Life Derailed: A Divorced Mom's Survival Guide

By LATACHIA MORRISSETTE

Are you recently divorced with kids?
Are you still hurt, angry and confused?
Learning how to cope and adjust to your new life can be a long and difficult process.Transition is challenging, you do not have to do this alone.
Are you seeking a way to heal? Do want to stop the tears, the anger and focus on moving on?
If you are seeking a way to talk with your kids about the divorce, time at dads and dating? Are you needing some tips on how to navigate as a single mom then this book is for you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Trafford Publishing
• Release date: Dec 16, 2011
• ISBN: 9781466901995

LATACHIA MORRISSETTE

Latachia is the founder of Single Savvy Mom, LLC and author of Single SavvyMom.com. Her passion is to educate and empower women. A divorced single mom herself, she knows a great deal about transition. How difficult it is and the "Must Haves and Do's " to get through it. Latachia has studied adult and childrens psychology and is currently speaking life into a situation that feels so much like death. Latachia promotes healing, self reflection and positive co-parenting, She writes for online journals and maintains support groups within her own city.

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CHAPTER 1

What single means

As one unit, alone, unmarried

I am not sure what your understanding is, but it is basic. To be single means many things such as: standing on itself, one item, a thing, person not joining with another. It seems basic and it should be. However, single followed by mother automatically turns into partner. Wait! I did not do this so don’t shoot the messenger.

Yes, I know they slipped it in somewhere, and I am not sure where. Somewhere between I do and I don’t any longer there was an addendum to the contract that says If there are little people between the two parties you must remain in contact in a civil manner as a partner. Yikes! I know and this sucks. For you mainly, but also for the children. This addendum protects the interest of the children; they need you both even if dad made a lousy husband let’s hope he has the character to be a good father.

Many women often resort to holding the children hostage, projecting their pain and heartache on to them. Don’t let this be you. As women, the natural nurturer, we often feel we have to protect our children from this awful man. Let’s stop right here. There are some men who may not need or deserve access to their children. If there has been any abuse whatsoever that needs to be an issue that is not overlooked. Abuse includes alcohol or drug use, in addition to verbal, physical and sexual. In some of these cases dad may need supervised visits.

Let’s talk about the majority. Most men, sane and of their right mind, need to interact with their children as often as possible. This is important to the development of the child. Many people say that children who come from broken homes do not excel, and I would like to disagree. You can still raise a successful, well-balanced child after a divorce. There are many women and men who can stand behind this. However, children that are victims to a broken heart seldom recover completely and often have many setbacks. What am I talking about? Well, when children lose one or both parents it ignites a grief that cannot be explained. When children grow up in a dysfunctional, unhappy home where the parents don’t like each other, much less love each other, it causes damage as well. When a child is told something and the parent does not follow through, for example, the cancelling of a play date or weekend time with the other parent, the wounds will leave scars for a lifetime. This is what I mean by a broken