Man 2 Man: A Way Free of Addictions and Troubling Thoughts

By Luckey Doolin

Society seems to be an effeminizing enemy of manhood these days. Every man faces things that he may find out to be a trap! Luckey draws from life experiences and talks truthfully about the topics that he feels will help men be free and honorable.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Aug 12, 2013
• ISBN: 9781483678559

Luckey Doolin

Doolin speaks openly about men’s sexual desires and addresses many topics that men just do not talk about. Motivated by watching young teens making big mistakes; Luckey calls for men to be aware and confident as they mature and seek life goals that are best.

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Copyright © 2013 by Luckey Doolin.

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Contents

1.   Opening

2.   You have become…

3.   Gettin out

4.   Battles

5.   Tempted Again

6.   In and Out. The Argument Against Argument.

7.   Menopausal Rant

8.   Woman Inept

9.   Loving Someone Who

Does Not Love You Back.

10.   The Getaway

11.   Leadership

12.   The Plight of the Tough Guy

13.   Senior Moments

14.   Young Lad

15.   I am Alone

16.   When you can not stop, try walking by Faith

17.   Honour—That’s Honor for those who spell it in American.

18.   Breaking the Devils Tools

19.   The Techniques

20.   Un-forgiveness

21.   Accountability—The Men’s Recovery Group

Epilogue

1. Opening

We think that we can pull back and get free rather than incur the wrath of God. But the over whelming evidence is that the long lasting repercussions will be with us for a long time anyway. Even after a heartfelt repentance. Visual imagery is with me still from the days of my youth. Did Christ forgive me and set me free? The Bible says that any man that Christ sets free is free indeed. So why do I still readily imagine the pages of things I viewed in my teen years? Why do my buddies that have had affairs still deal with guilt watching the destruction that they caused in peoples lives?

This is a stain that will be with me for some time unless I focus on it and pray regularly to Christ for its removal. Christ once freed a demon from a man. The disciples were amazed because they had tried to free this man without success. Christ responded that some demons are harder than others. Some can not just be commanded out. He left the disciples with some training on what to do in those cases.

I would say that my readers have already experienced the short term rewards of porn use. Then, when they tried to slow it down, they were victims of the usual triggers that brought them right back into it. Some have had a brief affair. Cheating an oath to gain the satisfaction of an un-met need left us dry. I too have experienced this. Other types of addictions are similar in this nature. They are shackles of bondage. And God has urged me to write on a subject that few men would explore with a buddy. Guys just do not seek help or confess this. This is the kind of thing that we privately consumed. And now, I must obey my calling and give testimony from the wisdom imparted to me. My wish is to obey God and extend a word of caution to men who may be affected similarly. I want to correctly convey God’s position on this. Indeed the Bible is clear on this that my words are going to be judged and me according to my words.

I am Biblically charged to not bear false witness. So I will tell the absolute truth so help me God. I will pass on God’s word from the Bible inviting you the reader to see for yourself. Look up the scriptures and meditate on them as I have. God wants us to be loving, kind and caring beings. He will bless our marriages. He hates divorce and says so in his word. Realizing the strain of discovery in my own home, I wish to reach out to other men and provide hope for a happy life in alignment for God’s will. And of course, a life blessed by God’s joy in you; free from the curses that will surely destroy those who fail to know and obey God. I will not hide a thing from you as you read. May God find a way to enter and dwell in your heart. Open the door. Time is not in great supply and God’s harvest is at hand.

2. You have become…

You have become involved in some level of viewing porn. Perhaps you have had an affair outside the marriage. The reason that you are reading this is because you are curious about some things. You may be wondering how it goes for others. Or what’s going on with you. You may desire some understanding. You may be getting a spiritual call to slow down. Or flee. Your buddies may not understand or offer help. They may be giving you bad advice anyway. At any rate, I know as author that few will write down their true thoughts on this. The profits in the bible left out details when they approached this subject and for good reason. I will give more on this later. Even so, God help me tell the truth candidly and in a way that would empower men to get good definition for their life plan. May it give the resolve to see it through. You may think that God would never forgive you. You are wrong. There are some things to think through and action is required of you. I have taken this path and it is my desire if not my calling to openly expose some of my journey to you the reader in order to tell God’s truth about my experience. In doing so in a way that most would not, I hope the reader can get a perspective, and spend some time mentally talking to God. In doing so, maybe a reader could get some healing, some forgiveness, stronger manhood, and an invitation to a happier sexual life. It is a need. I have not been able to stop doing what God created me to do. There is joy in his blessing. Sexual activity is blessed and intended by God. There are however some lines that we should define. And once I defined my lines, as a veteran of abusing my boundaries; I found it hard to pull back inside them. It takes technique, fasting and prayer to conquer. Not everything is easy in this life. Sin has its pleasures and in combination with lies, like Adam we go places that end up hurting our self worth and control. We suffer a lesser joy attempting to over-reach what is natural and best. If you are there or going there wondering how much more there is to discover, stop. Like exploring a cave or a mine; there is no value in discovering a dangerous hole in the ground. People will tell you that it will kill you. You will doubt it because as it just sits there, there is no evidence that the cave will cause you harm. Yet, the potential is fully there. Like porn lures you in; the cave invites you deeper to satisfy you on a new level. The affair seems delightful, promising of love. You and I do not need to discover it. We could walk away, yet we don’t. Why?

Are you still reading for deep understanding? It is time for a blessing then. One blessing I received was the knowledge that I am able to summon the strength to live out the rest of my life without any other sexual stimulus. Yes, it’s true. I will not become so horny that my donor would just stand up on its own at the least little rub of my pants. I have a desire to satisfy my need but I have control to great extent over it. Because my mind is a battlefield, I must resolve to manage the battle there to insure a victory. If some form of addiction were affecting you, would you test it by trying to stop. If you can stop for a month then you may not have been addicted to it. But you failed to stop, right? Me too. I realized that this pleasure had some type of hold on me. That’s why they are called vices. I forgive myself for wondering into this cave. You should too. There were real reasons for your curiosity. Many were not your fault. You knew what a cave was before you entered it to see if it were a cave indeed. And it was. Yet, there is no reason to venture further. In viewing a web page I noticed the clever way that topics of interest are alphabetized for quick access. Wow, convenient porn sources. One topic hit my curiosity. I was almost ready to click when my conscience prompted me to know that this was a deeper level of evil. I knew that if I went there that a more serious level of sin would stain me. I decided not to view it. The temptation arises now and then as the devil attacks me at my own curious weakness. God help me never to go there. Thank You Lord. I have gone enough places as it is. Chances are that you have not been to the bottom either. No, I won’t bet you. On the other hand, if you didn’t want some control back in your life, you wouldn’t still be reading. This is open honest dialog from a brother who has taken a walk down into the cave. I did not resist and now the stain of sin is thick upon me. That is reason enough to continue fighting the curious temptation of seeing XXXX doing XXXXXX. No, I won’t give the devil the satisfaction of making you curious about it too. If I almost went in there and there is every reason for you to avoid it, so why mention it specifically. Sixty percent according to studies of pastoral staff now reflect some level of participation in viewing porn. If the noble and honorable among us could fall, so can I. Once it’s in my mind, it’s another hook. It’s a hook that can pull me in later. The fewer things you have viewed, the easier it is to leave. It’s just like being deeper in that cave. A journey out must take place. More prayer and encouragement is needed. Yet, in this case, so few would admit the practice or feel comfortable in discussing it. So who will lead you out? I am convicted to write out the story of my own journey in order to encourage others who would not reach out. There will be those who remain secret in their practice for fear of loss. By making a public confession, some may lose more than dignity. There are family relationships and political ones. Some careers may be changed if all came to light. So for those, I write boldly hoping that my own loss will not occur. I consider it a reasonable atonement for my own sin to write for the Lord Jesus and be his loving call to examine, and renew minds.

Well, back to the images of long lasting danger. God wants our heart. I am thinking of him now. I pray thanks for this day. I speak of my love for him and his word. I pray that only truth and hope flow onto this page and that Jesus himself inspire every word.

It’s time to divulge the nature of our graphic minds. It was said in my psych studies that women dream in colour and men dream in black and white. Maybe that’s why that singer sang about Kodachrome! The women they sang about were so vivid to them. What an improvement. My mind is capable of recalling so very many images that I have seen. The danger that porn does to us has to do with the ease in which it is recalled. God gave us memory to help us survive repeats of danger and to glory in the image of our young spouse as we grow old. My memories of dating my wife are good ones. It’s the glue that holds us together. That joy can be rekindled by remembering. So can my porn images. So can affairs.

The images many of us are exposed to can be summoned quickly. I think everyone remembers the burning blimp Hindenburg falling from the sky right? You can replay that sequence at will. So can I replay my wife on our wedding day. If I continue to search for it, I can replay some of my favorite porn episodes. You too, right? So you will need some encouragements here.

It is possible for me to replay the sound and visual to the TV shows I watched. I watched enough of TV shows to be able to create my own episode in my imagination. Now then, if I want it to go away, I should refrain from that, right? And if I don’t dwell on it, I will eventually stop bringing it back to mind. That means that once you would turn away from anything, including your favorite variety of porn; you would eventually stop worrying about it. God blesses the obedient. As I stop dwelling on subjects that hold the triggers to my porn interests, God blesses me and leads me to new pastures. God held me accountable for my sins