The Best Marriage Flavours: Volume 1

By Yusuf Wasiu

The best marriage flavours volume one a book that highlighted and discussed marriage issues, it will enlighten the whole world, about how to have a successful and longer lasting marital life. This book contains 208 questions you must ask your spouse before or after marriage, and the other edifying topics, to really know who you love, how to love, ways to prove your love, weakness and triumph, ego and objectives in your marital relationships. It also discussed how to manage crisis in marriage.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris UK
• Release date: Feb 5, 2015
• ISBN: 9781499092639

Yusuf Wasiu

Yusuf Wasiu is the author of the Best Marriage Flavours, Volume 3. He is an indigene of Ede town, Osun state, western Nigeria, in West Africa. He graduated with higher national diploma in Electrical Engineering, from The Polytechnic, Ibadan, Oyo state, Nigeria, West Africa in 1996. He specializes in electrical power systems and machines. His areas of interests are in the fields of research and development, safety and reliability, construction, health, environment, training, good human relationship, good housekeeping, synergy, team work, motivation, innovation, co-operation, coordination, collaboration, sustainability, interdependence and networking. He is blessed with two children.

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CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

1. LOVE

2. What a gentleman should do and not do

3. Marriage rules you cannot ignore

4. What will you do if your son or daughter marries from other religion.

5. Married couples and extended family

6. Please look good and appealing to your spouse

7. Will he marry you if he sleeps with you before marriage?

8. Does a woman need a man to be successful and happy in life?

9. What you should look out for during courtship

10. Are you in a right relationship?

11. Marriage between Christians and people practising other religion.

12. How to lead your unbelieving spouse to Christ.

13. What a normal Christian home should be.

14. Post honeymoon realities

15. Is the biblical principles of family life possible or practical?

16. What a good husband should do to his wife.

17. Man is the head of the family

18. Questions you must ask your spouse before or after marriage.

19. Qualities of a potential husband or wife

20. Will you stand by your husband in his ministry?

21. Reduction in woman’s sexual desire

22. Can your age affect your sexual drive?

23. How boredom affects sexual desire between couples

24. If you are unhappy in your marriage, will you stay or leave?

25. Suggestions: Seven rules about making love

26. Suggestions: Seven knowledge about sexual relationships.

27. How to prevent cervical cancer by watching your sex habit

28. Things a woman should know before, during, and after pregnancy.

29. Things that can make pregnancy go wrong

30. Why do women lose baby before or after birth?

31. Is it possible to know the genotype of your unborn child at eleven weeks old?

32. Will you like to plan your family?

33. If your spouse is human immunodeficiency virus, [HIV] positive, will you continue the relationship or quit?

34. Will you like to share the same bedroom with your spouse or have your own room?

INTRODUCTION

Marriage is a union between two people that love each other, and it is an institution ordained by God. It takes matured minds to really have a happy home, and to be successful in your relationship, you really need to exibit good character. You need to have good conduct, habit, attitude, reaction, action, control, temperament, endurance, and relationship. You also need to develop true love, understanding, perseverance, kindness, and cooperation with your spouse. You also need to be honest, and live in harmony with your spouse. You need to know that truth without love is brutality, and love without truth is hypocrisy. There are four things that cannot be hidden, the sun, the moon, pregnancy, and truth. Marriage had really make a difference between success, and failure of many people in life. It had even caused early demise of many men and women in the society. Due to this reason, there are many precautionary measures to be considered, before you get married. You will find many of these precautions in this book, and you will like to apply them in your relationship. You will also be enlighten about new ways to relate well with your spouse, and his/her relations.There are questions you need to ask your spouse, before or after Marriage. Your marriage should give room for good life, liberty, harmony, pursuance of happiness and joy. You will also be shown how to have a happy home. Couples need not be live in enemies, and relationships need not be tug of war. Marriages break up nowadays, because the partners are impatient and does not tolerate each others. If such happens, any problem developed in a marriage will surely affect everybody physically, psychologically, emotionally, and otherwise. You need to be your lover’s keeper. You need a stress free marriage. Communication is very important in relationship, you need to ask questions, that are bothering your mind. This way many problems will be solved, and you will know more about your partner, his/her ways of life, his/her likes and dislike. You should always try to pay attention to your spouse, romance knowledge is also essential, knowing the art of flirting is good, knowing how to discover erroneous parts of your partner`s body is also important, but you should never use intimacy as a weapon. Your partner deserve all the best of the good things in life. And your marriage success depends on the level of trust, respect, friendship, love, and faith you have in your relationship with your spouse.

LOVE

Love means different things to different people. To the young ladies, love is all about chocolate bars, bowls of ice creams, and a visit to tourist centers, while of course, to the young boys, it does not go beyond having carnal knowledge of their partners.

Even though the elders do not fare better, in their perception of what love is. Many of them believe it is all about give- and –take, the rub my back, I rub your palm kind of love whereby you are expected to use what you have to get what you want.

Such even manifests in the political scene, where politicians expect to reap in thousand- fold every kobo they invested in the electioneering of their associates. This it is believed, contribute immensely to the improverishment of the nation. The worldly type of love, involves no commitment, while Jesus type of love, is unconditional, sacrificial, selfless and committed. Men and women should love in God`s way without expecting repayment.

The most of our complex emotional needs can be summarized as the need for love. Men and women each have six unique love needs, that are all equally important. Men primarily need trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement. Women primarily need caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and re-assurance.

Fulfilling a primary need is required before one is able fully to receive and appreciate the other kind of love. A man commonly makes the mistake of thinking that once he has met all of a woman’s primary love needs, and she feels happy, and secure, that she should know from then on that she is loved. The secret of empowering a man is never to try to change him, or improve him. The best way to help a man grow is to let go of trying to change him in any way. Just as communication is the most important element in a relationship, arguments can be the most destructive element.

What a gentleman should do and not do

A gentleman is one who is not solely concerned about himself, his opinion, and comfort. He is considerate, sensitive and respectful to everyone he meets, irrespective of their age, gender, or social status. Being a man does not make you a gentleman. What define a gentleman are the cumulative habits that have formed his character.

– A gentleman should not treat women shabbily. Real gentlemen understand that everyone is equal before God. Whether male and female. He also understands that women are of the fairer sex, who are not as priviledge in society as men are, so he gives them respect. This does not mean he bows or worship them; but he understands their disadvantages, and seek to compensate them. Even the Bible says, men should honour their wives, if they want their prayers answered. 1 Peter 3:7.

It is important to say that being a gentleman is not just about the bespoke suits made in the heart of London, the ability to knot ties in different ways; it’s also not about owning the latest car or being moneyed. Being a gentleman is mostly behavioral. Being a gentleman, just like being a lady or even a leader is not just about position or financial capability, we need to imbibe cultures that are acceptable everywhere. No doubt, it is almost impossible to know the etiquette that relates to every single culture on earth, however, if one understands the need to consider other people, it is likely that one may scale through any culture easily.

Looking at the specific things that a gentleman should not do, both in public and in private.

A gentleman should not shout at other people, irrespective of their social status. Come to think of it, shouting shows you are not in control of yourself and of the situation. Shouting is a little man’s way of expressing himself. A gentleman influences others by his charming courtesy.

– A gentleman does not condescend on anybody. The more cultured you are, the more accommodating you are with people. It is ordinary men who think the way to show they are made is to treat other people with disdain.

Proper gentlemen relate with everyone, making the effort to ensure each person they meet is treated with dignity and respect. If you have