Manipulators and Troublesome

By Elisabeth S Fergunson

It happens that when you meet or interact with certain people you experience internal discomfort, although nothing happens externally, there is no verbal or physical aggression. That discomfort is a sure sign that it is a toxic person, an expert manipulator who only cares about winning or winning.

Who are toxic people? How to recognize them? What to do to end a relationship with a toxic person? The solutions seem simple, but they are not.

We feel guilty all the time around toxic people for no real reason. We always feel uncomfortable with ourselves, because we seem to let these people down; when in fact it should be the opposite. They act like victims around us, but in reality, they are always passive aggressors.

You will find the answers to how to get out of these nefarious bonds, or how to deal with them successfully, in this book, which brings together the wisest advice from modern psychology and victimology as a discipline.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Ediciones Afrodita
• Release date: Apr 13, 2023
• ISBN: 9798215181324

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Chapter 1

Concept of a toxic person

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The toxic term in popular jargon is used, when it comes to individuals, to refer to a certain way of being. The word undoubtedly refers to the harmful characteristics (metaphor of poisonous substances) of a person, which are expressed in character, personality, temperament, and way of conceiving life. There are many other adjectives that conceptualize toxic individuals. Human toxicity is regularly expressed in:

1. Negative temperament towards oneself and towards others. They identify with their inner bitterness, although they can be friendly and sociable when it suits them, in order to attract the will to their interests. They move between extremes, there are both obsessively ordered and disordered in their lifestyles (which brings them closer to pathological behaviors). This trait identifies them with narcissistic behavior. They never accept that they are wrong, they are selfish; the nature of their actions tends to look only at what they consider.

two. They are manipulators or tend to distort reality in favor of their affective, economic, labor, or social interests. In addition, the common denominator is the ease with which they generate conflicts between people where there is no conflict. In other words, they are intriguing generators, I am the eternal misunderstood. They seem to have never made it past the teen years. They are experts at playing the victim. When exposed, they appeal to the expression nobody understands me.

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Examples of toxic people:

Listed below are some examples of toxic people by category. But, in addition, the most important characteristics are described. They are the following:

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Examples of a toxic relative:

• It can be recurrent that among large families there is a misunderstood brother or sister, at least for him or for her. They are the eternal teenagers who end up being left aside, although as good manipulators they always have their fans.

• Envy also has manifestations within the family. Family members do not necessarily have to be far away to feel dismayed by the professional and/or economic achievements of their colleagues. Envious family members will always put your achievements into perspective, even if they are obvious.

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Examples of a toxic friends:

• True friends will always be very important people, but the human condition of toxic people hides behind appearances that, when you least expect it, end up hurting you. It probably happened to him that one of his friends stopped talking to him because a third friend (whom he also considered a friend), behind his back, invented a whole series of lies. This is a typical response and behavior of toxic people.

• Among friends, it often happens that the confidences and secrets that they once shared, someone (the toxic person) ends up using them against them, to damage a love relationship or another friendship.

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Examples of a toxic partner:

• The virtuous couple, to highlight one of its characteristics, is one that knows that true love starts from the principle of recognizing the freedom of the other and coexistence without usurping the spaces of individual independence. A toxic couple is unaware of the existence of this individuality; in fact, the only freedom he recognizes is his own to decide for both of them.

• Based on the previous example, it is worth insisting and delving into the matter. Male partners may manifest a dominant emotional dependency. It is a toxic and sick manifestation of male partners that can lead to a tragic end.

• The essential behavior of the couple is domination, contempt, and looting. Although it may seem contradictory, at the same time this type of person experiences an emotional dependency that despises their partner. Ambiguity is a typical characteristic of this toxic typology. They are proud, narcissistic, and self-centered beings.

• They use possession or domination as a mechanism to avoid marital breakdown. These toxic individuals get their share of affection by subjugating their partner, limiting their life, and preventing them from living a normal life.

• It is typical that they resort to blackmail so that the couple gives up friends or does not visit relatives. The couple is thus confined in the formed bubble, in a small world made up of only two people and full of aggressiveness.

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Importance of identifying a toxic person

In a world of appearances and masks, where almost everyone plays social and personal cross-dressing in social networks and digital and physical groups, it is very difficult to separate reality from what is not. Therefore, deciphering the true personality of individuals is a titanic task, which is only learned over time and there is still that space to guarantee, after the years, I thought I knew him, but I was blind.

Human nature is undoubtedly very complex. The substance of interpersonal ties is based on subjective insights and perspectives that are often more psychic projections of one's desires than reality. In other words: you see what you want to see. The toxicity of a person can be wrapped in many flowers, at least with a flowery verb.

But there is no doubt that knowing that one is free of the characteristics described above, it is not easy to identify those toxic subjects that, if admitted, can ruin their existence, in the different roles they assume in their lives. Toxic people can seriously affect your inner peace,