn from my mistakes, and secondly, to inspire them to embark on their own path of personal growth, pursuing the fulfilment and purpose that await them.
This book is for you if:
• You find yourself exhausted from repeating the same mistakes.
• You are grappling with issues related to self-esteem.
• You desire positive change in your life but lack the appropriate tools to grow into a better version of yourself.
• You yearn for more fulfilment and purpose in your life.
• You seek to identify and strengthen your connection with your faith, specifically with Christ.
• You aim to cultivate a deeper and more meaningful relationship with Christ.
• You are eager to uncover the hidden, better side of your true self.
Acknowledgments
When you’re on a journey to becoming a better person, there are moments when you’ll find yourself seeking comfort in discomfort. During those tender moments, I felt lonely and struggled through numerous sleepless nights, unable to see the light at the end of the tunnel. However, I persisted in choosing God and His path, which eventually led to personal growth and a better version of myself, even though it didn’t feel that way at first.
In my quest to become a better version of myself, I fervently prayed for divine guidance, pleading, God, please send me my team.
Gratitude fills my heart as God graciously granted my request, connecting me with like-minded individuals who not only uplift and encourage me but also hold me accountable on this transformative journey. Among these cherished souls is my dear sister, Titania, whose unwavering love and the unbreakable bond we’ve nurtured over the past nine years have profoundly shaped the woman I am today.
To my sister-cousin, Michele, I extend my deepest thanks for your unwavering affection. Your presence in my life during the times of greatest need has been a profound source of comfort. I still remember the moment I surrendered my heart and life to God, with you on the other end of the line, a compassionate listener to my tears. That act of kindness shall forever be etched in my heart, and I will always cherish our connection.
For my beloved cousins, Jessica and Lucinda, you have been my pillars of accountability, my ever-ready companions in those moments when I needed a gentle nudge to keep moving forward. Your impactful conversations and unyielding motivation have been invaluable, propelling me through life’s challenges with renewed determination.
To my sister, confidante, and dearest friend, Tamika, words cannot express the depth of my gratitude. Your unwavering patience and constant support have meant the world to me on this daunting journey called life. Your presence has been a soothing balm, and I treasure every moment we share.
My heartfelt appreciation goes out to my brother, Grady. Your honesty and steadfast reminders of my true identity have been a beacon of clarity in times of doubt. Your unwavering belief in me has been a source of strength, and I am forever indebted to your unwavering presence in my life.
I am grateful for the unwavering love and support of my cherished family and exceptional support system. Your unconditional care and dedication have touched my heart in ways words can scarcely express. To Annie Verdie, Dawn Marie, Jadea Marie, and Aunty Lucinda, thank you for being the backbone of my journey, for standing by my side through both triumphs and trials. Your presence on my team fills me with strength, comfort, and inspiration.
Dearest Daddy, I am filled with gratitude for your unwavering presence in my life, especially during the times when it truly counted. Your constant belief in me and the way you wholeheartedly recognize my potential have left an indelible mark on my soul. Your encouraging words, assuring me that everything I undertake is remarkable, resonate deeply within me and will remain etched in my heart for all time. Mommy, your boundless tenderness, love, patience, and kindness have bestowed upon me immeasurable blessings. Words cannot adequately express the depth of affection I hold for you. I am humbled and privileged to be in a position where I can reciprocate the care and support you have selflessly showered upon me. Together, you both have played pivotal roles in shaping the person I have become. Your unconditional love and unwavering support have been the foundation upon which I have built my life. With hearts overflowing with appreciation, I cherish the love and guidance you have bestowed upon me, and I eagerly look forward to creating many more treasured moments together.
PK—Queen Prophetess Katara—you are the crowning glory of this journey. With divine inspiration, you have propelled everyone to reach greater heights. Our faithful prophetic gatherings every Friday night over the past three years have been instrumental in propelling me toward my destiny. Your impact on my life is immeasurable, and I am eternally blessed to be connected with you.
Together, we form an unbreakable bond that enriches my life beyond measure. With utmost gratitude, I extend my heartfelt appreciation for each of you, for you are the pillars that make my world brighter and my heart lighter.
Introduction
Bumpy Beginnings
The ultimate aspiration is to cultivate an extraordinary and profound relationship with Christ, embracing the boundless blessings within His kingdom. As appealing as this goal may be, achieving it proves to be a journey of its own complexities. Personally, I have discovered that the path towards such a connection with Christ is far from effortless; it demands dedication, self-reflection, and spiritual growth. Nonetheless, the pursuit of this divine bond is undeniably rewarding, unlocking a world of abundant grace and fulfilment.
From an external perspective, I can genuinely say that I had a wonderful childhood. Growing up in a middle-class family, I was fortunate to have both my parents living under the same roof. My father, in particular, went above and beyond for our family. He tirelessly worked one full-time job and even during the holidays each year, he would take up a part-time job just to ensure we woke up to smiles on Christmas morning, greeted by a towering stack of gifts.
Over the passing years, my mother’s mental well-being gradually deteriorated as she faced the burdens and challenges that life presents. I distinctly recall the poignant moments when, after school, I would visit her at a mental institution. The heartbreaking reality of being separated by a glass barrier prevented any physical connection; I longed to hold her, offer comfort, and express my love. Even now, discussing these memories, my emotions remain raw, and tears well up in my eyes. I sincerely pray for grace and healing for my beloved mother.
Though she continues to grapple with her own battles, she has evolved since those difficult days when I was just a thirteen-year-old, observing her through the restrictive lens of a glass partition, almost a quarter-century ago. Despite the hurdles she faces, she has grown, and the woman before me now is not the same mother I knew back then.
During that time, it goes without saying that I faced significant struggles as a teenager. Adapting to various challenges while managing my pain and keeping up with school became an immense burden. My high school years were marked by constant fights and conflicts.