Emotional Abuse: Recover From Psychological Abuse, Narcissism, Manipulation and Overcome Narcissistic Relationships

By Wanda Kelly

Still struggling from the effects of an abusive relationship?

Do the following symptoms sound familiar?

- Doubting yourself and your sanity

- You're second-guessing your memory

- Feeling like you aren't good enough

- Feeling misunderstood

- Feeling lonely

- Ruined self c

• Language: English
• Publisher: Gabriel Davidson
• Release date: Aug 1, 2023
• ISBN: 9781914909962

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Emotional Abuse

Recover from Psychological Abuse, Narcissism, Manipulation and Overcome Narcissistic Relationships

Wanda Kelly

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: What is Abuse?

Chapter 2: What are the Signs of Abuse?

Chapter 3: The Effects of Emotional Abuses

Chapter 4: Psychological Abuse

Chapter 5: Sexual Abuse

Chapter 6: Types of Emotional Abuse

Chapter 7: Abusive Relationship vs. Healthy Relationship

Chapter 8: How to Leave an Abusive Relationship?

Chapter 9: What Happens After Leaving an Abusive Relationship

Chapter 10: How Can I Recover from the Emotional and Mental Wounds Left by the Abuser?

Chapter 11: What Are Some Ways to Heal Yourself After Having Experienced Emotional Abuse?

Chapter 12: Effects of Gaslighting

Chapter 13: Narcissist Abuse

Chapter 14: Coping with Narcissist Abuse

Chapter 15: Complex Post-Trauma Stress Symptoms

Chapter 16: Letting Go and Moving On

Chapter 17: Maintaining a Healthy Relationship

Conclusion:

Introduction

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motional abuse is very misunderstood and often thought of as a mild form of abuse. It usually goes unrecognized because there are no physical bruises to show for it. It can take any form but is typically recognized through a pattern of intimidation, humiliation, anger, or emotional terrorism—the manipulation of a person’s thoughts and emotions by an abuser until they are unable to think clearly or act independently while also feeling ashamed and guilty for being abused.

Now the first question I frequently hear is, why call it emotional abuse? Because when I think of abuse, I think of physical. However, emotional abuse can be just as damaging, if not more so than physical. Emotional abuse can destroy your self-esteem, mental health and cause you to have major trust issues.

Now let’s consider what a pattern is. Many people display abusive behavior at one time or another - and they may even be verbal or emotionally abusive on a daily basis - yet this does not mean they are emotionally abusing the other person. Emotional abuse is usually displayed through a pattern of controlling behaviors designed to manipulate the abuser’s partner into doing what he/she wants.

Emotional abusers may make you feel like you are the crazy one. No matter how valid your feelings are or how much he/she was at fault, the abuser will tell you that you overreacted. The abuser will minimize and invalidate your feelings until you doubt yourself and start to believe that you are a crazy or over-sensitive person who must be wrong about what is going on in the relationship.

The abuser may even try to convince others of it, including friends, family members, and professionals such as counselors, clergy, or doctors.

It’s not uncommon to find out later that a narcissist’s most commonly used tool in gaining total control over his victim is other people. If one supports the narcissist, he may find people who can tell or make him believe they support him. This is done especially if the victim has no support system and/or is isolated from friends or family. The abuser will have people in his circle who will bad-mouth and even threaten to expose the victim using any tactic they can think of.

The victim will likely be told that if he leaves the relationship that he is crazy, then at least have a little respect for him. He may also be threatened with verbal abuse, warnings of harm, or even death threats. (This usually takes place after an attempt to leave. The abuser knows that most abusers will attempt to get their victim back.)

After leaving, the victim is almost always punished. Most abusers spend time looking for new victims while in another relationship. They may act like victims themselves (victim-playing) or even come on strong by appearing to be apologetic and contrite about how bad they were. This is often referred to as hoovering after the popular Hoover vacuum cleaners. Just as you can’t vacuum up a pile of dust and dirt without first tearing it apart, the abuser will try to find someone who was not completely flattened so they can have another go at destroying an innocent person’s sense of self-worth.

Only those who have experienced this type of abuse will know what it is like to be treated so poorly because that type of treatment is reserved only for the abuser’s partner - and even then, the abuser may also do such things to his own family members or others he sees as beneath him.

This book will explain the dynamics of various forms of abuse in varying levels in extreme detail and give your insight into how abusers change.

The book will also help you see through his games, recognize his tactics and tell you how to effectively protect yourself from further abuse.

This book is for victims who want to regain control over their lives, reclaim their self-worth, heal and become stronger from the abuse that has been done to them.

It is specifically written for women who have suffered at the hands of emotionally abusive men. It strives to reveal the signs and tell you what is happening; it guides you through the recovery process while helping you understand the behavior.

Chapter 1:

What is Abuse?

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buse can take various forms and includes not only physical violence but also sexual abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, and financial exploitation.

What is Abuse?

Abuse does not comprise only physical violence but also sexual abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, and financial exploitation.

Common Types of Abuse:

Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is the most common type of domestic violence that is physical and mental abuse. In the early stages of a relationship, an emotional abuser might try to isolate their partner to prevent them from quitting the relationship or leaving on their own. The emotionally abusive partner might also frequently criticize their partner, and you will find they constantly compare you with others, for example, your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. If you are upset about something that has happened in your life, these comments will usually be followed by criticism as well.

Financial Abuse

Financial abuse is by far the most common type of abuse in relationships. It often takes place alongside other forms of abuse, and it may be that you do not even realize it is taking place. This type of abuse can take many different forms but is usually the misuse of credit cards, burglary, and breaking into bank accounts in order to steal money. This is a type of abuse that the victim does not always realize has taken place until it is too late, for example, when they are either charged with a crime or suddenly find themselves without money to pay for things as a result of the financial abuser’s actions.

Physical Abuse

Physical abuse is the most commonly accepted type of abuse, and this is when the abuser threatens or uses violence against their partner. Physical abuse can also include destroying property, harming or killing pets, restricting a partner’s access to medical care, or forcing them to use drugs or alcohol. This type of abuse can take place at any stage in a relationship and will often escalate over time if the victim does not recognize it for what it is and seek help.

Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse is another very common form of domestic violence that takes place in relationships and can be rape, forcing sex after drugging someone, or sexual harassment such as forcing an unwilling partner to look at pornography.

Why Abuse Happens?

If you have been abused, it is very important to know why the abuse happened and