The Twelve Roots of Evergreen Marriage

By Irvine Syazyombo

This book will have a long-lasting positive impact on your courtship and eventual marital life. It will teach you dos and donts to attain longevity and happiness in marriage. Indeed the principles tackled in this book will result in a blissful marriage. You will soon learn what happy long-lasting marriages have in common. Consciously or not, each thriving marriage has applied the values unveiled in this book. The right choices to make have been elaborated fully. Be it in courtship or marriage, this is the right book for you. You have made the best choice.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Dec 31, 2022
• ISBN: 9781387345809

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THE TWELVE ROOTS OF EVERGREEN MARRIAGE

                                  ISBN 978-1-387-34580-9

Imprint: Lulu.com

Irvine Syazyombo

Contents

Introduction 

Communication

Temperance

Love

Money

Religion

Courtship

Marry orderly

Family Planning

Faithfulness

Tolerance

Sex

Time with family

Introduction

God himself is the initiator of marriage. He married Eve to Adam. This shows the importance of this institution to humanity.

This book is about cementing existing marriages as well as giving direction to young people who wish to get married. It points people who wish to declare, ‘I do’ to patterns of behaviour that foster the marriage relationship.

You should know that as married people, a good and loving relationship between the two of you will not drop like manna. It will come at a price. You will need to invest in your relationship.

I know this book will help you in your relationship. Please read it delightfully.

1.Communicationn

The Longman Active Study Dictionary 5th Edition defines communication as when people talk to each other or give each other information. This means body language, gestures and facial expressions are also ways of communication because they give information. That is what communication is all about. 

Communication starts very early in life. Even some movement of a foetus in the womb is communication. The pregnant woman is able to tell that it is still alive due to such movements.

Parents make sure that their children learn to talk. If parents notice that a child will have speech difficulties, they go as far as seeking medical intervention. Why, it is because they know the immeasurable importance of communication.

In marriage communication is key to avoid unnecessary conflict. Recently, a man, his wife’s female cousin and another woman were standing while chatting outside a shop.

When his wife arrived, instead of her to ask politely what they were discussing, she flew into a rage, hurled insults at her innocent husband and accused him of having an affair.

As far as the enraged wife was concerned, the woman who was with her husband and cousin was his mistress and yet she was actually not. In fact, it was his wife’s cousin who had called the innocent woman only to ask her something. When her cousin gave the explanation about the innocent reality of the situation, the enraged woman was suddenly deflated.

Knee-jerk reactions like this example are some causes of conflict in marriage. Instead of waiting patiently, or at least asking in a polite manner, she flared up with rage after making a critical misjudgement and conclusion. 

If at all you have to marry someone’s child, you need to know that communication is key to your marriage. Do not hide information from your lover. It was not for fun that someone said information is power.

As for some people who have children before wedlock, please inform your lover before marriage. If she or he discovers long after wedlock that can potentially shatter your marriage beyond repair. Something small that could have been communicated in three minutes before marriage will become so monstrous and gigantic that it chases all the marital happiness away through the front door. If your mother is mad and is constantly at a psychiatric hospital, tell your prospective spouse. If that person truly loves you, your relationship will not shake at all after breaking the bad news. As you hide sensitive facts, bear in mind the fact that your partner will know in a bitter way some day. You just have to become courageous enough to break the bitter message in a gentle manner.

If your prospective lover leaves after learning that secret, it means that relationship was not only insincere but would not have endured till death.

Please if you know you are HIV positive, do not wait for your prospective spouse to be infected also before knowing about your poor health. If you really love that person, once you know you are carrying that virus, the fact is, you will let the individual know.

If for fear of being dumped you withhold the secret, you do not love that person. At worst you might just be infatuated. You are just in that relationship for selfish reasons. You are a wolf in a sheep’s skin.

The inevitable reality is that conflict is bound to happen in homes. That is a fact. But what matters is the way it is communicatively handled. You can argue without anyone of you getting annoyed.

It is the way you talk that matters. If   you are stressed from work, please do not vent all those frustrations on your smiling spouse. Those are your frustrations and it is up to you to manage them.

Your wife or husband is not your boss who scolded you for dereliction of your duty. When you reach home, you are