How to Discipline Your Mind: Cognitive Development, #6
By Zoe McKey
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About this ebook
Are you tired of falling short of your goals? Does the pursuit of your aspirations leave you feeling overwhelmed rather than inspired?
In a world that moves at a breakneck speed, where instant gratification is often the name of the game, " How to Discipline Your Mind" invites you to slow down. This book is a reminder that the journey is more important than the destination.
Discipline isn't a trait, it's a skill.
" How to Discipline Your Mind" delves into:
- how we can foster discipline and patience,
- how we can enhance our focus and become self-aware,
- shows how to detach ourselves from our thoughts, observe them without judgement and use this increased self-awareness to make better decisions in life.
Break free from the cycles of procrastination and self-doubt.
Have you ever wondered why your bad habits are so hard to break? Why some people seem to achieve their goals effortlessly while you struggle? The answer is simple. It's because our brains are wired to follow well-trodden paths, no matter if they lead to success or self-sabotage. In this book, you'll learn how to bring awareness to and re-wire these pathways.
Sharpen your focus, and pave the way to consistent, sustainable success.
This book isn't just about achieving your goals—it's about fundamentally changing the way you approach them. Whether you're striving to learn a new skill, adopt a healthier lifestyle, or foster stronger relationships, "How to Discipline Your Mind" offers the tools and techniques to navigate these challenges with grace and grit.
Embrace the process, avoid distractions, and find joy in the journey.
Zoe McKey, an internationally best-selling author and a seasoned communication and lifestyle coach, understands the frustrating gap between effort and achievement all too well. With her empathetic insights and skillful guidance, she will provide you with transformative tools and strategies, empowering you to become the version of yourself you have always aspired to be.
This isn't a book about quick fixes or overnight success—it's about lifelong learning and the joy of the journey. It's a roadmap to success that takes you on a journey of self-discovery and growth. It's about adopting good habits, achieving goals, and making the most of your journey towards them. So why wait? Start your journey today and discover the power of a disciplined mind.
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How to Discipline Your Mind - Zoe McKey
Introduction
GRANT ME THE SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
– Serenity Prayer, Reinhold Niebuhr
Once upon a time, my life took a significant turning point. Leaving behind Romania, my home country, I set my course to pursue better opportunities in Hungary, armed with nothing but a hard-earned scholarship. My parents weren’t made of money. Hence a rented apartment was a luxury we couldn’t afford. Consequently, I found myself nestled in the high school’s free dormitory.
Just as you’d expect, the free dorm provided the basics – a roof overhead, showers, a wardrobe, and a bed. Nothing more. Before you start brainstorming what else I would need, I’ll give you a hint: food was not included. At least I can bathe before I die of hunger,
I thought with a hint of teenage melodrama.
It was not the school’s problem that I couldn’t afford the cheap canteen meals in the dorm’s kitchen, which were tailored to feed poor kids. But I was a notch below the previously mentioned socio-economic status, the extreme end of the poverty bell curve, within my school’s demographic. Yet, I held on to my dignity like a lifeline, my head held high, refusing to ask for help. I saw myself as a warrior – a survivor – I can deal with life’s stuff.
I dealt
with the problem by sulking in the kitchen at lunchtime, watching the others eat, hoping that someone would just walk away indefinitely from their lunch. That never happened. The best I could hope for was some leftovers. Even then, my foolish pride kept me fasting instead of feasting, as I was worried someone else would see me. I was your typical self-conscious teenager. I would reason on Friday, No, I’m not hungry. I’ve eaten already... this week.
So I just sat, sulked, and prayed the canteen lady didn’t clean up the leftovers before I could.
I spent three days hoping that if I stayed around the dining hall long enough, I would get some food without the added shame of exposure. But I didn’t. The only thing I noticed besides my growling stomach was the canteen lady’s constant lament about the dishes.
Aha – a lightbulb moment!
The next day, after lunchtime was over, I started collecting the dishes in the dining hall, carrying them back to the serving deck where the canteen lady would wash them. She was taken aback by my willingness to help. As she was expressing her gratitude, my stomach, like a well-trained dog, started growling loudly at just the right moment, sending a clear message to the mother of three. Understanding the universal language of hunger, she immediately offered me more leftovers than I knew what to do with. From that moment on, I had a job and a payment, earning my meal through kitchen labor.
I often harken back to the nugget of wisdom shared at the start of this chapter. It wasn’t in my power to change the schooling system in Hungary, to insist on including free meals alongside free tuition and housing. The solution to my problem was right in front of me, and luckily, I saw and took the opportunity to change what I could. The impact was great and immediate.
The things you can’t change are the things you can’t control.
Consequently, the things we can change are those that fall under our control. We want to feel in control; it’s human. When they’re not, desperation often sets in. In this state, we lose sight of potential solutions right in front of us.
With a nod to Niebuhr’s words, I found my mantra: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot control, the courage to change the things I can control, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Much of our control-related frustrations are rooted in our inability to clearly discern our circle of influence.[i] We are the protagonists of our lives, but that doesn’t guarantee our wishes will invariably be met. And that’s okay. What we can choose are our beliefs and principles. A deep understanding of these principles is key to better decision-making.
In his best-selling book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey discusses useful principles one can live by. One of these principles is proactivity.
We are unique creatures, gifted with the ability to introspect, mold our self-image, and determine our reactions to our circumstances. We hold the reins of our effectiveness. To harness this power, Covey suggests being proactive, not reactive. What’s the difference?
Reactive folks are passengers of life, convinced that the world is happening to them. Phrases such as That's just how I am,
There's nothing I can do about it,
or I can't
are their anthems. Their problems are out there,
vast and daunting, leaving them feeling helpless. The real obstacle, though, is this very mindset, as reactivity tends to weave its self-fulfilling prophecy. As reactive individuals perceive themselves as victims, they tend not to act to resolve their issues. And so, the issues persist, validating their original presumption: they were indeed powerless.
On the flip side, proactive people are aware of their responsibility—or as Covey phrases it, response-ability.
It's the capacity to choose our responses to stimuli. As psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor Victor Frankl suggests, there is a fleeting moment between the stimulus and response that holds the power to determine our reaction.
I decide and control my reactions.
Let me see the alternatives.
I choose.
Covey introduces the concepts of the Circle of Concerns (a larger circle) and the Circle of Influence (a smaller circle within the big one). He states that we should focus on our Circle of Influence – the aspects we can effectively change. In other words, we should invest time and energy in the things we can do something about. Reactive people tend to concentrate on their Circle of Concerns, while proactive people shift their focus to their Circle of Influence.
Where we pour our energy becomes empowered and, in turn, governs us. The proactive path to change is initiating