Relationship Sanity: Cut the Crap that Makes Relationships Fail
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In this book, Relationship Sanity, my main point is to help people considering the marriage relationship really understand why they are getting married and also think about the bigger picture about being married. In other words, what is the purpose of this marriage for each person? It is my hope that this book would help somebody be more prepared when considering marriage. For me, the first thing to consider is to do a self-evaluation as to the reason you want to get married. Second, make sure you understand how complicated divorce is. In the book, I share some personal thoughts with hope to wrap up the book and allow the reader to have a better understanding of relationships. It is my desire to help people understand the reason they want to get married and help readers be more prepared for things when they consider getting married.
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Relationship Sanity - Jason J. Andrew MA LPC-S
So You Say You Want to Get Married?
How do you define marriage? Is there a stigma about marriage? What are fake relationships? What is the real reason people get together? It seems that when a person grows up and observes their role models in relationships, that modeling appears to be the first influence on the person about how they define marriage. This person grows up and may experience different models of marriage. The differences appear strange at first, but as time goes on, they may begin to adapt to a different way of thinking. Let’s say we have a person who grows up with parents who stay together for their kids yet remain unhappy and may appear distant from each other, thus showing an unhealthy model of marriage. There is a lot of research about what is the best model when a married couple has an epiphany that they are not healthy together. What if this child talks with a friend of theirs and that friend says, My parents sleep in separate bedrooms.
Does this child think that’s odd because their parents sleep in the same bed? What gets me thinking at night are the following questions: Why do people choose to be married? For financial reasons, pride reasons, or other unhealthy and selfish reasons? Or do people get married because they think being married will solve personal problems, like loneliness or codependency? Why do people wear wedding rings? Is it to show off to other people, or is it a true symbol that person is committed to the relationship? What I wonder is, Can people be married yet be fully individual and not need another person to satisfy all their needs? I wanted to write a book to help people considering the marriage relationship really understand why they are getting married and also think about the bigger picture about being married. In other words, what is the purpose of this marriage for each person? It is my hope that this book would help somebody be more prepared when considering marriage.
Considering divorce?
I looked it up. The song is Breakfast at Tiffany’s.
Read these lyrics and ask yourself what you have left in common with your ex-partner.
Breakfast at Tiffany’s
Deep Blue Something
You’ll say, we’ve got nothing in common
No common ground to start from
And we’re falling apart
You’ll say, the world has come between us
Our lives have come between us
Still I know you just don’t care
And I said what about Breakfast at Tiffany’s
She said I think I remember the film
And as I recall I think we both kind of liked it
And I said well that’s the one thing we’ve got
I see you the only one who knew me
And now your eyes see through me
I guess I was wrong
So what now
It’s plain to see we’re over
And I hate when things are over
When so much is left undone
And I said what about Breakfast at Tiffany’s
She said I think I remember the film
And as I recall I think we both kind of liked it
And I said well that’s the one thing we’ve got
You’ll say, that we’ve got nothing in common
No common ground to start from
And we’re falling apart
You’ll say the world has come between us
Our lives have come between us
Still I know you just don’t care
And, as I recall, I think, we both kind of liked it,
And I said, Well that’s, the one thing we got.
Songwriters: Pipes Todd David
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Data from: Musixmatch
How do you make a decision about divorce? The big picture about marriage needs to be understood. When considering divorce, you have to understand all the costs that apply. For example, you have the cost of a lawyer. You need to have lawyers help you separate assets. I think people don’t understand how much money it takes to get a divorce. You also have the emotional toll on the children.
Back to why people get married. Some people may get married to only fulfill their own sexual needs—in other words, selfish reasons. It could be to satisfy each person’s sexual needs, a possibly healthier model.
I just wish more people would get married for healthy reasons and not rush into marriage after a disappointing life event.
I have learned that sexual activities in the 1960s were more open than today. It makes me wonder if marriage in the twenty-first century is more messed up than it was in the twentieth century or if it has always been messed up.
Open marriages will allow for a couple to be married yet see other sexual partners. There are also swingers. Many different marriage ideas are out there in this twenty-first century.
Influenced by no one? Can an adult be able to take care of themselves without the help or influence of others? Unless you are a child abandoned by your parents and who gets raised by wolves, you would understand