How to Be a Man

By Harold D. Edmunds

How to Be a Man is a self-help guide for men. It speaks to men giving them advice on love, divorce, childrearing, and dress and grooming. It offers sound advice on many subjects such as dating and premarital sex. This book will help men to improve their lives by giving them simple but very important suggestions that will improve the quality of their lives.
Many men grew up without a father in their home. This book is geared toward such men who may not have been taught the valuable life lessons that only a father can share.
The book addresses many subjects that affect men today. Men have to get an education. How can men succeed in school? Many men are unemployed? How can they find and keep a job? What is the appropriate attire for a job interview?
So many people are getting into driving accidents. How can a man avoid getting in to such accidents?
How to Be a Man also gives tips on cooking, cleaning, and the proper etiquette. Is it okay to eat before your dinner guests? How can you save money when you are on a tight budget? How can you maintain good credit and repair damaged credit? How can you earn the respect of others? How can you assert yourself when disrespected? How can you get a woman to notice you? Is it okay to have sex on the first date? What is the proper way to put on a condom? How can you find the right woman? What is the best way to handle a divorce?
How to Be a Man touches on many of these topics and more. Read How to Be a Man so that you can be the best man that you can be.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jul 16, 2013
• ISBN: 9781483660172

Harold D. Edmunds

Harold D. Edmunds is a fan of classic, urban, and action films. He watches several movies each week and loves to write film reviews in his spare time. Edmunds loves to study Black history and read biographies. Fred Williamson: An American Hero is the first biography that he has authored. This is his first collaboration with the talented illustrator Ansel Pitcairn. He also enjoys watching Fred Williamson’s exciting action films. He is happily married and lives in New York City with his beautiful wife and son. Edmunds enjoys educating others through the printed word and is currently working on his next book. He has an associate’s degree from TCI College and a bachelor’s degree in professional studies from St. Francis College.

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Contents

Introduction

1 Babies And Women

2 Attitude And Roles

3 Education

4 Work

5 Driving

6 Cooking

7 Cleaning

8 Proper Etiquette

9 Dress And Grooming

10 Style

11 Money

12 Credit

13 Respect

14 Assertiveness And Self-Defense

15 Exercise

16 Dating

17 Romance

18 Sex

19 Morals And Family

20 Things To Avoid

21 Problems And Myths

Acknowledgments

Glossary

Book Description

Authors Biography

To my beautiful wife,

Verlene Mary Audrey Edmunds,

My mother and father Zulene Edmunds,

My amazing children, Harold Darius Edmunds the Second,

Lauryn Angel White, and Jonathan Denzel Edmunds,

And all of the Men out there who take care of their children.

INTRODUCTION

I grew up in Brooklyn, New York, without a father in my home. I never had a proper example of a father. My own father decided that he didn’t want to be a part of my life. He came to see me many times when I was an infant, but he never made an effort to be a part of my adult life. My mother knew that he was a bad example, so she kept me away from him. She never talked about him probably because my dad was a womanizer. I didn’t have a father at home. I grew up looking at my mom as a mother and a father. I tried my best to imitate my mother and to listen to her rules and regulations (Exodus 20:12; Proverbs 1:8-9). Years later when I was in my twenties, I met my father. I was excited about meeting him. However, we never developed a lasting bond. The whole experience was rather disappointing. I remember the day that I first met my father. My first wife and I got all dressed up, and we went over to his house. By this time my dad was married. We walked into my dad’s house and sat on the couch. My dad lived less than a mile away from my mother’s apartment, yet I hadn’t seen him in over twenty years. I found this to be shocking. After a few tense moments, my dad walked into the living room. He was a tall, light-skinned man. He was about six two just like me. His hair was slightly gray. Oh no, he was losing his hair a little. That was a bad sign. Eventually, I also began to lose my hair. He had a little potbelly. I was very slim at the time, so I figured that I’d gain a little weight when I got older. My dad had been drinking, and he was a little tipsy. He was so stressed out that he had to have a few drinks before he met me. We made some small talk and promised to keep in touch. We never did. When we did talk on the phone, all he wanted to do was talk about my mother. He was still in love with my mother after all those years! He was more interested in spending time with my mother than getting to know his own son. How disappointing!

I vowed to be a great father when I became a parent. I wanted to be a better father than my own father. I’d never neglect my children. Some fathers are nowhere around during the early years of a child. They may meet their child later on when they are older and try to develop a relationship with them. Sometimes the father may try to make up for lost time. No such luck with my dad. He didn’t have too much to say. I had to look elsewhere for a father figure.

It is sad that today so many men grow up without a father in their home. That starts a negative cycle of young men growing up in single parent households. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, a third of all American children are growing up without their biological father (Census.gov). Men growing up in single parent households are at a disadvantage. They have a mother who they may love dearly, but where is their father? Many mothers have to be a mother and a father to their sons. A young man needs his father to show him how to be a man (Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:20). There are so many men in America and around the world who are growing up without a father in their homes. Many of these young men are out of control. They need direction. Who is going to put them in their place once they grow taller than their mother and decide to do what they want? Who is going to guide them? Who will show them how to be a man? Many men without a father receive an education in the streets. They may join a gang in order to feel like they are tough. They may begin to abuse women because they don’t know how to treat a woman properly. They may dress inappropriately because no one told them not to have their pants hanging down to their knees. These misguided youth may turn to crime because they want a quick buck and they don’t want to go to school. They don’t have a father around to tell them repeatedly to go to school, get their degrees, and make something of themselves. They don’t have a man around to set the example of how a young man should behave (Proverbs 22:6).

My mother raised four children by herself. She worked hard every day and supported the four of us. She did an excellent job. My mother was a mother and a father to me. She was my role model (Ephesians 6:1-3). I looked around for a positive male role model. My uncles set a good example. Most of them were happily married and had their own homes and cars. From their example, I saw firsthand that if you work hard, you can be successful. You can have your own home a car and raise a happy family. I wanted that life for myself. I noticed that my mother and my single uncles did not have a home and a car or two. I could see how much harder it is to buy a home and survive in general if you are doing everything by yourself. Getting a good job and finding the right partner seemed to be very important. All of my uncles were hard workers with good jobs. I learned from them that it is important to earn a decent wage in order to survive. A man has to work in order to provide for his family (1 Timothy 5:8).

My favorite male role model was Bill Cosby’s Dr. Heathcliff Cliff Huxtable. I watched The Cosby Show to learn how a father should act. I loved The Cosby Show. Since I didn’t have a father, I adopted Dr. Huxtable as my father. I watched him very closely and vowed to myself that I’d be a good man just like he was. I’ve seen every episode of The Cosby Show. I studied the behavior of Dr. Cliff Huxtable. I wanted to be like him. I wanted the good job and the beautiful wife and children. I also wanted the nice home and car. I loved the fact that they had an abundance of supportive family and friends. That is so rare in today’s society. He was a very educated man. He provided for his family. He loved his wife and children. He was a good example, and he did not cheat on his wife. Many people said that The Cosby Show was unrealistic. The idea of a successful African American family was too much for many people to handle. There are many families out there that have two working, loving parents. It’s just that we hardly hear about them. Was The Cosby Show unrealistic? Are there really successful African American men out there? Of course there are! They are spread out all over the country. If you follow the guidelines in my book, you will learn exactly what you have to do in order to be a real man, a successful man.

I grew up watching The Cosby Show. Eventually, I got married and had a family of my own. I wanted to have a happy marriage similar to the Huxtable family. However, my first marriage ended in divorce. Nevertheless, I wanted to set a good example for my son even though we didn’t live in the same household. I’ll touch on this topic in the chapter called Morals and Family. Many good men are divorced or not with the mother of their child. Under these circumstances, it is still possible to set an example for your child. Men have to set a positive example for their children. Young men need a strong male to mold them. Young women need a man to show them love and to show them how a man is supposed to treat a woman. A strong man can have a positive effect on his family. When a man takes care of his wife and children, he is really helping his family to be healthy and happy. When a strong responsible man is taking care of his family, the family will fare better because they have his support. Supporting your family well is the difference between being a man and acting like a boy. A man will take care of his family whereas an immature boy will run away from his responsibilities.

Many single mothers do not have a man around to set a positive example for their children. When this is the case, single women have to let their young male children talk to the responsible men in their lives. It may be an older brother or uncle. Any respected, responsible man who is a trusted friend of the family can fill in as a male role model. This is necessary when there is no husband around to set a positive example for the young man of the house. I know that many men grow up without a father figure. I wanted to write this book so that all the young men out there who are fatherless could have some kind of template for what it means to be a man. Who teaches young men how to be a man? Usually it is their father. However, it’s hard to find a complete family nowadays. Many women raise their families by themselves. Hopefully, this book will help many young men as they try to figure out just what it means to be a man.

Believe it or not, the ultimate guide on how to be a man is the Bible. The Bible contains the words of wisdom from Jehovah God (Psalms 83:18) that tells us how to behave. I will refer to Bible scriptures to support many of my key points on how a man should behave. You can benefit from this information whether or not you believe in the Bible. All scriptures quoted in this book are taken from the New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures (2 Timothy 3:16). In this book I do not advocate premarital sex or the worship of anyone other than the true God Jehovah. However, I understand that everyone has different viewpoints and I have provided advice for everyone regardless of their beliefs. This book will give you many helpful guidelines on how to be a man. I hope that you enjoy it. I want you to be the best man that you can be. You owe it to yourself and your family to be the best responsible, mature man that you can be (Psalms 1:1-6).

Chapter 1

Babies And Women

BABIES

In order to understand what a man is, we must understand what a man is not. In this world, we have men, women, and children. They all behave very differently. We are going to talk about women and babies. We are also going to examine the behavior of men, women, and babies. A man does not behave like a baby or a woman. They each behave differently. Men should behave in a masculine manner. Unfortunately, today there are many men walking around behaving like women. There are men out there who exhibit childish or feminine behavior. Some men even want to be women. You don’t want to be one of those men. I want you to be the best man that you can be. A man doesn’t act like a child or a woman. He is mature and masculine.

What are a few of the characteristics of a baby, and how do they behave? Babies cannot take care of themselves. Can you imagine not being able to take care of yourself, always relying on someone else to cater to your every need? Babies have to rely on their parents or some other caretaker. They cannot feed themselves. They cannot use the bathroom by themselves. They cannot groom themselves, and they cannot dress themselves. Babies cannot provide for themselves. They need twenty-four-hour supervision. They are very fragile, and they can hurt themselves. They cannot do much without the assistance of their caretakers. Babies are helpless and are totally dependent on their parents for food, shelter, and clothing.

Unfortunately, there are men out there who are very immature. They may physically look like a man, but they behave like children. There are healthy, adult men out there who are totally dependent on their parents for food, clothing, and shelter. You don’t want to behave like that. Why do some men behave like children? There are many reasons. Often young men grow up without a strong father figure in their lives, and they don’t have someone to show them how to act like a man. This book will give you guidelines on how to behave like a man. Let’s list some of the traits of a baby. These are traits that no man should have.

Here is a list of some of the traits of a baby.

1. Babies cry when they need help.

2. They cannot cook or feed themselves.

3. They cannot dress and groom themselves.

4. Babies are totally dependent on their caretakers.

5. Babies cannot work or provide for themselves financially.

WOMEN

Men are different than women. Women usually are physically weaker than men. There are many women who are physically strong. We have many women bodybuilders out there. However, most men are physically stronger than women. (1 Peter 3:7) Women tend to be very emotional. They are in touch with their emotions and are usually great at taking care of children because of their caring nature. Women usually are great at rearing children. They may wear makeup on their faces. Women often excel at cooking and cleaning. Women wear dresses and clothes that accentuate their femininity. Women also walk in a sexy way. They often switch when they walk. They place an extra emphasis on the sway of their hips when they walk down the street.

Women are the weaker sex, yet they are able to bear children. This takes great strength. They can carry a life inside of them. That is a blessing. I love women. They are beautiful and sexy. Many women are go-getters. They go to school, get a good education, and enter the business world. They can get good jobs and become successful. We need more men to do the same thing. There are many women out there who act more like a man than some men do. That is unfortunate and hopefully more men will MAN UP and act like responsible men.

Here is a list of some of the traits of a woman.

1. Women usually wear makeup.

2. A woman can give birth to a child.

3. Women may have a feminine or soft voice.

4. Women tend to be great at rearing children.

5. Many women excel at cooking and cleaning.

6. Women are usually weaker than men physically.

7. Women tend to be very emotional and sensitive.

8. A woman’s body is shapely and has many curves.

9. Women often have a sexy walk and switch when they walk.

10. Women have their own clothing and wear dresses and heels.

MEN

There is a difference between a man and a baby or a woman. A man can take care of himself. Unlike a baby, he can provide for himself. We will elaborate more on this in chapter 4 where I give tips on how to be successful at work. Being a good provider, a man has enough money to pay his rent and buy food so that he can eat healthy and have a decent place to live. He does not need his parents or anyone else to take care of himself. Men are independent unlike a child who is totally dependent on his caregivers. We are masculine whereas women are feminine. In this chapter we will discuss several masculine traits that all men must master.

An infant’s every need is usually catered to by one of his parents, usually his mother. As a young man grows up he becomes less and less dependent on his parents. Eventually a young man will get a job and leave his parents home. A mature adult male should be able to take care of himself. However, there are many healthy men in their thirties who are still living with their mother. These men may have an unhealthy dependency on their mother. They have to earn a decent wage and move out. You should not rely on your mother or anyone else once you have finished college. A responsible man will get his own apartment and learn how to live on his own. Many men move out of their mother’s home when they finish high school. They may go away to a college and live in a dorm, or they may get their own apartment and continue their education in a trade school or college. Some parents may allow their children to stay home until they graduate from college. Each family is different. Let’s review several basic masculine traits that all men must master.

Men have a manly voice. Some men just naturally have a deep voice. Barry White or Morgan Freeman may come to your mind. Other men like me just don’t have a naturally deep voice. It is important for a man to have a deep, commanding voice. If your voice is not that deep, you should practice projecting a deep voice. You’ll need that voice whenever you have to assert yourself. Your voice should not sound feminine. If necessary, read the paper or the Bible out loud for a half hour every day. This will help you to strengthen your vocal muscles. You don’t want to have a voice that is too low. If you have a low voice, you will appear to be weak and feminine even though you don’t want to project that image. Try to talk in a loud and clear voice at all times.

Men are not overly emotional. We have feelings. We just don’t break down and cry in public the way a woman may. Men tend to hold in their feelings more. That’s not to say that a man cannot show any emotion. It is okay to express your feelings. You don’t have to hide them or become rude and insensitive. It’s unhealthy to hold in your emotions. You should always find a healthy way to express yourself. It is a myth that a man cannot cry or show their emotions. We can show our emotions. Men just do not go around crying whenever they feel sad. When I see a good movie and it touches my heart, I have been known to cry. We don’t have to be cold, heartless creatures. We have feelings, and it is okay to show them. We just don’t let our emotions get the best of us.

Men walk in a manly way. Their walk should never be confused with a females strut. If you don’t know what a manly walk is, just take a look at John Travolta’s strut in the beginning of the film Saturday Night Fever or look at Samuel L. Jackson’s strut in the beginning of his Shaft film. Your gait should show your strength. Your walk should show the power and confidence that you possess within. A man should not switch his hips like a woman. You should have a manly walk that says, Don’t mess with me. I am a man. I am too cool and too strong to be threatened or intimidated. Your walk should say all of these things. Your walk should show that you are confident in yourself. It should show that you are a strong man.

Men do not wear women’s makeup. Can you imagine a man wearing lipstick and eye shadow? This is unacceptable. Drag queens wear makeup when they perform. A man doesn’t wear makeup. Eyeliner, eye shadow, and lipstick are inappropriate for men. Women wear makeup to look more attractive for themselves and for men. Men do not wear makeup in order to look like women. However, they may wear small amounts of makeup for health or cosmetic reasons. I wear Chap Stick to protect my lips from getting chapped. There are many kinds of lip balm that will protect your lips from getting chapped. You never want to have chapped lips. This is not healthy for your lips and no woman wants to be kissed by some hard, chapped lips. I also moisturize my face and hands with cocoa butter every day. You should moisturize your face every day before you go outside. This makes my skin look good. Find a lotion that works for you. Put on lotion every day to protect and moisturize your skin.

Men do not wear dresses or any clothing that is designed for a woman. That is just not how men behave. A man doesn’t wear any clothes that are designed for a woman. That would not be manly. Could you imagine a man walking down in the street in a dress? He would be a laughingstock. I’m talking about what’s acceptable in America. In certain countries, men do wear garments that look like dresses. However, this is part of their culture. In America men wear pants, and women wear pants, skirts, and dresses. Outside of Western cultures, men’s clothing may include kilts and dress like garments. The kilt is a garment that is knee length, with pleats in the rear. Men in Scotland may be seen wearing a kilt. In India men may wear long dress like garments. These garments are rooted in tradition. In America only women wear skirts and dresses (Deuteronomy 22:5).

Let’s talk about colors. There are certain colors a man wouldn’t want to wear too much. Colors like hot pink are very feminine. You have to be careful. You never want to wear something that makes you look feminine. If you are not a very masculine-looking man, you might want to avoid hot pink and bright yellow outfits. Wear masculine clothes that make you look good.

A man knows how to dress and groom himself. He doesn’t need his mother, girlfriend, or anyone else to help him pick out his clothes. Can you imagine being in your twenties and your mother is still picking out your clothes and telling you what to wear? This is unacceptable. A baby doesn’t know how to pick out his clothes. A man knows how to dress. Men do not need someone to pick out their clothes for them. At first, it will take you some time to develop your own sense of style. You can always go to different clothing stores and try on a variety of outfits. Think about what style flatters you. What clothes make you look good? The first time you go shopping for yourself, you may make a few bad choices. Eventually, you will develop a style that suits you.

Make sure that your grooming is always impeccable. Maintain your hair and nails. Always make sure that you look presentable before you walk out that door. When you dress and groom yourself well, you show the world that you care about yourself. You should always look your best. We will talk more about this in chapter 9 on Dress and Grooming.

A man can cook for himself. Hey, Mom, what’s for dinner? This is something a young child or a teenager might say to their mother. Can you picture a thirty-year-old unemployed man asking his mom, What’s for dinner? I love to eat. I buy and cook my own food. I don’t have to rely on my mother or my wife to cook for me. A man can provide for himself. He knows how to cook a meal. A small child on the other hand has to be spoon fed. A caretaker has to prepare and heat up an infant’s food. However, a man can prepare his own food. It is important that you learn how to cook for yourself. When you want something to eat, you should be able to walk into the kitchen and prepare anything that you want to eat. You should never have to rely on anyone to cook you something to eat. I want you to practice cooking your favorite meals until you learn how to cook them well. We will talk more about cooking in chapter 6.

Men protect themselves and their family. Men are the protectors. We protect women and children from harm. When there is a problem, we try to solve it. When we were little when in danger, we may have screamed out Mommy, help me! A grown man knows how to defend himself from harm. Women can also defend themselves. However, it is a man’s job to protect his family. Always protect yourself and your loved ones from harm. Men do not behave as a weakling. If you feel weak, try to work out. Join a gym and get a personal trainer. A personal trainer will help you to define your muscles and stay in shape. If you cannot afford to do that, you can always buy some weights and work out in your home. I recommend that you develop an exercise schedule and work out every day. It is important to stay in shape. We will talk more about this in chapter 15 where I give you tips on how to stay in shape. A man has to be strong mentally and emotionally as well. We will discuss this in chapter 2 which talks about a man’s attitude and role in the family. Men always protect their family from harm. This is an important part of manhood.

A man can provide for himself financially, and he has his own place! Often when you see a small child, he is being attended to by his loving mother. A mother will do anything for her child. She changes the diapers and makes sure that her baby is well fed. Sadly, this pampering often continues until the child is now a man in his thirties and forties. Today, this is a big problem with some men. They stay in their parents’ homes way too long. A young man should move out when he finishes high school or college. A man does not freeload off of his parents. A man can take care of himself. Men have to work. At first, you may not be able to get a high-paying job. Work hard until you can get a job with a higher salary and good benefits. It is very important that a man works and has a steady source of income. In this book, I will outline the steps that a man has to take to be successful at work.

Get a good education, work hard, and save your money. Often when a man does not get a good education, he is unable to find a good job with health benefits. A quality education is important. A man must become independent of his parents. You have to take care of yourself, and you have to provide for yourself financially. When you are young, your family teaches you how to take care of yourself. They teach you how to cook, clean, and budget your money. All of this training is preparation for the day you will move out on your own. This is an important step in a man’s life.

Unfortunately, some young men are not taught how to take care of themselves. Therefore, they are not prepared to move out on their own. This book is for such young men. I will go over many points that will prepare you for adulthood. Moving out and getting your own place shows that you are mature enough to take care of yourself. Living on your own will not be easy. First, you will have to earn a salary that will help you take care of yourself. You will have to make sacrifices and work hard. Don’t worry—you will be fine. Living on your own helps you to build character. You will learn the importance of keeping a job, and you’ll learn how to save and budget your money.

I moved out of my mother’s apartment when I got married at the age of twenty-two. After my marriage failed, I returned to my mother’s home. In time, I got a good job working at the Stony Brook library in Stony Brook, New York. Soon afterwards I rented a studio apartment and moved out. Eventually, I was laid off and had to move back in to my mother’s house. It wasn’t easy for me. I had to come back home because I couldn’t afford to pay my rent. After a few months, I got a room. Rooms cost less to rent than apartments. I paid $125 a week. I lived in my room for a year or two and then I remarried. After about a year, we moved into a studio. A year later, we moved into a one-bedroom apartment. It was easier for me to pay my rent when I had a good woman to help me with expenses. However, if you can pay your rent by yourself, that’s great. Unfortunately, in some cities rent is getting higher and higher. This makes it difficult for a single man to afford an apartment. Single men can get a male roommate if they are having a hard time putting together enough money to pay rent. A man should not live with a female partner unless they are married (1 Thessalonians 4:3). If you need to get a roommate, look for someone who is responsible. It should be someone who you can get along with. I had a roommate once. He was very messy and I couldn’t wait to move out. Never get a roommate who is a slob. Make sure that they have good hygiene.

A man needs to venture out on his own. It is not good to be over thirty years old and still living with your mom. If your mom has good health and can pay her rent, it is time to move on. Many men may stay with their family until they finish high school or college. You and your family will discuss when you should move out. It varies in each family. When you move out, you will begin to enjoy single life. You will start making more decisions for yourself. You won’t have to live by your parents’ rules anymore. You will make your own rules based on your knowledge and experience. This is part of your natural progression into adulthood.

I want to speak to the men who feel that it is okay to just stay in your mother’s house and let her go to work while you play video games all day and try to sneak girls into her house at night. That is ridiculous! A mature man has to stand on his own two feet. He will not freeload off his parents or his girlfriend. The struggle of earning a living and providing for yourself will build your character. This is a defining characteristic of a man. A man can provide for himself financially. He does not rely on anyone to provide for his financial needs. A small infant cannot take care of himself. A man can take care of himself. It is important to go to school. Once you finish trade school or college, you can find a good job and get your own place. We will talk more about this in chapter 4.

A man doesn’t act like a woman or child. A man is mature, and he can take care of himself. Carefully, read over the points that I have listed and if you see an area where you need to improve make the necessary changes. When you find your weakness, focus on it until it becomes one of your strengths. We all have something to work on. We have to carefully go over these points because today many men do not know how to behave like a man. Many men are confused about what it means to be a man because they do not have father at home to set the example. I will explain and outline many of the traits that all men must possess. I hope that the information that I have compiled is helpful to you. Let’s review the few points that we have just covered.

Manly Traits

1. Men are independent.

2. Men have a masculine voice.

3. Men walk in a manly manner.

4. Men are not overly emotional.

5. Men do not wear women’s makeup.

6. Men do not wear women’s clothing.

7. A man can protect himself and his family.

8. A man can take care of himself financially.

9. A man knows how to dress and groom himself.

10. A man will never rely on anyone to give him a place to live.

Behavioral Issues and Definitions

I want to briefly discuss here several issues that affect men. I have listed several definitions. Many men are confused about their sexuality, and as a result, there are many terms that explain the different feelings and conduct of different men. I won’t be able to discuss all of the many deviant sexual habits that some men have, but I will discuss several of the main ones. I want you to consider God’s view on these various forms of conduct. Take a look at these terms. As you read over them ask yourself if these terms apply to you. Ask yourself which behaviors are suitable for men and which are not.

Anatomy—The physical characteristics of the body, often used in reference to a specific sex. An anatomical male has a penis and testicles. People whose anatomy does not match their gender identity are called transgender.

Asexual—An asexual person has a lack of feelings toward men and women. They have no interest or desire for sex. This can be the result of a disability or some other condition. This is not normal. If a person feels this way, they may need to seek counseling (Genesis 2:18).

Biological sex—The sex someone is born as. This can also be referred to as the physical sex.

Bisexuality—Bisexuals have a desire to engage in sexual activity with both men and women. This behavior is abnormal. It reflects a greed for sexual gratification. A man should only be intimate with a woman, preferably