MANage YOUR MARRIAGE: 7 Secrets Every Married Man Needs for When the Relationship Gets Unmanageable

By Mister Rivers

CAN A BOOK REALLY

REVIVE YOUR MARRIAGE?

 

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Writers Publishing House
• Release date: Oct 19, 2022
• ISBN: 9781648732966

Mister Rivers

Mister Rivers always had a dream that he would somehow help others find true happiness and overcome adversity. But first, he knew he had to help himself before he could pursue helping others. He discovered his love for writing in 2007 while attending college. Writing was a way for him to express himself and get out of his head the many life lessons that he learned through trial and error. He figured that writing could be the avenue he used to make that longtime dream come true. Just one question kept him away from pursuing this goal. What to write about?He started out writing ad copy for network marketing companies which skyrocketed conversion rates. Then he went on to write resumes and cover letters for clients who were seeking specific employment. Although he had great experiences while doing this. He still felt he was not operating in his true calling and wasn't helping people in the way he should.When he presented this dilemma to his life coach, Danny Moore, Danny suggested he begin to recognize the conversations he engages in daily and also be aware of what people come and ask him for advice on. That should shed some light on your expertise.That was a no-brainer for Mister Rivers. He was always assisting someone with their relationship. And after being close to divorce and then transforming his marriage. He felt that spiritual calling to free other men from themselves so they can be better husbands. That sparked the need to write MANage Your Marriage, so his words could reach many men right where they are. www.manageyourmarriage.com

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INTRODUCTION:

A DIFFERENT APPROACH TO MARRIAGE

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What if you built such a strong foundation for your marriage that nothing could move it?

How would your relationship flourish as a result of having that happen? Would you experience a deeper love and connection with your wife? Effective changes within yourself? How about reaching an extraordinary level of certainty within your marriage?

It doesn't matter how you started, and it doesn't matter where you are now in your relationship. You can always reach new heights within your marriage—not seven months or seven weeks from now—not even seven days. You can experience gradual changes right now. I've learned in my eleven years of marriage and through helping friends and family that we all are unique in our external approaches, and it's all a result of what we have going on internally. Your inner world produces your outer world—not the other way around.   

You may have allowed circumstances to be the determining factor in how you view and approach your relationship. You’ve been searching for practical skills and techniques to put the puzzle you somehow lost the pieces to back together. If you're anything like me back then, I know you want to be respected, you want more enjoyable times with your wife, you want peace of mind, and you want to feel alive again. I get that!

But as you may have discovered by now, the more you do in the name of ‘working’ on your relationship, the less progress you make. You may even harm your relationship more as you work on it. Just the sound of work makes people want to run for the hills. With my wife and I, when we visited our first counselor, we were astonished at how many steps we were given to observe and analyze one another—just to make it back to square one with no progress. Now don't get it wrong.

I'm not saying you should sit around zombified—there will be some work. But as for this book—there is not much to do, but there is much to see. When the foundation is established, then you will enjoy the inspired action you will be inclined to take versus the long-drawn-out required action others will deem necessary for you to take. In other words, you will know what to do when it's time to do it as you become wiser. However, following your own accord could take your relationship down a path that won't satisfy you or the relationship. 

What sounds more appealing to you? Living life by default: having situations control how you think and feel; spending more time angry, upset, and stressed out? Or, living life by design: no matter the case or circumstance, you are in control of the way you think and feel? For those who want to live life by design, you will be able to manage your marriage from the inside out instead of being managed by what's happening on the outside. 

So, how can this book help?

IT STARTS AND ENDS WITH YOU

"Your best work is your expression of yourself. Now, you may not be the greatest at it, but when you do it, you're the only expert." FRANK GEHRY

People generally seek a self-help marriage book because they’re looking for expert advice to overcome a problem and/or difficulty. Typically, the problem is with their significant other, and it's becoming challenging to relate to them as a result of it. 

Why did you pick this book?

Chances are you're looking for a few relationship adjustments—you want something to enhance your relationship, bring you closer to your wife, or make you feel better during trials and tribulations. You're thinking to yourself, I know there is a better way of dealing with my situation. I don't want a divorce. You're hoping that the information shared in this book will end your search and put your marriage on the fast track to success.

I believe that by establishing a base commencing with a deeper understanding of how we operate as human beings and where it is that our experiences derive from, your relationship will naturally begin to mend on its own. But it starts and ends with you. What do I mean by this? I believe Jane Roberts coined the phrase: You create your reality.

This means you create your entire life's experiences through your thought process, and your actions are your thoughts being performed. We will go into more detail about this throughout the book. However, your thoughts are what prolong the natural mending of the relationship. The magic happens outside of what you think; getting a proper understanding of how the human system works

and who you are opens new perspectives that give you the awareness of taking a more effortless approach to your marriage. 

SEVEN SECRETS TO MANAGE YOUR MARRIAGE

"The words of truth are simple." AESCHYLUS

This book is structured to give you seven vantage points, and each point is centered around a secret that will help you easily manage your marriage. What do I mean by managing your marriage? To continue to function, progress, and succeed within your marriage despite hardships and difficulties. I’ve got to be honest here, men: I've noticed we can man up, control, and handle things when it comes to our job.

But when it comes to controlling and managing ourselves within our relationships, we are clueless and give up hope. These secrets can also be called ground rules; in a sense they could be your standard way of living. 

Each secret is intended to form what I refer to in the book as ‘informed thought’ to rise within you. Informed thought is when you can absorb information being presented to you, and your mind expands on it, producing similar insights, and clarifying your understanding of the message. Informed thought is received through wisdom. How do you know when it's an informed thought from wisdom, not ego? Wisdom is like an ‘aha!’ moment—it gives you a sigh of relief, as if you have found a clue to life. On the other hand, Ego will find reasons why this is a bad idea and should be avoided at all costs. 

Change is difficult for most people when they're presented with this inside-out way of life, because they expect things outside of them to look different in order to validate any change being made. But it's called the inside-out approach, to begin with, because it's not about the outside changing; rather, you are becoming more acquainted with your inner self. When change is made, you will know it through the decision to change, which validates the change within. I spoke earlier about Jane Roberts and creating your reality.

Well, you create the steps required to confirm the change process; for you, change isn't confirmed until all the steps are completed. But I'm telling you that change is absolute just by your decision to change. This new way of looking at change can be implemented immediately if you allow it. I love the scenario Michael Neill,