The Calm Storm of Marriage: Until Death Do You Part

By James E. Williams III

This book is a guide from a male perspective to an everlasting relationship with the essential tools needed to keep your marriage up and running in the race of life. If your marriage is boring, you are on the verge of divorce, or you are tired of the same old thing every day, this book will help you get over that hump in your marriage. Just remember that every marriage is a storm that you must fight to keep every day.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Nov 7, 2011
• ISBN: 9781465385031

James E. Williams III

I am 28 years of age and have been a “military brat” since I was born. I have my BA in Psychology and currently trying to purse my dreams of being a Clinical Psychologist. Currently right now, I am in the military so it is fair to say, “where ever l lay my hat is my home.” My hobbies are doing anything that does not cause negative stress. I do write poems and plan to one day publish them. As I get older, I do find that I like more and more healthy foods because my metabolism keeps slowing down. Well if I had to sum up myself in one word, I would use the word “versatile.” I have however created my own value statement: “As I am on my journey towards a PhD I will do my best to uphold pride and professionalism in all that I do. I will give each issue or task that I receive my upmost and personal attention. Making sure, I never forget where I came from and that once I get where I am going to still strive on to an improved goal. While I am wishing to never lose sight of myself or my ultimate goal which is helping the world one person at a time.”

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Copyright © 2011 by James E. Williams III.

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The Calm Storm

of Marriage

Until Death Do You Part

This book is a heterosexual guide to an everlasting relationship with the essential tools needed to keep your marriage up and running in the race of life. If your marriage is boring, you are on the verge of divorce, or you are tired of the same old thing every day, this book will help you get over that hump in your marriage. Just remember that every marriage is a storm that you must fight to keep every day.

James E. Williams III

Contents

1 The Alpha

2 A Little about Me

3 Reason for My Words

4 Bible Verses

5 A Time to Focus

6 The Secret

7 Command and Supremacy

8 How to Really Love Your Spouse²

9 Until Death Do You Part

10 Five Ways a Spouse Should Be²

11 A Frame of Mind

12 Make Your Marriage Last Forever

13 A Proposal of Submission²

14 It Takes Two

15 Superiority is Chief²

16 Women, It’s OK to Masturbate³

17 Sex and Intimacy

18 Sexual Positions⁴

19 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Fresh

20 Keeping the Flame of Love Lit in Your Marriage

21 Sex 101

22 Sex 101

23 Foods to Increase Your Sex Drive⁸

24 Same Old Thing Routine

25 Bedroom Manners and Rules

26 Just a Little Closer

27 Ingenious Ideas in the Bedroom

28 Remember the Reasons You Got Married

29 Nothing to Be Frightened of²

30 Your Perseveration of Existence²

31 Conviction is everything²

32 Fortification in Time²

33 Requirements to a Happy Marriage

34 Masterpiece of Exhaustion²

35 Escape with Liberation²

36 Times of Yore²

37 Mask Your Disrespect

38 Imminent Forthcoming

39 My Assumption

40 Words to my Wife*

41 Words to Live By⁹

To:___________________________________________________________

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Date:_________________________________________________________

Message:_______________________________________________________

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Dedicated to my Atlisa, my lioness, my Peachez—my wife

Acknowledgments

Just want to thank God because without him, we are nothing but ashes. Also, I want to thank all the people who helped get me to this new echelon of life, my level.

In addition I must acknowledge Stormie Omartian because if not for her book I would not have been inspired to even write this book.

Special Thanks

Special thanks go to two Marines that got things started on this path of oneness with my marriage and had me give my word that I would publish this book:

S. Stratton

C. Garcia

Thanks for everything and keep smoking those cigars and listening to the old school music and jazz, because that is where true enlightenment truly comes from. God bless you both and your wives as well. May your wives know that you are great men that are capable of great and wonderful things!

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The Alpha

My name is James Emmanuel Williams III. Currently I am serving in the U.S. Navy fighting war in the Middle East yet again but Afghanistan this time. I am a corpsman, so that means that I save lives for a living and I love it even though the leadership sucks at times. The only way I can describe that is by this quote that I heard in this movie I saw on my most recent deployment, a guy said, Never have I seen so many lions led by lambs. I do my best to bring every one of my marines back alive and well mentally, physically, and psychologically. That is not always the case because you cannot save everybody, but it is my job to give my all. Yet I know you cannot save them all, yet still I am willing to die trying.

Back in the day, people called this the white man’s war, but now with all the politics, I do not know what this is, but I still yearn to be free. I have written this book while I was in OEF during the year 2010 because I have loved the wrong women for too long; I want everybody to run from a bad relationship right now. If the shoes do not fit, do not damn wear it. Life is entirely too short to be unhappy. This book will initiate help for marriages producing couples to last forever because back in the United States, many have forgotten what marriage is all about. In a way, this is a ghetto fireproof with knowledge about everything in and outside a marriage and long-lasting relationships. If you follow this book to the letter and make each situation your own, I guarantee your marriage will not fail. Do not get things wrong, the road will be rough and rugged, but if you try, there is no means to an end.

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A Little about Me

I have been divorced and now on my second marriage. It took me my first year in my second marriage to know that I have had the wrong concept of what marriage is really all about. In life, I became like the world all about self. That was not the case when I married my first wife, but I will say that I did marry her for the wrong reasons and we both knew it but did not want to say it aloud. Therefore, as our marriage floated along, well better say rose to the surface.

I am direct and up front about what I want, my love nature is well developed, but my fire will burn out just as quickly. It may be bad, but I am rather a what about me person when it comes to the nature of my love, more like the way of a newborn child. My infatuations are quick and all encompassing. I do love a chase but would rather be the one to purse a love interest. I am quite competitive in social and romantic situations. When in love with a person, I am silly and take the leap of faith role because I jump from the tallest building, closing my eyes visioning only the task at hand… my lover. I lack the skills it takes to wait for something, when I want it; I want it is right now. I am a man, and I do have emotions too but mine are impulsive like a lion in the jungle. That is why I could be attracted to different types of people. That is not to say I am dating different types of people because my lioness would kill me but the attraction I was talking about extends on into conversations, people’s beliefs, cultures, etc. I am very diverse but I do not like to associate with a whining or dependent person because I will become weary of that personality quick. I love excitement in my life all the time. I am highly demonstrative and open hearted in most matters I encounter, especially if the matter touches my heart. In life, I am spontaneous yet direct with the situations. I really try to surround myself with real truthful people who are lively and ride or die to the heart and soul. Those types of people can take a joke but can give one back just as well as they took one while never crossing the line on purpose. The type individual who is able to use past knowledge at the right time and the right place not for bad, only for good or to prove a point of sincerity on a matter. I hate snakes and snitches with a passion, so to me, I only do two things with them, kill them or avoid them.

A snake is that person that slithers around trying to befriend you and only out for themselves. In the military, most of the snakes are the ones with their head up some higher-ranking person’s anus. Trust me, you know that type. Alternatively, that person in leadership that is really just out to get their own rank and will only give you a second look when somebody else comes around to prevent somebody from knowing that their leadership skills are below average and they got to where they are now by handouts and foreign languages. If you think I am talking about you, then I probably am. But you know you are a snake, so slither on. You can kick rocks, hard up a stream. So keep trying to throw rocks with your mouth because you cannot hide behind your rank forever. Cut the grass and the snakes with show. So let it be.

I know that I got offtrack for a moment, but you have to get all the frustration and anger out your system. Don’t keep it all in because you may just explode at the wrong time at the wrong place on the wrong person, and you are standing in the middle of nowhere yelling at somebody who does not even know half of what you are talking about. I have done it before, so I will not judge you.

I am very outgoing and have an active spirit. I think of myself as an intellectual, yet we are all ignorant in some topics. I am not aggressive, but I can be so try not to take my kindness or passion as a weakness. Remember that you can take nothing from a man who feels he has nothing to lose so his possibilities are endless and very unpredictable. I do have a tendency to be jealous, and when I am in love, I want a great deal of that love if not all of it, which includes your time. One of my favorite pastimes is when someone asks for my advice on a situation or issue. I will give as much guidance, outcomes, and examples that they may need. I give my advice just like a shot of patron… straight up and full of honesty without any hesitation. I am very independent, trustworthy, and loyal (until you stab me in the back or lie to me). I am my worst enemy and do not take orders very well from people on what I call the DAISNAID (do as I say not as I do) program. I am grown respect me and I will respect you. I do belong to a very old school of thought and take even the slightest thing to heart, for example, when you enter a room, you are required to say hi or good morning, or whatever the proper greeting of the day is, no matter who you are, as a sign of respect. I am what I am—and that is all I can be, and that is the best way to describe myself because I am not changing for anybody, but