Narcissistic Personality Disorder: A Complete Guide to Clearing The Confusion of NPD - Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

By Wanda Kelly

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Gabriel Davidson
• Release date: Aug 1, 2023
• ISBN: 9781914909993

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder

A Complete Guide to Clearing The Confusion of NPD - Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

Wanda Kelly

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: History of Narcissism

Chapter 2: NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)

Chapter 3: Causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Chapter 4: What Is a Narcissistic Person

Chapter 5: Different Types of Narcissists

Chapter 6: Targets of Narcissist

Chapter 7: Dealing With a Narcissist

Chapter 8: What is a Narcissistic Abuse?

Chapter 9: Types of Narcissistic Abuse

Chapter 10: Divorcing a Narcissist

Chapter 11: Steps to Healing from the Narcissistic Relationship

Chapter 12: Four Pillars for Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse

Chapter 13: The No Contact Rule

Chapter 14: Practicing Daily Affirmation

Chapter 15: Taking Back Your Life

Chapter 16: How to Avoid Another Narcissistic Relationship

Conclusion

Introduction

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder affects less than 1% of the general population. The word was originally coined by Professor Heinz Kohut in 1968. Narcissism is a prevalent pattern of grandiosity, the desire for admiration, and a lack of empathy. 

There are five subtypes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and NPD victims may fall into one or more groups. A narcissistic personality is dishonest, treacherous, and exploitative. There are histrionic and compensatory narcissists. A fanatical form also shows signs of paranoia. 

In addition, it is categorized into two forms: oblivious and hypervigilant. The indifferent person appears to be grandiose, proud, and dismissive, while the diligent person is easily hurt, oversensitive, and apologetic. 

The cause of the condition is not clear, although some researchers attribute the problem to several factors such as overindulgence as a child and an over-dependence on parents. Psychotic conditions often arise early in life and wax worse over time. There are other issues due to the dependency on alcohol and drug consumption. 

This book will help you in your relationship or even save someone you know who is struggling with narcissistic abuse.

A narcissist is an individual who shows extreme admiration for himself in an idealized or grandiose way mostly done to inflate the ego. A narcissist is often described as being selfish, manipulative, and demanding because they love to place a lot of attention on themselves at the expense of other people who care about them.

In the psychological world, narcissism is often viewed as a disorder called Narcissistic Personality Disorder which portrays the individual as a person lacking empathy and consideration for the emotions and well-being of others.

Friendships, relationships, family life, and every other connection the narcissist has are profoundly affected. Most disturbing is the fact that people with such behavioral traits are resistant to change even when it becomes evident that such characteristics are causing tension with others.

A narcissist often passes on the blame to others; they fail to look within themselves and see the problem as what it is. Above all, they are self-absorbed! People who have narcissistic tendencies are also extremely sensitive; they tend to react badly to criticism, disagreement, and comments because they consider them as personal attacks.

This book covers:

The history of narcissism

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)

causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

what is a narcissistic person     

different types of narcissists     

targets of narcissist         

dealing with a narcissist 

what is a narcissistic abuse?     

types of narcissistic abuse         

divorcing a narcissist       

steps to healing from a narcissistic relationship   

And much more!   

Living in reality isn’t exciting for the narcissist because he already has built a fantasy world which entails a grandiose view of himself. Their idea of the world is laden by fantasies of success, brilliance, and power; and whatever opinion contradicts this delusion is either ignored or fought off entirely.

Your relationship may be significant to you, but if you are always near a narcissist, you may want to start analyzing your choices. You will discover the impact of a narcissist relationship on your mental health, but before we get there, you should know that the narcissist believes that they are better than everyone else, so how do you hold deep conversations with such a person?

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Chapter 1:

History of Narcissism

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he behavior we call narcissism has been around since the beginning of human history, but the term, the concept, and the disorder we call Narcissistic Personality Disorder are relatively new. Narcissism in ordinary non-scientific or psychological terms is pursuing personal gratification from egoistic vanity, essentially from admiring yourself to the extreme.

Narcissism is named after a young man in a Greek myth who fell in love with his own image in a reflecting pool. His name was Narcissus. He eventually died from grieving over a love that did not exist. In Metamorphoses, Ovid retells the tale and alludes to the story. This supposedly influenced Shakespeare’s sonnets and the term self-love was used for what Narcissus was feeling.

Francis Bacon picked it up and used it in Pompey as Cicero was said to call them, lovers of themselves without rivals. Next came Byron early in the nineteenth century, saying that self-love stings anything it stumbles upon. Finally, Baudelaire talked about self-love as being like a Narcissus of fat-headedness.

Egotism became the new word for self-love in the mid-century and lovers of self were now egotists with Freud's use of the ego and the id. Narcissism as a concept was then coined and defined within the field of psychiatry, psychology and psychoanalytic theory, by none other than Sigmund Freud. 

Nacke had used the term as early as 1899, but by it, he meant a sexual pervert. Then in 1911, Otto Rank picked up where Freud left off, identifying the word as vanity and self-admiration, moving it back into the psychological realm, where it has basically stated within the Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Still, no one has had more influence on the use of the term and the psychology of the concept than Sigmund Freud. The year was 1914 and the essay was On Narcissism, in which Freud introduced the concept and used the word. By 1968 the American Psychiatric Association included the Narcissistic Personality Disorder in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders and associated it with megalomania. 

So, for a long time, NPD and megalomania were considered to be the same thing. All megalomaniacs are narcissists, but not all narcissists are megalomaniacs. 

At the same time, narcissism has been defined as a social or cultural issue, more in the line with sociological study than psychological. This is because you can be a narcissist and not have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. You will find it listed among the three dark triadic personality traits of psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism. It is also considered one of the factors in trait theory, self-report inventories like MCMI – the Million Clinical Multiaxial Inventory. From the outset, narcissism has been considered a problem for individuals and social groups. It was at the end of the nineteenth century when the term became a regular part of the language. It is used in analytic writing more than anywhere else and perhaps more than any other word.

Just like with anything else, as time goes on, the meaning of words change. This happened somewhat with narcissism too. The world today has come to mean anything on a continuum from healthy self-love to a pathological sense of self.

In the Beginning

As we said, Sigmund Freud coined the scientific term and the disorder. He discoursed it in terms of a history of megalomania and his theory that megalomania was infantile. He believed that as the