When Women Are To Blame

By Anietie Akpan

Marriage failures have been seen to be on the rise in recent days. Millions of men and women now accept the fate of broken homes as a normal way of life at the detriment of their children.
The rate of decline in marriage is affecting present global generation. The worst hit are the rich countries of the world.The consequences of broken homes are also on the increase.
Debates and counter debates on causes of divorce have been going on in different fora worldwide. And 60% of accusing fingers have been pointing to women as the cause of global marriage failures.Many are on the opinion that this assertion is incorrect, that opposite is the case in this context.
The author digs deeper to unearth certain marital issues that, although not in full support of the assertion but outlines commonly ignored fundamental principles of marriage that women take for granted.
The book fully analyzed what women need to do to keep their marriage even in worst situations. It also explains that tolerating your husband in certain issues is good but at the detriment of the marriage when things get out of control.
It’s commonly believed that a wife is the neck that turns the head of her husband. But when the head is wrongly turned or directed it’s not only the head that suffers, but the entire body(children) including the neck.
This book fully explains why attitude is the pivot to which every marriage revolves. A woman can marry the best husband on earth but only her attitude decides how long she stays in the marriage. Read on...!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Anietie Akpan
• Release date: Dec 21, 2015
• ISBN: 9781311761330

Anietie Akpan

Anietie C.Akpan is a seasoned Business Consultant and Economist with extensive skills in business management and strategy. He is also a Marriage Counselor with many years of credible performance in Nigeria.Having graduated from a reputable institution with a Degree in Mathematics/Economics for Anicos Business Ventures as a manager for six years.He has authored two books to his credit; How to survive the first five tempting years in business. Don’t worry just seek first the Kingdom.

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When Women Are To Blame

Anietie C. Akpan

Copyright © 2015 Anietie C. Akpan

All rights reserved.

ISBN; 9781311761330

DEDICATION

I would like to express my gratitude to the Almighty God and many people who saw me through this book; to all those who provided support, talked things over, read, wrote, offered comments, allowed me to quote their remarks and assisted in the editing and proofreading.

I would not forget one of my clients, Mr Wilson and his wife, Helen who had been assisting carry out surveys on marital issues.

I would like to thanks to CreateSpace Publishing Company for equipping me with technical tools to design and publish this book.

Above all I want to thank all my family members for their support and encouragement in spite of all the time it took me away from them.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Anietie C.Akpan is a seasoned Business Consultant and Economist with extensive skills in business management and strategy. He is also a Marriage Counselor with many years of credible performance in Nigeria.

Having graduated from a reputable institution with a Degree in Mathematics/Economics for Anicos Business Ventures as a manager for six years.

He has authored two books to his credit; How to survive the first five tempting years in business. Don’t worry just seek first the Kingdom.

INTRODUCTION

This book is NOT intended to prove that the author is gender biased. It is NOT meant to prove that every cause of marital break up is caused by women. No, it is NOT to witch-hunt women for family failure. It is NOT even meant to show that women are home breakers that need to be judged. It does not portray that men are faultless and blameless when it comes to marital problems. No, men have greater part of the blame. But this edition focuses on reasons women should be blamed when a one-time happily married man and woman decide to live apart for sake of peace.

Before we proceed, it’s worth to note that women is preferred in the title instead of wife because every woman is either a wife or a potential wife, except in rare cases where a woman ‘plays’ the part of a husband.

Divorce takes place because a woman allows two things to happen. It’s either she directly fuels the cause of accumulated problems in her home or she overlooks certain issues she would have rebuked in the very beginning but ignored them until a time she cannot control the situations.

You will discover in this book what every woman should do to keep her marriage despise all odds. The secret of being in charge of your husband is fully explained therein. Remember that you cannot take full control of your home if you have not taken the heart of your husband.

A broken home does not just happen. It happens as a result of accumulated issues getting out of hands. And when it happens, children suffer the effect.

Every woman has full ability to influence her home positively but most times cautions are thrown to the wind.

Every woman is naturally endowed with great potentials to care for her husband but most times attitude fails her. You can marry the best husband on earth but only your attitude will decide if you will last long in that marriage.

This book has been carefully written based on daily experience to address marital issues facing our society today. It’s a daily guide for every woman.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

This paper could not be written to its fullest without Ngozi Cosmas, who served as my supervisor, as well as one who challenged and encouraged me throughout my time spent studying under her. She would have never accepted anything less than my best efforts, and for that, I thank her.

CHAPTER ONE: WHEN A WOMAN IS ANGRY

Never raise your voice for any reason at your husband. It’s a sign of disrespect. If you want respect in your marriage, work on your voice. Things will hardly go wrong when the tenacity of your voice turns away anger. The power to make or mar your marriage is in your tongue.

Your voice is the pivot to which your marriage revolves. Its strength is dependent on the effectiveness of your voice. It detects the tune of communication with your husband. Everything you do or plan to do starts with the power of verbal relationship between you and your spouse.

To be a highly successful wife you do not only need to have wisdom, insight and relationships to recognize trouble prone issues and avoid them, you also need to have the power of presence: a