The Low Self-Esteem Struggle: Defeat Toxic Self-Criticism and Low Self-Worth: The Self Struggle, #1
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Can I ask you a few questions?
Do you find that you focus heavily on your weaknesses or perceived flaws?
Do you often unfavorably compare yourself with others?
Are you anxious around other people, concerning yourself with what they think of you?
Do you put your wants and needs on the back burner to please others?
These traits - along with many others - are symptoms of low self-esteem.
Living life feeling inadequate and unworthy and having persistent feelings of guilt is challenging, particularly in a world that happily spoon-feeds us inadequacy, soul-crushing comparisons, and self-limiting beliefs. This can make finding your worth seem impossible.
Life doesn't have to be this way.
In The Low Self-Esteem Struggle, I want to take you on a journey toward self-worth. I can't promise it'll be easy - nothing worth having ever is - but freeing yourself of the shackles of your mind is blissfully empowering. The journey includes:
Figuring out the cause of your low self-esteem. You cannot defeat something so deep-rooted without knowing its origins. To face these traumatic demons will feel daunting - but they're not as intimidating as enduring your whole life with a poor self-image.
My lack of esteem came from childhood abuse, but there is no one set cause for low self-esteem. It could have been schoolyard bullies, a toxic relationship, a cruel boss… or all these terrible circumstances that triggered your lack of self-worth.
We'll return to the root of your trauma and build up from there.
Defeating negative self-talk. When you talk poorly about yourself to yourself, you're reaffirming these thoughts to be the truth. I'll explain why they're not the truth, why you shouldn't talk badly of yourself, and how you can stop doing this.
Self-deprecation - even as a joke - is a form of negative self-talk. The subconscious doesn't have a sense of humor, so even when you're "joking," your mind doesn't view it that way. I'll help you reframe your thoughts so you can banish negative self-talk.
Social comparison toxicity. I'll cover how social comparison is an unforgiving thief of self-esteem, how to acknowledge this, and how to reframe your need for validation.
When I was silently enduring the effects of low self-esteem, books were my lifeline, a glimmer of hope in my otherwise murky mind. I want this book to reach you and be the beginning of your journey to breaking free from the tight grip of low self-esteem.
Don't let low self-esteem hold you back from the life you deserve for one day longer.
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The Low Self-Esteem Struggle - Scout Addison
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Preface
Self-esteem = how we value and perceive ourselves.
Throughout young adulthood and into my early thirties, I’d lived with a dire view of myself. I spoke poorly of myself, and not always just in my head, either; sometimes, my inner critic talked outwardly about how little I thought of myself.
I was so uncertain and unconfident in my decision-making abilities that I’d be engulfed in anxiety and panic should life require me to be assertive or confront a challenge. I would feel sick for weeks leading up to any kind of work or social gathering that I couldn’t get out of, dreading having to talk to people who I was sure thought of me as dull, irritating, and unattractive. I felt entirely unlikeable and shunned many opportunities for decades, either not seeing them through the fog of my poor self-worth or shunning them for fear of (inevitable) rejection.
On the spectrum of self-esteem, I was a solid one out of ten - one feeling utterly devoid of worth, ten having a healthy view of oneself. From the age of around seven up to my mid-thirties, I endured life thinking I wasn’t worthy. Note I didn’t say I lived my life thinking I wasn’t worthy: I endured it thinking it wasn’t.
I was forever weathering the seemingly endless storm with no break from the relentlessness of the beating rain and thunder that was life. Before this, I was a pretty happy, easy-going child.
I was shy, and it took a little while for me to warm up to new people, but as a whole, life was good. I thought I was funny because all the adults told me so. I was a good little artist and frequently got praise for my drawings. As a whole, I liked being me.
Then, almost overnight, things changed. From six or seven upwards, my self-image declined rapidly, bouncing up and down as I went through my teens to taking a devastating dive when I hit 17. For the next 16 or so years, I struggled in every aspect of my life, with low self-esteem spearheading my poor mental health.
I treaded water career-wise because I didn’t believe in myself enough to apply for promotions or seek work at a higher level. I felt so undeserving that I stayed in a toxic relationship for thirteen years. I would distance myself from any kind of connection and find myself in a position of spending many birthdays and holidays alone as a result. In short, I was a shell. I would worry, overthink, talk poorly about myself, and mull over events that had happened years ago. That was how I lived my life for such a long time, in my head and not in a good place at all.
I was triggered to confront this in my late thirties, which is still young, thankfully. Many people reach their eighties only to realize they’ve lived their entire lives this way, which only fuels their regret and pointless rumination in their twilight years. Since tackling my toxic thoughts and spending time battling them, I’ve found myself in a place of peace and contentment, a place bustling with self-worth.
I have not gone from introvert to extrovert, nor am I now a social butterfly.
I am, however, aware of my worth, and I work to enforce that in my day-to-day life. I no longer shun social events, and the notion of people thinking poorly of me no longer bothers me. I can look in the mirror and smile at the person looking back, safe in the knowledge that I’m full of strengths, quirks, kindness, and value. I make friends with great ease and have developed a few deep friendships since breaking down the barriers low self-esteem forces you to build up.
I’m now in a position that allows me more time to write, which I’ve always loved to do. It used to be short tales of fiction, then ghostwriting to running my blog (under a pseudonym). Part of me leveling up requires me to jump out of the comfort zone I’m currently in and allow myself to be more vulnerable. My idea is to merge my passion (writing) and my need to challenge myself (being vulnerable, open, and putting myself out there
) by creating a collection of books detailing my mental health struggles and explaining how those in a similar position can overcome them.
Low self-esteem, self-sabotage, lack of self-compassion, chronic overthinking... all of these things I call "The Self Struggle."
Struggles most, if not all, of us have had to deal with at one point or another. The person I’m writing these books for, though, is the person who deals with these struggles on a long-standing basis. The person who, like me, found these struggles getting in the way of their lives, preventing them from happiness and fulfillment.
Over the years, I’ve kept handwritten diaries and journals, documenting how I felt and what I was struggling with at that time. Although the content in these journals is sporadic, it exposes just how low and miserable I was during that period.
Despite enduring and suffering from various mental well-being issues, I’d never made a coherent list of them until a few months ago. Instead of making me sad, it made me proud to see just how far I’ve come in a (relatively) short space of time. Most of the things on that list don’t affect me anymore, and the ones that do are constantly kept in check by me and the systems I’ve put in place to manage them.
I want to reach as many people as possible, and I want these books to fall into the right hands. I’m opening up about my struggles to help you with yours. By no means am I a mental health professional, but I am someone who’s been there. I’ve struggled with depression, negative self-talk, crippling anxiety, horrifically intrusive thoughts, and a plethora of other obstacles with my mental health, so if I can offer you some hope and light at the end of the tunnel, I want to do everything in my power to do so. I will tackle many book ideas this year, and I aim to create a library of resources for those struggling and, in turn, connect with them.
The Self Struggle is one you can overcome. You might not think it is possible just yet, but by the end of this book, my aim is not just for you to believe it’s possible, but