Lovez That Suffocate

By Guillermo Pegoraro

This book is a valuable tool for those seeking to understand and overcome toxic relationships, codependency, jealousy, and family violence. With details and practical advice, the author addresses these sensitive issues in a clear and understandable way, providing valuable guidance for those looking to improve their relationships and overcome personal challenges. Additionally, the book also includes warnings about evil personalities and how to identify them, making it essential reading for those looking to protect themselves and loved ones from toxic relationships. In summary, if you are looking for valuable guidance on improving your relationships and overcoming personal challenges, this book is an excellent choice.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Guillermo Pegoraro
• Release date: Oct 25, 2023
• ISBN: 9798223812678

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loves

that suffocate

Obsessive, jealous, and perverse

Marcus W Oliver

Editorial Anuket

Contents:

Chap. 1 Sick loves

Chap. 2 Nature of jealousy

Chap. 3 Pathological jealousy

Chap. 4 Envy

Chap. 5 Dealing with jealousy and envy

Chap. 6 Codependency

Chap. 7 How to get rid of codependency

Chap. 8 Perverse personalities and family violence

Chapter 1

Sick loves

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Although in love there is always an element of sacrifice (giving), in normal relationships there is always a balance between giving and what is received in return. As for pathological love, it is a one-sided game, where one believes that one always gives, and rarely feels that one receives something, more often, nothing that one really believes one needs.

From a clinical point of view, pathological love is a form of addiction toward something, such as addiction to sex or gambling. In this case, a person becomes obsessed with love, and with the entire process that it represents.

As with any other dependency, the process has no normal starts or ends.

This is a pathological picture of excitation self-feeding without end or edges. And just as the alcoholic never gets fed up with alcohol and wants more and more, the love addict never feels satisfied in the relationship and remains grateful, but always requires something more.

Such relationships begin, as a general rule, with a rapprochement between the parties, rapid and without depth (therefore, no normal limits are established), where the obsessive establishes the rules, generally, about another with a more personality. weak.

This type of bad love has more to do with obsession and power than with tenderness and freedom. It is known that one has fallen into the traps of pathological love when control over one's own behavior begins and the feeling that they have us on a leash.

In any case, the first sign that everything is going wrong will be the violation of one's own freedom.

Love is a complex of feelings and emotions expressed by the manifestation of sympathy for someone. Not the clearest explanation, right? We are used to something completely different, more romantic, and complex.

For many of us, love is wings on the back, a sense of importance, a need for another, a desire to bring joy and care, and a need to protect someone. For some, this feeling is associated with euphoria and calmness, for others, it is torment, pain, and suffering.

It happens that love is perceived as the highest form of responsibility, obligation, and necessity. Many women (mothers) consider that love is total guardianship and the need to make decisions for their children. I do this or that because I love him and I wish him all the best, they say. But in many cases, when the balance is broken, hyper custody appears, which results in the poor maturation of the child and his right to choose, growing up with a weak character, which can become an adult, in low self-esteem. or repressed anger that explodes with his partner on duty.

Everything would be clearer if people understood that there is no single definition of love. Scientists have gone crazy trying to explain what happens in romantic relationships.

Sigmund Freud, with respect to falling in love quoted In the blindness of love we become criminals without remorse; referring to the fact that, in this narcotic state of emotions, we see the perfect other, without blemishes, worthy of being considered a king or princess, and we leave our identity, our pride, and become his vassals.

From hormones to mental disorders, from biologists to psychiatrists; all have studied love; but a consensus has never been reached that explains all the variables because the culture and personality of the protagonists simply interfere.

Let's try to lighten the bibliography and divide love into two categories. one of which is healthy, and the other pathological.

The loved ones do not abandon you, says the obsessive, so they press until the end.

It is recounted from every children's book and a TV screen that the prince loves the princess and does things for her (even fighting a dragon if necessary); and of course, she gives herself totally and completely to him, because she is a prince, obviously.

But it's unclear how the princess learned the correct way to express her feelings while locked in the tower. Who tells girls how to love and what love is?

Who explains to the boys that love is not a competition, an achievement, winning, or conquering. Everything is beautiful in fairy tales, but we are not part of them.

The point is, that culture educates us about imaginary ideals, but life is what teaches you about the right balance that can make you happy, or it's the opposite that can kill you.

There are no princes in shining armor (they always have some hidden rust), nor are there any princesses who have to be chased to measure a shoe (if she's hiding, she's not being honest).

Pathological love is a feeling based on dependence, the satisfaction of personal needs, and possession. It stops being attractive because it always leads to a tragedy called abuse.

Pathological love is the result of fear and almost always of total indifference to the other's feelings. This situation is easily explained with a few phrases: I can't live without you, I won't let you go out with anyone, just me, I'll kill anyone who gets close to you, I'll kill you if you reject me, and finally We've reached the limit! because it doesn't make sense without you!

As ugly as it looks, this is all love, which is not only well-known but also actively promoted by leading actors in film and television dramas. A loving person always crosses mountains, worries, reaches out and uses all available resources to finally get what he wants. But then what? What if the partner feels uncomfortable, has entered a new stage of development, and the other is just as obsessive? What if someone you love wants to leave? What if they don't love you anymore? Wasn't it