After the Gavel: The Abc's of Happiness After Divorce

By Dr. Gilbert A. Smith and Turkessa L. Lee

After the Gavel: The ABCs of Happiness After Divorce is a powerful book designed to provide readers with practical ways of coping and healing from divorce.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Feb 25, 2013
• ISBN: 9781479798216

Dr. Gilbert A. Smith

Turkessa L. Lee has been a social worker for over 14 years. She received her bachelor’s and master’s degrees in social work from Norfolk State University in Norfolk, Va. Turkessa currently resides in Pleasantville, N.J. with her two daughters. In her spare time, she is a blogger, visionary, business consultant, and motivational speaker. She also writes Internet-based articles on divorce and relationships.

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Copyright © 2013 by Turkessa L. Lee.

Library of Congress Control Number: 2013903258

ISBN: Hardcover 978-1-4797-9820-9

Softcover 978-1-4797-9819-3

Ebook 978-1-4797-9821-6

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Rev. date: 02/22/2013

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Contents

Acknowledgements

Foreword

Introduction

A Note From The Author

Ask for what you want

Believe you are worthy of love

Count your blessings in the midst of trouble

Determine victory in advance

Examine your intentions of dating right away

Forgive yourself and others

Give cheerfully

Heal from old wounds

Ignore anyone who is not in alignment with the new parts of your life

Joyfully celebrate the great relationships of others

Kick start your new life with one small step at a time

Learn to be present in your life

Make yourself a priority on your To Do list

Narrate your own life story

Open yourself up to new experiences

Position yourself around people who are supportive

Quarantine your negative thoughts

Relax and take some time to be alone with you

Show pride in your appearance

Trust the red flags

Unkind words about your ex are unnecessary

Voice your concerns when you are bothered by something

Write in a journal

X out failed dating endeavors and regroup

Yearn to be better than the day before

Zealously approach your next chapter

Power Words

The ABC’s of Happiness After Divorce

DEDICATION

To all those who feel alone in their pain,

know those feelings will slowly dissolve.

Our souls have met the sun another day.

Yes, we have persevered.

Divorcing is not the end of our story.

It simply means a chapter of our life is finished.

Our life book is still filled with lots of blank pages

for us to fill in.

We have the ink to write the rest of our life story.

A new beginning awaits . . .

Acknowledgements

Dear Beloveds,

The day has arrived! I have finally put my thoughts onto paper and created the first of many books to come.

I want to take this time to say thank you, and I love you all for every single contribution you have made to my life. I appreciate each of you. I love you all very differently and none of you duplicate the unique gifts each of you have given me. My life is very rich and full, thanks to you. Your support and listening ears have helped me to the place where I am right now. I have an all-star cast in my life and I pride myself on being worthy of having such royalty in my circle. I thank God I finally know I deserve love, am worthy of love, and am open to receive all the love I can stand from each of you.

Phoenix and Cheyenne, my dear daughters, I love you and thank you for showing me how to love unconditionally. I also thank you for your forgiveness during the times I was