you can still save your marriage: whether divorced, separated or no longer talking to each other

By erika blake

As life is very uncertain people look for ways to have good life. For many people this is found in a marriage. Sometimes these marriages will not work due to various problems between the couple.The important factor here is for the two people in the marriage to realize that the love they had for each other, which brought them together, has not gone out of their marriage. It has only been cloaked under miscommunication, misunderstandings and misgivings.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Aria Madison
• Release date: Sep 20, 2021
• ISBN: 9791220847773

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you can still save your marriage

CONFLICT RESOLUTION

Trying to work through marital problems can seem overwhelming, and you might not even know where to begin. Figuring out the specific issues at the core of your conflict is important for every marriage. To find a solution, you and your spouse must communicate openly and constructively. Avoid blaming, stonewalling, and launching personal attacks at each other, and stay positive. It will take time to rebuild your bond, so be patient. A marriage counselor can help you mend the gap, so don't be embarrassed about reaching out for help.

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List your differences and disagreements. Marriage struggles aren't always caused by major events like cheating or heated arguments. Take an honest look at your relationship issues if you want to move forward. Instead of listing things like we don't get along, ask yourself (and discuss with your spouse) focused questions like:

Have you grown apart from your spouse? Are your goals, desires, or visions of the future incompatible?

How are your physical and emotional needs being met? How about your partner's needs?

Is there a lack of communication? Listen to your spouse when he or she speaks? Do you only communicate briefly about necessities?

Have you recently experienced a stressful life event such as work problems, financial difficulties, illness, or the loss of a loved one?

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Identify the issues that cause major marital problems. The underlying problems that lead to conflict have to be addressed even if they are centered around a major breach, such as infidelity. If you and your spouse do not address these issues, you may fall into the same negative patterns in the future.

Imagine you cheated on your spouse. In addition to rebuilding trust, you must also confront the factors that led to the infidelity. You may have felt that your spouse was not taking care of your needs, or you may have become bored with your relationship.

Placing blame isn't productive. Say I regret my actions rather than I cheated because you were emotionally and physically unavailable. I would like to regain your trust and find solutions to our problems."

Try to find solutions to your problems. Determine what you and your spouse can do to resolve the problems you've identified. What specific changes can you both make to improve your situation? Both partners must make an effort to resolve a relationship's issues.

Make a straight line down the center of the page. List things you could work on and, on the other hand, list things your spouse could do. You and your spouse could make lists, then compare them.

Perhaps you should focus less on work, stop ordering your partner around, and be more affectionate. You may want your partner to contribute more to maintaining your home and raising your children.

Make a commitment to improving your shortcomings. When discussing your lists of potential solutions, keep your tone constructive. Consider how you can contribute to a solution instead of focusing on what your spouse should do. Your spouse should also focus on what they can do.

You might try saying, These are some changes I think we could make.. We must both put in effort, and I don't want you to feel like I'm just giving you a list of things to do. Rather than